A Moment Of Life
Posted November 3rd, 2010 at 4:33PM
My kids are growing so fast...it seems they know so much more of the world than I did as a child...and that is sadder than you might think, for I knew far too much. I never truly knew that I had a bad childhood, while I was in it. I knew it was harsh and brutal, I just didn't know that it wasn't common. I appreciate that, now that I have grown. I can't say that I would love to go back and start over but there are moments here and there that I wish I could relive just to truly implant that memory on my brain so I would never have a hazy recollection of it. There was one time when I was living with my grandparents in Yucatan (find that on a map, hah) They ran a boat dock and a bait shop. I was allowed to catch the minnows, affectionately known as minners, and get the worms, show the customers to the dock, help them work the coke machine (the kind that had 6 1/2 oz glass bottles inside that got colder than anything on earth), little things like that, but I must tell you they were some of my happiest days. My hair was long and in pig tails, my feet were usually bare, my shorts were cut offs and my hands were dirty...but I wore a smile and had a sense of belonging that I don't usually feel anymore.
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At that time in your life, you were experiencing what it means to feel loved, protected and a child with no worries.
Carefree days of childhood! I long for them too sometimes. I like to "wake myself up" by imagining what it was like for my parents at that time. Couldn't have been easy. Lots of kids, lots of responsibilities for them. Someone had to "hunker down" and be the adults. -
You're right someone did have to. Someone still has to. Not to long ago, I looked up and realized it was me. Wow. The world should be afraid.
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Hi Girlmcgirly. It's good to see a fellow Louisianian on here. I grew up in the southwest corner of the state myself. -
I get those moments, too, when there are parts of my childhood I would like to return to. Overall, no, I wouldn't. There was a lot of heartache and issues going on. But not all of it. Moments with best friends and school, some times with family, too. Despite everything, I was loved while growing up. That feeling of having to be an adult has been with me for too long, though. I think I finally settled into it about fifteen years ago.
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First, is that the little prince in your icon? Not that it matters, that's just what struck me when I first saw it.
I was loved when I was growing up, just not by everyone that should have loved me. It's been a long life of understanding that not everyone is going to love me. Not everyone that acts like they love me in the daylight will really love me in the dark. It's just life and I'm just living it.
Thank you so much for taking time to stop by, read and leave a few words. -
Childhood memories are some of the strangest ever. Some things so clear and vivid, and others dreamlike and vague. And I marvel at how we can gloss over the bad parts of it in our heads. They are horrific, but we push past them like we push past the taste of brussels sprouts or how long that car trip was. We remember the glory of childhood instead of the hard parts. Sometimes I wish I could find a way to do that as an adult...gloss over the sad times and focus on the happy ones.
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My icon is not the little prince. Sorry. It's a character from a 1980s cartoon Dungeons and Dragons. My main page video clip has some of that, and I think I've posted some pictures of those characters here, too.
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Oh Glowy, you've tapped it. The ability to do as an adult what we did as a child. I think we had to do it as children because for the most part we had no other choice and as an adult we know we have the ability to do something different with our lives.
You're the one that noticed the skim on some of the things I write here...and you're right. Some things have to have that skim on them because if you remove it then you sincerely can't gloss over it.
Those good childhood memories though...they are the thing that bubbles up in you and remind you how to be happy and I am thankful to have some of those. -
And it all boils down to choices and responsibility...
The skim...yes. You have that thin veil. A buffer? I try to let things be what they are. Accept how they changed me - for better or worse - and embrace them. Move with them instead of against them. Happiness is a choice too, maybe we were just better at finding it as children. -
Thanks to all of you for your comments and insights. I think growing up in the boonies is a privilege more people should get to enjoy.
I know both of your children are lucky to have you two as parents. You will teach them to be who they are and unashamed. -
*proud boonies dweller*
I haven't smashed the snake eggs. But I have seen a lot of snakes killed. Does that count? -
I haven't smashed the eggs...but I killed a grown one by myself....surely all these things count. They just make me the coolest...HEHE
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Thanks, CMM. Nice to see you 'round here.
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what part of louisana
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Up and down the eastern side from top to bottom.
