Never Ending...

It seems that our relationship has just gotten worse over the past few months. He HAS been saying this - I just finally realized. I am so miserable and depressed. My body hurts inside. I feel alone. I don't even know why we fight. It is always for the most ridiculous reasons. And then I am ignored for hours or the whole day. I really don't want to live like this anymore, but I don't know how to change it. I don't want to divorce him because I love him more than anything. But this fighting just has to stop. We always say we are going to change and we never ever do. He wants me to not question him - just say okay, agree with whatever he says and don't argue. I am not that type of person. I have always been this way. If I have a problem with something I am going to let you know. I am just tired of being treated like a child and being expected to act like a child who listens to their parent. idk... I just want to stop feeling this way.

MissThang420 MissThang420
18-21, F
3 Responses Mar 10, 2010

I am going through the same thing. I'm sorry you are having to live with this. The only thing I can suggest is for you to find something you can do (yoga class, gym, volunteering) that you can feel positive about because you don't want to be consumed by the negativity of your husband. He has issues and they don't have to become your issues.

hi..<br />
did u try talking to him when he's in a good mood? explain things to him? I know it's difficult to change who you are for his sake, but both sides should try to compromise.. I know what you must be feeling, cz i got married like 5 months ago, left my country with my husband, and when we fight or argue, i feel hopeless and lonely. But we have spoken about our issues, and learnt to compromise. We are more understanding about each other now. Try talking and explaining all what you feel..

Wow, I could have wrote this. I know exactly how you feel. Me and my husband fight All the time and about anything and everything. Unfortunatly for me I have two kids that see and hear it all. I left 2 weeks ago with the kids. It isn't what I wanted to do, it is what I felt I had to do for the kids. We trid marriage counseling (have you guys). It didn't go so well for us, we fought about what went on in there when we left. Maybe it could be different for your marriage. If you ever need to vent you can do so with me. It helps when someone knows what you are going through.