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May 15th, 2009
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am a very regretfull person, but maybe not in the way most people are. I don't regret any of the decisions I've made. What I mean when I say I want to stop regreting I mean I need to let go of the things I wanted to do in my past.
I regret that I didn't have any friends when I was a teenager.
I regret that I never got to go to a prom or graduation. (this is because my familly moved to Mexico when I was 14 from Canada. I did online schooling as the Mexican schools weren't recognized in Canada so if I went back for university I'd have to redo High school. One school was recognized but it was a private American school and too expensive for my parents. So it was unavoidable but still something I wish I had experienced, though I'm sure if I had it would have been disapointing!)
I regret meeting my husban when I was still young, I wish I met him when I was much older and have experienced living on my own.
I regret not going to university. This is not by choice but because I couldn't afford to. I'm still trying now, hopefully someday I'll be in the position to finally go.
I regret not having a proper wedding. I got married to my husban as I figured it would be easier to immigrate to the UK if we did. We've been living together since we met pretty much and were for all purposes married anyway, it was just a legal thing. We did it at a familly reunion as I figured if we ever did get married by familly won't come and this way I could do it in front of my whole family. My mum said she buy we a dress and then I started to get exicted and it went from just a quick legal meanless thing to suddenly thoughts of a dress, hair done, flowers, etc. My parents then said they would only put in $50 towards a dress as they seemed to think a dress shouldn't cost more than that. That was the dress gone, I ended up with a cheap crappy skirt that was kind of what I wanted and a corset I already had. I couldn't afford the flowers etc. My cousin was supposed to do my hair but wnet golfing that day instead so didn't have time. We did the whole ceremony thing but no one was really into it. I found the whole thing disapointing and now wish I hadn't done it.
I regret not having friends. I just never seem to be able to met people.
Those are my main regrets, not really anything too important I know. But I'm one of those people whose constantly thinking I wish I had done this or that. From now on I want to just do the things I want. I know the only one who can do anything about my life is myself!
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  | Posted May 15th, 2009 at 10:04AM i never regret things, I always feel I learn stuff from everything that happens even if it hurts its easier to let go that way.   |
 Feeling courageous | Posted May 29th, 2009 at 7:32AM dear londongothgirl i'm not sure i know what regrets are, i know irritation, dissatisfaction, but what's the stuff of regret? i know fear as well, but then the good news is in getting older you learn to accept imperfection, failure is a bit of a vaccine against disproportionate fear of ...failure! We're living in a society urging us to be young and fickle and sociable, but also putting the blame on us for not being an exceptionally gifted person, some genius different from the hoi polloi. So guilt seeps in and its worst effect is to paralyse us. Life can be tough but it is bearable when you know you're good at something. It may have been unintentional but your story about your wedding was a brilliant piece of irony. you've got an eye for that, your clear-sightedness is not just a damper, it could be a precious quality of yours. +2 nods |
 Feeling chipper | Posted May 29th, 2009 at 8:14AM Soursweet. I know what you mean about my wedding. It wasn't meant to be a 'proper' one but I got myself all excited about it when my mum got me all worked up. I guess what really bothered me more than that was that I actually never got a proper wedding. I wish we had married in the first few years together but we always wanted to save our money for school. In hindsight we never did go to school so we should have had a wedding. I never wanted anything too much and we could have done it for about $500. I didn't realize how funny that paragraph was till you pointed it out. I guess it's not so much regrets as life's disapointments. I remember not that long ago everything seemed possible and I never understood why people didn't do the things they wanted. As I'm getting older I realize that life comes with disapointments and that you can't always acheive everything you want, you need to move on and try for something else instead of holding on to it and letting it drag you down. Thank you for your comment and your compliment I've never been called clear-sighted before. +2 nods |
 | Posted Jun 2nd, 2009 at 5:06PM you are still young look forward , the tough times make us more appreciate the good times +2 nods |
 | Posted Oct 15th, 2009 at 6:36AM I think this way too. I regret missed opportunities, put off desires that still nag at me and regret waiting so long to do the same thing after all. And by that last one, I mean where you doubt and avoid doing something or getting something for so many years, and then eventually you realise that you just have to go ahead and go through with it to move on. And you do. And in retrospect it seems so simple, and a silly waste of time that you put the whole thing off for so long. Drives me crazy, but c'est le vie. |
Feeling chipper | Posted Oct 15th, 2009 at 6:50AM Thanks satman, though I feel really old. +2 nods |
Feeling chipper | Posted Oct 15th, 2009 at 6:55AM I sgree that it's best to just go out and do things anardun. +2 nods |
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