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My Husband Has the Same Fantasy

My husband has talked about this for about two years, since I was 30 or perhaps a little before that.

I was irritated at first because I thought he wanted to use that as an excuse to date other women. I now realize that isn't the case, but it's difficult for me to understand why there wouldn't be some jealousy involved.

Only recently has this idea become intriguing to me but I still haven't made the final move.

Perhaps some of you guys with this turn of mind can enlighten me as to just what is going on in his brain. I don't want it to harm our marriage.

My husband is 12 years older than me, and we have been married for 8 years. He told me he first got the idea in a dream he had just after we married but didn't get around to telling me about it. He's had me read some cuckold and hot-wife site stories. I just haven't been able to get my head around it yet.

Sara

Arapal Arapal 31-35 58 Responses Sep 21, 2008

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I had the same fantasy that I shared with my ex wife. We would talk about it ehen we had sex. I noticed how excited she became everytime I would bring it up. We finally made it come true. It was amazing for all of us. For me, it was all about pleasing her, no jealousy, just pure pleasure.

Well, there may be some truth in what he says, and fascinates for ...

When some one loves u so much, he wants u to have the greatest charm of the world.

There is no jealousy involved.

I have similar feelings too ...

May be if u guys are ever in delhi, our families can meet.

The problem I believe was his approach on this subject. I am myself trying to approach this fantasy with my wife. Key word fantasy. I don't really want to act out but am looking to re ignite sex life. Look when two people who first meet its rabbit, lust, heat, and new. So when you have been together your comfortable. Look we know women fantasize it would be terrible if you didn't and wrong. For me it's a new level of trust and bonding for us. It's also not about being with other women. Guys are extremely visual and we love it. We also know at one time we were the "new" or "strange" and remember. So think about it he is wanting to watch your beautiful body and soul being pleasured. I hope by now we are secure enough to know that this is fantasy and it is normal why not try it. I am okay with using a toy or role playing its still you two. Dress provacative and let him pick you up. My wife has a fantasy about a co worker I know it. Our bedroom is safe so why not role play. It's not that I wouldn't be jealous if it was for real but its not and she is doing it anyway in bath.

He gets aroused by watching you get pleased by another man. If you can get pleased more by the other man better yet! The feeling of being beaten by another man is a weird arousal some of us men get. We also like this because we very much do want to please are women even if it means someone can do the job better. It's arousing to see our partners overloaded with excitement ;) you should go for it;)

I think a lot of wives would consider, this if they realised how 'Focused' their husbands get on them. My interest in other women dropped like a brick ! All I can think about is her.

So true !

It has come as a bit of a revelation to me , to find out just how many married guys have this fantasy. I thought I was weird. My wife thinks I am weird. I guess I come onto the category of wanting to 'compete' for my wife and wanting her to experience intense pleasure. I am lucky in so far as I have at least had a little taste of her being a Hotwife. Years ago she worked with a young man at a bar. He obviously fancied her and the feeling was mutual. They did not have full sex but enjoyed some intimacy.<br />
I have to say that , even though it was all harmless stuff, it was the most intoxicating time of my life in terms of sex. It made me want my wife more. I could not take her for granted because i had ' competition '<br />
The thing is . . . she admitted at the time that it turned her on a lot. The reason she is very negative towards this now , is that she also had an affair with an older man . This caused some friction and tension between us because he was trying to get her to leave me. I think all those negative things are bundled together with the times she enjoyed with the younger guy. She doesnt seem to make a distinction between them. They were very very different because she kept me informed about the young guy, but she blotted me out totally when she had the affair with the older guy. That really hurt , and the scars of that hurt lingered for many years.<br />
This can be intense fun , but only if the couple work together , with the boyfriend as an outsider. Communication is everything

I believe I fall into the categories 3 and 4 of what dcuckw2b has shared. I have no doubt that he wants to enhance his relationship with you and this may be one of the ways to do this.

