Sure But Unsure

Hope you wife goes through with it,we started her making love to other men less than a year after

Our marriage

It has been fabulous for both of us

Letting your wife have sex with another man is like pass plays in football; lots of bad things can happen but when executed successfully, the results can be huge!



My wife and I have done this more than once. It is absolutely conflicting and can be very difficult to handle. But when you discover that she isn't leaving you for someone else and that it turns BOTH of you on to no end, THEN and only then does it become worth the angst! It can be very, very hot when she comes in the your room smelling of sex afterwards!

Make sure you keep easing forward. It is the horniest experience you can imagine. I got there after a long time by 'accidentally' meeting someone at a bar. It was a set up. I found the guy on line, met him and made the arrangement to take my wife to a bar. He flirted with her there. When he went to the men's room I told her the flirting was turning me on and that this was an example of a situation we talked about so often in the bedroom. Later that evening she agreed to have me invite him over, and 'just see what happens'. Well, it happened! And, it was horny as hell!

I'd be happy to 'bump into' you and your wife sometime, if you do the same for me....

Like you I am not sure if I am married to the fantasy. I've discussed this with my wife and have told her she has a "get out of jail free card". I'd probably freak out if she actually went with it though. The thought of it happening does drive me wild though! These emotions are so conflicting!

If you are both happy with the bedroom talk, then just enjoy that. You can step up the fantasy aspect in many ways before you can be really sure you want the reality. So take it slowly and enjoy what you have.

I agree with brook8. Be patient, but persistent. Your wife may feel 'moral' issues about it or that you would not continue to love her if she did **** another man or men. Reassure her, tell her you would love her no matter what she did.



Remember, reality and fantasy are two different things.

Welcome to the club. It's a fantasy more common than most men are willing to admit. I've had it for years and several years ago I mentioned it to my wife. It was no surprise to me that she would find it insulting, but after slowly convincing her that it was a big turn on for me she agreed to role-play. I do not believe that she will ever go through with it; it is not a fantasy she is willing so far to fulfill. I do not give up easy and have gotten her to sunbath nude and ********** while I am driving; things I know she would not have done. Be patient, do not pressure her, she may come around to fulfill your fantasy, or improvise by doing other things.

Good Luck, keep us posted.