Would You Take A Second Chance If Offered?

Ok - without going into all the gory details...

I was in a friend/emotional relationship with someone for over a year but I never told her how I felt because I didn't want to scare her away, so I played the dutiful friend. A couple of months ago, she decided to move out of state to start a new life - she had family in this other place (almost 1000 miles away) and wanted to return there. It was a fairly short transition and we never got the chance to get back together before she left so I never told her. She said she'd stay in touch, but I know how that works and thought I had lost the chance. I haven't heard from her since she moved.

Two weeks ago, fate intervened - I received an invitation to my grad school reunion occurring in a few months, which is a few hours drive from where she now lives. It would be very easy for me to go out a day early and make the drive to see her and I believe she would welcome my visit.

So the question is this: if, after you blew it the first time around, fate gives you a second chance to tell someone how you feel about them, would you take it? And would it matter if you know going in that it is unlikely that you will ever see them again afterwards?

My sense of it is that it is always the right thing to do to tell someone how you feel because you never know what the future has in store, but I'm wondering what others think...
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3 Responses Jul 20, 2010

Closure is important; however, I like bjb's statement about when someone doesn't get their way it's usually for a good reason and oftentimes a new door opens up which can lead you to even more happiness! Well I added a little but it's the same thought process.

I think you have a wonderful attitude about it - I wish you the best! (I was going to say "the best of luck" but "luck" has nothing to do with it.)

Go for it. If Fate gives you another chance, I'd say it's Meant to Be. With that said, beware that what is "meant to be" may not be what YOU'RE hoping is meant to be. Meaning, there's a reason you're given the opportunity to express your true feelings, for whatever reason... Just be open to whatever that reason is. Too many times, when people are disappointed that something didn't go the way they wanted it to, they fail to see the open door right in front of them.