Same here guys. I am happily married for the last 6 years now. I am deeply in love with my wife. Initially when we got married I was very possessive about her. I would get angry if her dress had a deep neck or if her cleavage was visible. My wife has lovely 38 B Breasts. Hence, although she kept it tight, sometimes due to the sheer size, her cleavage would be visible.<br />
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I would be extremely protective about her in the market and crowded places etc.<br />
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Now over the last 1 year, I don't know how it really started, but I think I used to read desi sex stories about men with other men's wives etc. I started to suddenly realise that these stories were really turning me on and were making me wild in my sexual fantasies.<br />
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I keep imagining a well endowed male ******* my wife real hard and making her groan and moan wildly and with intense pleasure. I now want her cleavage to be visible to men. I want her to wear transparent clothes etc<br />
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When I finally mustered the courage to tell her, she was very surprised and disappointed. She kept telling me how can I speak of her like this. She comes from a well bred & a very conservative family. She has good sex with me, but cannot believe that I have such fantasies. I want her to be very wild & open about sex. I want her to enjoy and chase her desires and fantasies. I want her to talk dirty. But she is too shy and doesn't like the thoughts.<br />
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She never tells me about her sexual desires at all saying that she doesn't have any.<br />
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She doesn't like to talk about stories where she is being ****** by other men. It really ****** her off. My relation with my wife is getting strained a bit. I really thought I was the only person in this world who had a such a crazy fantasy. It is heartening to see so many share a similar dream.<br />
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I am so horny with the thoughts nowadays. I want men to look at her lovely *** and desire her. Look at her breasts and want to suck them etc.<br />
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My wife keeps reminding me about how protective and strict I was with her. What has happened to me suddenly.<br />
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I don't know how to overcome my dilemma.

Very, very similar scenario. Scary similar!!!

I think it's because you were so "protective" for so long and you didn't make her understand where you realized that someone looking was a compliment. I guarantee she did not enjoy your over bearing behavior but loved you and rationalized to her self it was love for her not you being hurtful. So for years she trained her self it was love and all of a sudden you switched gears. Think about it what does that have to say to her. I bet even when you fought about it or took it to far you said " it's cause I love you so much.......," you also made her feel bad about herself when she got attention. So your first step should have been repairing the damaged you caused first. Then admitting and proving you were wrong. Then proving you still loved her. And after making relationship strong and having her know her natural desires weren't wrong. Slowly slowly ease into your feelings and recent findings about yourself. I believe your story is sincere but you should have done some research first like EP. Good luck and you don't have to turn it into reality. Focus on you 2 only. It takes a whole different level of trust and mind set for actual reality. And most people think they are capable. Even if you don't agree with the "hot wife" life style you should be envious of trust, love and communication level it takes to do that.

I agree with the others I just want to see my wife pleasured it would be such a turn on for me. But she doesn't get it. Sounds like you to are closer to it being real then we are? Good Luck. Please add me as a friend I would like to know how this turns out.

I've had this fantasy since before we were married almost 30 years ago. We've swapped and done group and 3sums. I love the thought of my wife bieng pleased. Even though I can please ehr to a certain extent, I like watching another man please her too. Sort of, seeing her from a different perspective.<br />
I've lately also been having fantqasies about being verbally humiliated. I know I'm not that well endowed, and due to a health issue it's even less so.<br />
I think I just want to see her pleasured. Simply ****** out of her mind to the point where she can't stand it any more.

Here's a thought...As menmove further away from their late teens, their peak years, they are less capable of performing. Their metal desire continues to be strong, but, the body, by nature ins't as capable. Whe they get past their 40's, they realize that a big part of their turn on was the satisfactio of their partner. In short, they live vicariously, see ing their partner gratified the way they would like to have done. Often, they will serve as finishers, or pick up when the other party leaves, having received the psychological stimulus of seeing their partner in the throes of passion.You can probably expect the requests to intensify. If you enjoy what he is asking you to do, you have a multi-win situation. No court will support adultery claims in a divorce court if he egged you on, and encouraged this behavior. While we have been socialized to live with monogamy, people are naturally beings of varying tastes who can love many different people for different reasons. In short, many women request that a husband be present when they do this so as to validate that they have been honest about it, and the man validates that he wanted it. Other women claim they won't do it, but will privately, so as not to acknowledge that they have, but continue to talk of true experiences while talking fantasies during passion. Have fun, my dear, and don't over-think it! The women I know who enjoy this most usually find themslves discussing three or four concurrent lovers of varying ages, filling different personal needs.

