At Times I'm Desperate To Do This .. But I Find My Emotions Are Confusing

My feeling about this subject are rather dysfunctional & I wonder how many other men have similar feelings to me.

It all started when Straight **** started to become freely in the UK around the early 1990‘s.I got pretty hooked on looking at it but didn’t work out why for a while.

I was pretty shocked when I realised how much I was getting off on all the different shapes & sizes of erect ****. I just loved imagining how satisfying it was for a women sucking on one, wrapping your lips round the shaft & running over all the contours with your tongue.

At 1st I thought I might be gay & in denial but I found Gay & Bi-sexual male **** didn’t do a lot for me. I’ve also been looking for a man that I fancy for years & have never met one yet.

Later I discovered shemale videos & found I could also relate to their desires & imagine what they were experiencing in a similar way to the women. But cross dressing just makes me feel dumb. I’ve also tried to picture myself as a guy pleasuring a Shemale but this doesn’t do much for me either.

At most other times I feel perfectly comfortable being a man & it’s not at all like I’ve ended up in the wrong body or with the wrong gender.

Often when looking at **** or reading erotic stories I feel desperate to suck **** which is invariable based on what a women or a shemale is doing & not a man.

When I put myself in social situations where **** sucking is a possibility it somehow never feels like the right thing to do & I never seem to feel at all comfortable about being propositioned by other men or Trannys.
Mechanical Mechanical
56-60, M
6 Responses Jul 17, 2010

Yes, I don't know quite what it is about the male physique which doesn't do it for me either but lacking in feminine boobs & smooth skin are definitely important elements.<br />
Not having the right body contours, beards & stubble, stockyness,prominent jaw structure etc<br />
My interests in men are definitely confined to **** & ***.<br />
Human sexuality..complex & exciting ..I couldn't agree with you more Bibarefoot.

Wow, what a great thread. I'm reading a lot of things here that are on the same frequency with what I find sexy. I LOVE the site of a hard **** and I also have a *** fetish. However, I do not find men attractive. Men don't have the right curves and contours that a woman does. As others have stated, gay **** is a turn off. Bi **** is, too. MFM scenes are hot as holy hell. I have fantasies about watching my wife being ****** by another man and I have expressed them to her. Part of the fascination with it is getting to watch her, a sexual being, experience sex from a different point of view. A point of view that is somewhat disconnected because I'm not the one having sex with her, but it's also very intimate because she would be (hopefully) enjoying the experience and I could experience it with her. The ultimate experience would be to see her having sex with another man bareback where he **** inside of her. I don't care to "clean" her afterwards but it would be very hot to have sex with her afterwards. I think it would be even hotter if he was the one getting sloppy-seconds - ******* her while she is slippery with my ***. None of my wifesharing fantasies involve doing anything with the other guy but I have fantasies about being alone with the guy and sucking his ****. I have NO desire to kiss or snuggle with a guy. The thought is a turn-off. My gay side seems to be tightly focused on **** and ***.<br />
Oh what a complex and exciting thing human sexuality is.

Thank you for putting together some really thoughtful replies which confirm I’m not alone with this dilemma.<br />
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I’ve heard psychologists say one of the things which sets Human Beings apart, & makes us so successful as a species, is the extent to which we are self conscious & adaptable.<br />
This faculty means, based on our own experiences, we can project ourselves & imagine how it might feel to be others in different circumstances.<br />
It’s been argued this is at the route of our inventiveness, ability to lean by copying, desire to help others when we see suffering, & complex social co-operation for mutual benefit & pleasure.<br />
(it’s also said to lead to our more shadowy dealings like jealousy, trickery, treachery, exploitation, torture & coercion... to name just a few)<br />
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shibaricouple <br />
Perhaps it’s human nature to imagine ourselves crossing sexual boundaries. <br />
It probably helps us & out partners to have a better sex life.<br />
But it can lead to problems if we are consumed with desire to experience being on the other end of love making.<br />
We find ourselves challenging sexual taboos & are possibly drawn to things which our bodies weren’t designed to achieve.<br />
Also this boundary crossing tendency can lead to desires for experiences based on use of the sexual parts of anothers body when we are not drawn to them as a whole. <br />
I guess this helps to explain not only our personal desire to suck **** but also things like the prevalence of anal sex between gay men, the use of vibrators by lesbian couples & some types of casual sexual encounter. <br />
Unfortunately an explanation is not always a solution to our problems.<br />
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blerker & methusala <br />
One thing which certainly appeals to me when I watch bisexual **** is mmf scenes & being down there face to face with a woman & erect **** ..kissing sucking & licking together & taking turns.<br />
I think it would be particularly interesting if the women was somebody you loved & cared about. Don’t they say caring is sharing!!<br />
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GrandpaSmurf <br />
I can definitely relate to the idea of being clothed & not wanting the site of the rest of a mans body when performing oral sex on them.<br />
I find images of glory holes interesting for similar reasons. The image of erect **** & balls emerging through a hole on a partition & not having to look at the rest of the man body is appealing.Unfortunately, I’d be very worried about the health risks from casual sex with another man which seems to go hand in hand with this type of sexual practice. <br />
I also think these sentiments may connect to my fascination with shemales as a woman with an alternative set of sexual possibilities. Feminine breasts & smooth skin seem to help with making it seem alright to be aroused where as masculinity doesn’t do for me.<br />
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All, More replies are very welcome,

Wow, you fellows have hit it right on the head. Although I find nothing wrong with hugging a male relative in greeting, there is no way I want to kiss another man.<br />
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I have seen enough of them naked at the gym and that doesn't do a thing for me.<br />
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My first marriage was very boring with a wife who would only do man on top, face to face sex. After I got over the breakup, and began looking elsewhere, I was amazed by the number of women who actually seemed to ENJOY sucking me. There wasn't another woman who didn't do it. Boy, what I missed for 5 years.<br />
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Last year, I began wondering what it was like. I even have dreams of sucking a nice hard member. Size wouldn't be important, as long as I didn't have to go into anything further than that. I really do want to try it. Who knows, it might open up a brand new world of enjoyable bliss. <br />
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Strange that I would do it only with both being clothed, but feel I would have no problem licking all over his **** and balls. And I truly believe that I would like to take his full load and even swallow it. I am very curious as to the taste and consistancy of ***. Tried eating some of my own, but could not quite go thru with it.<br />
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If anyone else feels the same way and is near the Toronto, Ontario, Canada area, let me know, maybe we can chat and take it from there. From chatting on here, it seems there are a lot more men out there with this desire.

hmm. very insightful indeed. for me, nothing compares to a woman. I am not attracted to guys, but have those urges to suck **** every now and then. I don't know what it is either. I don't consider myself gay. gay **** does nothing for me. in fact, it turns me off. bi **** is a different story. I guess its more because there is a woman in the mix. maybe its because we are taught from early on that its supposed to be m/f and not m/m or f/f and subconsciously we see it as wrong. who knows.....

Wow, that was insightful and articulate. I haven't thought much about it all like that but now you put it that way, it's almost exactly how I feel. I have absolutely no attraction to men and sex with my wife is awesome. It's that other thing, the curiosity and wonder of sucking **** that intrigues me too.