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Thank you for your story. I could picture you and your pigtails and your smile. I had the same pigtails and smile when I was a girl. I was a city girl, but my grandparents lived in a small town, and my grandfather had land out in the boonies. He had a farm, where he grew the most amazing vegetables. No one had trouble getting us to eat his vegetables. And he had a cow. My cousins and my brother and I would spend the day helping him on his farm or feeding the cow. Sometimes the cow would have a calf with her. Or we would just roam free and make up games. We would have a picnic lunch. And then mid afternoon, when it got too hot, we would leave. He would take us to the store on the way home that had one of those coke machines that you described. And you are right - colder than anything on earth. I think that's what brought the memory back for me. Thank you. It was a good memory to relive. :)
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Oh Mary, I love that memory...it almost mirrors dozens of my very own. Thank you so much for commenting and sharing that with me.
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Thank you, Demetrie, I hope to.
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Thank you for posting your story! I can relate to not knowing that your childhood is bad while living it because my childhood was like that as well and I didn't know it.
I just can't put it into words how we as parents have such a great responsiblity to our children to nurture them with positive words of encouragement and love. As a teenager I told myself that I would never be too proud to tell my kids that I was sorry if I did something that hurt their feelings or was wrong. To this day, I think that was the best advice I could have followed, because it gave them worth and it showed them they were important to me. And, yes they do grow up way to fast. -
Thank you for sharing you story. I enjoyed you story and it reminded me of almost different world.
I was wondering what is it about living like that made you happy. I vaguely can understand but not clearly. You mentioned "sense of belonging". Do you think if you had that now as back then you'll be happy? -
Thank you for your story.
One of the beautiful things about EP is the way people pitch a tale, and, girlmcgirly, you tell them like few can- then others pick it up, like an old school yearbook and fill in the gaps. Then people like me - never been to the USA, come along and - snapshot. Dust and dreams, bare feet and minnows. Makes you want to come back time and again.
Long live life.
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Thank you Hawk, that was as nice a comment as I've ever gotten. Thank you for taking the time to leave it. Hmm, I'm smiling a little now...feeling all good, thanks!
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OMG!!!
I almost started tearing up, reading this. I remember those days fondly. I grew up in Livingston Parish. We were dirt poor, but, at that time, i didn't think I was lacking anything. I remember walking up and down the road, collecting coke and pepsi bottles to return for the deposit. I loved those 61/2 oz bottles. They were the perfect size, and if you wanted to add peanuts, you stepped up to the 10 oz.
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Oh, daddyd0690, I'm SO glad you enjoyed it. I love those memories. So sweet...no matter what else was going on in the world, there was a small place for happiness of this nature. I hope we never forget what that was like or to take part in it again.
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You are a wonderful writer girlygirl
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Thank you so much, Tas...that means a lot. A whole lot coming from you. :)
You are so right about that sense of belonging....I wish I always had it with me....it fades in and out, if that makes any sense. -
Lovely piece of writing girly, as usual. It's odd isn't it? ... but when our parents are around it's as if we are shielded by a generational la
yer of grown-upness ... we can somehow defer to them as being the elders of the group and huddle feeling sheltered behind them ... but once our parents are gone (as mine are) it's time to step forward and form that grown up la yer ourselves and we are no longer protected from the world in quite the same way. It's somewhat scary when you think about it, when we form that icing on the cake and there's no hiding place. -
Beautifully said, WiB! Thank you for reading and commenting. :)
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I think it is good to feel that longing sometimes. I still go back a good bit. Have lots of left over family and friends there, thank goodness.
Go back...visit, breathe it again, I'm sure it would love to have you back even for a minute.
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I like this post - I like the story. I acually enjoyed my childhood even though we didn't have a lot of money, we got by and had food, heat, and a few of life's pleasures. My father was a hard working factory laborer and my mom would would small, part time jobs when we were in school. I would not have changed anything. I seem to each day think about my past and where I have come from. I actually miss it - times were much simpler, people were nicer and our small farm was a wonderful place to be up on that old 40 acre sandy hill. We would go swimming at my grandparents house which was 4 miles away - we would go there often. I had some good friends that I grew up with. Our neighbors were very good people. I remember many of the sunsets and sunrises there - it was a very beautiful place to grow up. We played in the fields and rode bike down the dirt roads (no traffic). We would hike in the woods. It was so nice ! It was if we were already in heaven !
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I remember playing in the court yard when I was a child it was fun when the old people didn't threaten to contact the police because you were having fun playing with your friends in the courtyard. We weren't children of trouble but just being children and some people can't handle that ..... I loved the green lawn on my feet and playing football and soccer and ba
seball. Whatever we did it was fun I miss some of those days
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