I am 61 and my wife is late 50's. I would very much like to have an MFM ********* with her and watch her take another man but am not into cuck and would be devistated if she cheated on my (which I know she would never do). We have talked about if for years and though she admits she would probably enjoy it she is reluctant. I had done this with girlfriends before I was married and both enjoyed it. As to why, I have no idea but to me it is no different than watching her take a ***** but more exciting.

I would go for it, but before you make a move be postive thats what he wants. You could rule the roost here. Lock him in a CB3000 so he can't get it up, this should torment him. Then have him find a<br />
guy for you and you set the **** size you want. Dress real sexy ,short skirt, transparent thong and no bra. Have dinner and drinks then bring him home and entertain him in your bed. After your done have hubby clean you up and your lover with his mouth.

Not that I have never fantasized about another woman or a woman from my past, but really< i love the idea of just watching my wife go down on another guy and having sex with him. She plays my game but only in fantasy. We've never really had another guy in our bed, and I'm pretty satisfied just having her ask for the other guy to **** her after I've performed oral sex on her.

steveo, I think you hit the nail on the head. You both have to be into it. As for me, i am and I've done it with another guy while my boyfriend at the time watched and i could see he was really, really into watching me get it on with another guy and it made our next sex even hotter than usual. I really think it's a great thing but if both don't agree then forcing it could be bad for the relationship. here's to the right couples coupling up :)

i have the same fantasy my wife wont do it which i respect her wishes i think is something you both have to be into. i once got her to invite her ex husband round and seduce him they kissed and played a round a little but stopped short of having full sex it just arouses me thinking of her with another man

sexyjoe28-have you ever tried it? If it's such a perversion why in genesis did Adam have both Lilith and Eve?

My wife and I have been married almost 40 years and are not very active because of a physical condition she has. But during those many years we tried MW/MW and MFM. By far the most satisfying were the MFM. Why do men like to see their wife with another man? I've thought about this a lot. There is a current academic theory that it is the male need to be the last one to inseminate the female. The other guy does your wife and then you do her. Supposedly this is the reason multiple male dogs try to inseminate the same female. I dunno about all that...<br />
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For me it was seeing my wife satisfied. Almost all women have a greater capacity to have sex long than men and to see my wife enjoy herself was wonderful. We love each other very much and never cheated on each other-the other one always knew if we had a solo experience.<br />
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And there is the intangible-other men find my wife attractive and that pleases me. With all the blogs, the Experience Project and other sex based sites, men and women are discussing what they have done or wanted to do for many years. Its a personal decision that only a couple can make together. Men don't own women and being jealous of them having sex with another man is outmoded thinking.

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You shouldn't feel bad about enjoying your wife with another man. as long as you are both into it and she obviously is. I could watch white women being screwed by big black studs all day, the color contrast is incredible, isn't it?

Thanks dcuckw2b. At this point it is purely a fantasy that manages to arouse me very much. I find it super hot imagining my wife being taken from behind. My wife has a nice big *** and when she bends over it drives me wild. I can see a big c**k pounding her from behind and it just drives me wild. I never in my life dreamed I would have such feelings, especially regarding my wife. I really did not know what to make of it. At first I felt I had some mental issues or something. But I am realizing it is more common than I thought. I still feel my wife is a bit weirded out by all this. I don't think she knows how to really deal with it. We'll see.

Welcome to the club just 4pleasure. In my caase I fantasise about my wife with a younger guy,she meets on the Internet. I think wives would be amazed to find out how many husbands have this fantasy. Take heart though. I chat to a guy in the UK whose wife said. . Never. She was then seduced by a younger man and now has 2 regular lovers. Her Cuckold says she loves the attention and agrees she should have tried years ago . Hope for us all I guess?

