My Story

I am 28 years old.  For 7 years I worked in a bar and learned the art of flirting and being the center of attention.  Now without even being aware of it, I constantly need to be the center of attention.  I can't walk through a store without looking to see whos looking at me.  My boyfriend is a loner and cannot stand the attention that I bring to myself.  I cannot seem to stop no matter how hard I try.  I also feel like my job was making people feel comfortable to approach me.  And I always had to be looking at people in case they needed anything.  I just cannot seem to drop the act.  Its ruining my relationship!  If anyone can help me I would really appreciate it. 

roganay roganay
26-30
2 Responses Mar 20, 2009

I totally understand what your talking about. i dont know what it is about me but I always need sexual attention from others even though my husband is amazing. Its as though my self worth depends on it. If people dont think Im attractive then i feel invisible. Yuck! Its definately a giant factor in why me and my husband are now separated and I am desparately trying to figure out how to stop this. <br />
I dont have any good advice for you yet, but im hoping its like quiting any bad habit- that it takes time, dedication, and patience. In my case I have to learn how to see myself and value myself in new ways. I'll keep an eye out for you and if i learn anything helpful Ill pass it along! Good luck

i used to deal with the same problems. i was with a guy who loooved me with all his heart but i couldnt help but to want attention from other guys. well i ended up cheating on him, and i lost him. <br />
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this man who had treated me like a queen, who would have laid down his life for me was gone and it was all because i wanted ATTENTION! <br />
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so after about a year and 5 months we are back together and my only motivation to not need attention like that anymore is because i relish any attention HE gives me.<br />
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so really, the only motivation i could say might help you, is to learn to TRULY fall in love with your spouse, and learn to really WANT his eyes on you, and no one elses<br />
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good luck!