Help Me Stop Drinking

I am a 38 year old female.  I have a wonderful husband and 12 year old daughter.  I drink every evening, sometimes up to 6 beers a night.  Most nights I don't get drunk, just relaxed.  No one seems to think I have a problem..... I just dont' want to do it all the time, but don't know how to stop.  I think it is habit!!  But how do you stop those habits!  I have read all the just stop and keep a journal and so on and so on.  I have stopped for several nights or a week, but I always seem to go back!  I don't know what to do.  My mind and heart tell me I need to stop, but I can't seem to get it together.   I never drink during the day, only at night.  Any ideas or suggestions would be great!

Thanks. 

fishermanswife fishermanswife
36-40, F
6 Responses Feb 19, 2010

We sound very similar. I am a 38 year old mother of 2 with a loving, caring husband too. I have a great life except we drink too much and argue bc Of it. Maybe we can work on this together. Jen

It sounds super cheesy but you need to have something to do every hour of every day. You cannot have booze around you and you need to get on a schedule. I am a 32yo female who is struggling - my blog is at iamthefaceofanaddict,org xo

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Two days after my arrival while waiting for my Father’s return I heard the most shocking news ever that my father was involved in a ghastly motor Accident which claimed lives. I found this hard to believe but it was true. I went to the hospital and saw him half dead. At this point I completely overwhelmed as I felt Gods love and mercy upon my soul, I then realized that if I had stayed I could have died in the Accident. I was crying because I wondered why God would show undeserved mercy to me who never gave him audience in my life. It was at this moment I saw the guilt of my sin: my fornication, telling lies, stealing, Fighting, using abusive words, anger, hatred, bitterness, malice, jealousy, greed and all my sinful indulgence etc. <br />
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I also love you dear reader , and I pray that you would also experience what i experienced, but the choice is yours , why not give him a chance in your life, why not let him in, and you would experience this peace , love and joy that this world can’t give. First start by confessing your sins, Then accept Jesus as lord and Personal Savior, and promise him you won’t go back to your sinful ways, don’t worry if you are sincere He would give you the grace not to go back to sinful indulgence. All this is done by closing your eyes and saying a few prayers then you would experience what I am talking about. I love you because the love of God Flows from my heart to you. Thank you and God bless you.

ive been to AA and it helped but the help didnt last. The only tihng that seems to help with me is thinking about the drama i go through when i drink. i get loud and obnoxious and just annoying. replacing alcohol with black coffee helps too, but i dont suggest u have 6 glasses a night lol.

This can get worse, affecting your health and your family. Have you thought about maybe visiting AA? Did wonders for me.

Alcohol is not easy to quit. Try slowly and have patient. You have about 6 beers every night, right? Then tomorrow night, I want you to have only 5 and no more than that. Remain that way for 3 or 2 weeks. And then move to 4 each night, then 3, and 2 ... until 1. At that time you'll see that you have made a big progress. Continue to decrease the beer cans / night rate (e.g. 1 can every 2 days) until you know that you can quit comfortably.<br />
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Hope you'll make it !