My wife and I have been married for 12 years now. I am 37 and she's 33. Early in our marriage, the thought of her being with another man would be enough to cause great rage. But now, I don't know what is going on. My wife has always been on the conservative side, sexually. For less than a year now I have been having this great desire for my wife to open up more, alot more, sexually. For me, it started with a dream of her having sex with another man. In my dream, I felt the jealousy and nervousness that comes with this, but at the same time, a huge amount of sexual arousal and pleasure. It was a feeling that is undescribable. I had a problem confessing this to her at first but decided to just go all out and confess these feelings. She has opened up quite a bit. The only problem is that I keep having these thoughts of my wife being with another man. I imagine a man with a big penis, I am average, just ravaging my wife, penetrating her with great sexual passion and seeing my wife being pleased like never before. I imagine her moaning loudly as she is getting pounded by big thick **** and she is just loving every minute of it. I have actually *********** to the thought of this and brings me to a powerful ******. I get the feeling that she thinks I'm alittle off in the head being that she has always been on the conservative side. Just recently, she received an email from an old friend of hers, who happens to be black. He stated that he saw her at the store one day and noticed she had a nice ***. He had not seen her in years. He confessed to my wife that when he was having sex with his girfriend he imagined he was doing my wife doggystyle. I admit that when I read this I felt a little bit jealous and kind of jittery but also felt very aroused just at the thought of her being sexual with her old friend. Again, just reading this guy telling my wife he fantazised he was screwing my wife made me horny. I didn't tell her but I ended up in the bathroom shooting a huge load at the thought. I also have this weird desire for her to follow up with this guy to flirt with him in a sexual way. I turns me on imagining my wife getting hot and horny while sending dirty sexual emails to another man. But my wife is too close minded for this. What the heck is going on with me. I don't know but if feels real good.<br />
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Anyway, I don't know why or how I got to this sexual stage. Maybe it is just a phase or maybe it's because my wife was not being the sexual ***** I want her to be in bed. It is good not know that I am not alone. At this point, it is only a fantasy. I would love for my wife to simply unleash her wild side and be honest about her sexual tendecies and feelings and share them with me for pure sexual pleasure. I want her to be my secret little ****. But I'm still feeling confused though.

My wife and I have been married for 12 years now. I am 37 and she's 33. Early in our marriage, the thought of her being with another man would be enough to cause great rage. But now, I don't know what is going on. My wife has always been on the conservative side, sexually. For less than a year now I have been having this great desire for my wife to open up more, alot more, sexually. For me, it started with a dream of her having sex with another man. In my dream, I felt the jealousy and nervousness that comes with this, but at the same time, a huge amount of sexual arousal and pleasure. It was a feeling that is undescribable. I had a problem confessing this to her at first but decided to just go all out and confess these feelings. She has opened up quite a bit. The only problem is that I keep having these thoughts of my wife being with another man. I imagine a man with a big penis, I am average, just ravaging my wife, penetrating her with great sexual passion and seeing my wife being pleased like never before. I imagine her moaning loudly as she is getting pounded by big thick **** and she is just loving every minute of it. I have actually *********** to the thought of this and brings me to a powerful ******. I get the feeling that she thinks I'm alittle off in the head being that she has always been on the conservative side. Just recently, she received an email from an old friend of hers, who happens to be black. He stated that he saw her at the store one day and noticed she had a nice ***. He had not seen her in years. He confessed to my wife that when he was having sex with his girfriend he imagined he was doing my wife doggystyle. I admit that when I read this I felt a little bit jealous and kind of jittery but also felt very aroused just at the thought of her being sexual with her old friend. Again, just reading this guy telling my wife he fantazised he was screwing my wife made me horny. I didn't tell her but I ended up in the bathroom shooting a huge load at the thought. I also have this weird desire for her to follow up with this guy to flirt with him in a sexual way. I turns me on imagining my wife getting hot and horny while sending dirty sexual emails to another man. But my wife is too close minded for this. What the heck is going on with me. I don't know but if feels real good.<br />
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Anyway, I don't know why or how I got to this sexual stage. Maybe it is just a phase or maybe it's because my wife was not being the sexual ***** I want her to be in bed. It is good not know that I am not alone. At this point, it is only a fantasy. I would love for my wife to simply unleash her wild side and be honest about her sexual tendecies and feelings and share them with me for pure sexual pleasure. I want her to be my secret little ****. But I'm still feeling confused though.

Sara, I understand how you feel because as a husband who enjoys this type of sexual play, I too had the same questions about myself. I've been with my wife for 20 years and we're both madly in love with one another. There are many factors to this that cannot be quickly answered, nor should they be categorized as 'weird' or 'abnormal'. Each individual has some things that are turn ons for them, which may not turn another person on, so I believe we must start at this point. The answer to your 'jealousy' question is simple, to me- he is totally secure in his relationship with you. The fact that he's turned on by you being pleasured by another man shows, not just his pleasure, but your's as well shows he's not interested in just 'getting off' for himself. If you are both secure in your marriage I advise you to take it slow, purge the negativity about this matter, and let things evolve naturally. If it happens, enjoy the moment and talk to one another after the fact with total honesty.

shiken. . . No i havnt . My wife would have no interest. She is not interested in Sex. However I have chatted to other guys whose wives have chatted on line with guys,mostly married ,so they were happy that it stayed on that level. It's the only way I can think of for a wife who may be willing to play out the fantasy ,from a distance.

Dcuckw2b...<br />
The online thing doesn't feel right. Have you tried it?

Sheiken. . . Have you tried asking your wife to just play at it from a safe distance ie Text flirting or even Web camming with guys from a site like AFF

Sheiken . . . You have articulated my thoughts exactly. I feel the same way. I want my wife to experience intense pleasure. I have no desire for humilliation. I see it as a gift to the one I love.

I have been fantasising about seeing my wife with another man. At first my desire surprised me, but I understand my desire better now. I love my wife, and I don’t want her to cheat on me. I don’t want her to have deep feelings for someone else. But love and pure sex are not the same thing. <br />
I love it when se is feeling really sexy and turned on. I would like to see her like that more often, and for her to have a stronger sex drive. I love watching her in sexy clothes, and during sex, I am probably what you call a voyeur. Thinking of her teasing me and someone else at the same time, doing everything she can to seduce us both, and being extremely aroused herself, is what turns me on. I would be proud to see some other man want to xxx her, and to satisfy her as I get to watch, or maybe join in. <br />
For me it is not about wanting to have sex with others, it is about her. It is not about wanting to be humiliated.<br />
We have talked about it, and she gets turned on by the fantasy. I would like to make it reality, but don’t know how it would be possible, and I doubt she would have the courage to go thru with it. Did any of you ladies make it happen, and how was your experience?

I have read quite alot on this issue, and this is the first post that basically hit the nail on the head for me. This is perfect explanation of how I feel as well. Thanks Sheiken!!!

I'm a white woman who loves black men. As to why your husband wants you to have sex with black guys and watch....I think the color contrast turns him on. I have a friend at work, an older white guy and we confide in each other and i told him when I started to date black men and he got very excited and said he used to try to get his wife to do it but she wouldn't. He then asked if i'd be willing to let him watch me and a black guy. I can be a bit of an exhibitionist but that seemed kind of weird so I said no and we're not such good friends. i guess he just has to watch interracial videos. so why did that turn him on? Not really sure but it's a fact that your husband is not alone. BTW, i fully recommend black guys...such a tremendous turn on.

How does your wife feel about you knowing and enjoying it? Can you not just get the two of them together again. Does he know that you know and approve?

This all is a turn on and encouragement for me. <br />
Years ago while they thought I was sleeping, my wife let my close friend seduce and make love to her on the couch in his cabin. I heard everything from her first, "No, I can't!", her gasp and grunt, to them making wild and passionate love. I heard her say, "Oh MY GOD!" as they both came hard.<br />
I was jealous at first, but then was turned on by hearing them and the thought of her getting his very thick 8 inches deep inside her, stretching her out, and shooting his *** into her love nest.<br />
I was so horny that I jacked off, shooting it into my face and onto my chest. When she finally came to bed, I kept nudging her over, hoping that she would go to bed with him. She stayed in bed with me. I had to wait for later days to know that they made love again. I even tape recorded one session, and it is a turn on listening to it.<br />
I am very glad that she made love to him, and even though it lasted only one summer, I know she fantasizes about him when we make love. She knows I want her to make love to him again.<br />
All of that has turned me into wanting to be cuckolded again and again.

We actually tried "swinging" for a while, but pretty soon this settled down to only her playing with guys and that's what worked best. Some guys, probably like your hubby and certainly me, are true cuckolds and have no interest in another woman joining the mix.<br />
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I prefer to watch.

Hi Lokinforthe right guy....You are a lucky guy. Even if your wife does not want to go as far as full on sex with another male,it is great that she will play with the fantasy and share it with you. You must have a good relationship if you can discuss these things and share them. I could never do that with my wife. She is far too straight laced and rigid about things. I honestly think that she would rather I had a 'bit on the side' than explore Hotwifing. <br />
I hope you BOTH enjoy the adventure ,and that it makes your mutual sexlife even more fun. Bear in mind that you will probably feel Jealousy as well as excitement. It would be good to hear of your progress.

i have the same fantasy> i love to watch my wife ********** and love hearing her get off. the thought of watching another man having his hands on her and watching him pleasure her would be heaven. i am secure in our relationship and i know that she is mine forever. now i would like for it to happen with a stranger to simplify things, as in no way for him to follow up at some time later. i need to find the right guy to accomplish this. my wife is a little hesitatant but has agreed to be approached at a dance club so i could watch her dance with another guy and after a few glasses of wine and after he has run his hand up her skirt finding silky thigh high stockings that she loves to wear, i am sure that if he plays it right things will progress further. she actually has a fantasy of being picked up by a stranger and it is triggered by a passionate kiss.

Neville, it turned me on to read your obviously true story.<br />
I am not sure how i would react afterwards, regret and jelousy probably, but during the encounter i would be as horny as hell and react just as you did

I wonder how Arapal is progressing. I think the first thing any wife should realise with this,is that it is a very common fantasy with married men. I used to feel guilty about it until I went on the web and found out how big it is. <br />
I have not been Cucked as such,but I have had the knowledge that my wife was flirting with other guys and I found it incredibly arousing. I also found myself getting jealous. I wanted to 'win my wife back', so to speak. I think there is a lot of that aspect in Cuckolding. The desire to compete for your wife again.

I am also married to my wife for about 9 yrs and from the day I met her I fantasised about having a mfm with her.B4 I got married I was involved a few times in mfm.<br />
After we got married I told her I love the thought of having a mfm together.We have fantasised for years since but never done it.Thge last year or so I met someone on the net from Sydney that is interested and along the way I have showed my wife.She doesnt say anything but gets extremerly turned on by it.I ask her but she says its just a fantasy.

It's a form of perversion. Your better of not going ahead with it.

Be warned , the day it happens will be a time you could not explain :<br />
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It was always my dream and i worked hard on it to become true but the day it start to happen is a feeling i hardly can explain. A very close friend of mine admitted that he would like to have sex with my wife. He was a very good dancers to cut the long story short he came the night over to tease her a couple of steps and also to try his luck with her.<br />
It was a very hot night in the summer and later he took of his shirt i join him and later he covinced her to take her top of. At the end we were all naked but she had only her panty on witch she refuse to take of. <br />
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This is were things started to turn funny , i sitting and watching them total naked dancing with a erected penis close to my wifes vagina and yes i know my wife and yes she is enjoying herself . I dont know if i was jealous , dislike of event but stil i had a erected penis and slowly playing with it. I was in two mind if i still wanted it to go on or should i stop it.<br />
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I decided to stop it . i went to them while they were stil dancing and i took her for a dance. I could cleary here that she could hardley breath and that made me very horny and i pushed my penis between her legs and we went into a slow dance. I said to her that i think that we should stop this and that i think that it has gone to far and that she are going to regret all this because in the back of my mind i thougt that i realy pushed her into this.<br />
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She agreed to this and after the dance she went to the toilett and i said to my friend that "she" said that we must stop it , he agreed and said that he wants to have a last dance with her. I knew if she cames back she will be dressed but said nothing to him. When she returned to my surprize she was still dressed with only her panty. He stood up and said that he wants a last dance with her as he must go home that the wife is waiting for him and they started to dance. I stood up and said that i wil get the last drinks for the night. <br />
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In my bar is a huge mirror and as i stood with my back to them i could see them in the mirror. He went down on his knees and started to kiss her over the panty on hir vagina, and i lost all controle , got so horny and sat on the bar chair facing them. She could see that i was watching them , he slowly pulled her panty down and she step out of it and they started to dance while i was drinking and playing with myself.<br />
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Not long , they went down on the mat and he started to **** her while she was lying with her legs wide open, She made noises that i never heard before and that made me more horny. The light in the room was on dim and i stood up and put it on bright, they were so bussy that they did not eeven noticed is.<br />
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That is when i noticed that he had a very thick and long penis and i was afraid that she would not be able to handle it but yes she knew it because she had it in her mouth. The moment he went to ly on top of her and she took his penis and guided it into her , he took it very slowly in and out and i could see the wetnis on his penis the dept it went in by that time i came for the second time.<br />
When he finnished with her i ****** her and then he ****** her again.<br />
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At the time she was 28 years old and i married her yes she was a virgin and this was the second man in her live having sex with her. a Lot of things has change in our married live to name some; If a man should flirt with her i was not jealouse rather a feather in my cap , I was never again jealouse if she dresses sexy, Wile we have sex we have fantasy and will name the person, we will admit when we have flirted ext.<br />
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Every time we have a fling like this the best of al is that horny jealous feely witch is undescriable. <br />
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Goodluck , dont be affraid but keep in account it wil be a funny feeling of horny and jealously those two combined you will not exspereance it in any other situation.<br />
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If it should happen please descibe me your feeling

Be warned , the day it happens will be a time you could not explain :<br />
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It was always my dream and i worked hard on it to become true but the day it start to happen is a feeling i hardly can explain. A very close friend of mine admitted that he would like to have sex with my wife. He was a very good dancers to cut the long story short he came the night over to tease her a couple of steps and also to try his luck with her.<br />
It was a very hot night in the summer and later he took of his shirt i join him and later he covinced her to take her top of. At the end we were all naked but she had only her panty on witch she refuse to take of. <br />
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This is were things started to turn funny , i sitting and watching them total naked dancing with a erected penis close to my wifes vagina and yes i know my wife and yes she is enjoying herself . I dont know if i was jealous , dislike of event but stil i had a erected penis and slowly playing with it. I was in two mind if i still wanted it to go on or should i stop it.<br />
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I decided to stop it . i went to them while they were stil dancing and i took her for a dance. I could cleary here that she could hardley breath and that made me very horny and i pushed my penis between her legs and we went into a slow dance. I said to her that i think that we should stop this and that i think that it has gone to far and that she are going to regret all this because in the back of my mind i thougt that i realy pushed her into this.<br />
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She agreed to this and after the dance she went to the toilett and i said to my friend that "she" said that we must stop it , he agreed and said that he wants to have a last dance with her. I knew if she cames back she will be dressed but said nothing to him. When she returned to my surprize she was still dressed with only her panty. He stood up and said that he wants a last dance with her as he must go home that the wife is waiting for him and they started to dance. I stood up and said that i wil get the last drinks for the night. <br />
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In my bar is a huge mirror and as i stood with my back to them i could see them in the mirror. He went down on his knees and started to kiss her over the panty on hir vagina, and i lost all controle , got so horny and sat on the bar chair facing them. She could see that i was watching them , he slowly pulled her panty down and she step out of it and they started to dance while i was drinking and playing with myself.<br />
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Not long , they went down on the mat and he started to **** her while she was lying with her legs wide open, She made noises that i never heard before and that made me more horny. The light in the room was on dim and i stood up and put it on bright, they were so bussy that they did not eeven noticed is.<br />
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That is when i noticed that he had a very thick and long penis and i was afraid that she would not be able to handle it but yes she knew it because she had it in her mouth. The moment he went to ly on top of her and she took his penis and guided it into her , he took it very slowly in and out and i could see the wetnis on his penis the dept it went in by that time i came for the second time.<br />
When he finnished with her i ****** her and then he ****** her again.<br />
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At the time she was 28 years old and i married her yes she was a virgin and this was the second man in her live having sex with her. a Lot of things has change in our married live to name some; If a man should flirt with her i was not jealouse rather a feather in my cap , I was never again jealouse if she dresses sexy, Wile we have sex we have fantasy and will name the person, we will admit when we have flirted ext.<br />
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Every time we have a fling like this the best of al is that horny jealous feely witch is undescriable. <br />
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Goodluck , dont be affraid but keep in account it wil be a funny feeling of horny and jealously those two combined you will not exspereance it in any other situation.<br />
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If it should happen please descibe me your feeling

if you were not intrested you would have not inquire on the topic. So yes be honest to yourself admit it to yourself and i know that it is the tuff side of it to admit it to yourself. Let your husband help you at the begining so when ever you want to pull out he wil be there and so you will know if you like it. Good luck , i say. you will never know unless you treid

I have always had a fantasy about watching my wife with another man. I just love watching her while I am inside her. Watching her writh in pleasure. I guess I feel that it would be wonderful watching her reaction as another man is inside her. There is nothing wrong with your husband wanting this.

I think the main thing is your husbands motivation. Lots of guys have that fantasy for various reasons.<br />
Some want to know you can do it and still love only them. <br />
Some just want to feel the pain/pleasure.<br />
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It can be a good think IF he wants to do it out of love for you. Loves so much he wants to see you pleasured...and hopefully you both know? that you trust and love enought that nothing can hurt you.<br />
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So...I think it requires alot more talk and understanding before your jump into it.<br />
If I can add any more, let me know

He really loves you. I wish that my wife would consider it. Every time I bring it up, she shuts down. The thing is, men are visual creatures. We are often attracted to women by their looks initially. SEEING you with someone allows him to enjoy your sexuality on a whole new level. It's one thing to watch **** with an attractive starlet, but a whole new dimension when its the person you find MOST attractive. Besides, there's the added bonus of being able to have sex with the star of the show. He wants to see you enjoy yourself completely, so don't hold back if you decide to do it.

He really loves you. I wish that my wife would consider it. Every time I bring it up, she shuts down. The thing is, men are visual creatures. We are often attracted to women by their looks initially. SEEING you with someone allows him to enjoy your sexuality on a whole new level. It's one thing to watch **** with an attractive starlet, but a whole new dimension when its the person you find MOST attractive. Besides, there's the added bonus of being able to have sex with the star of the show. He wants to see you enjoy yourself completely, so don't hold back if you decide to do it.

If your husband wanting you to do other men, it is not cheating & not love other men..just sex, it is sharing & better loving relationship in your marriage. Do a role playing with your husband and pretend sex with other man, asking your hubby if he like to see you get used, big manhoods than his, etc. to test his reaction & jealous or arouse. Dress really sexy, showing off lot of your legs, clevage, no bra, etc. out in public with your husband & see if he is really proud & enjoying men cat callings or sex comments. Have fun.

Being lucky enough to have enjoyed the company of 7 wives, my thoughts are that for some men, having other men pursue, desire and posses their wife adds to their sense of having something extra special! Not all but some. Bill in Va.

Hi again Arapal. are you any closer to understanding the Cuckold thing yet?

I too have had this fantasy about my wife. I'm not sure its connected with Mid life .Many husbands have fantasised this way from early on in their marriage. in my case I doubt if it will ever happen. I do chat to lots of Cuckolds and there seems to be 4 common motives 1) Sexual Humilliation,which for some guys is a very strong need. 2) the need to 'Win' their wife back after she's been with her lover. 3) Voyeurism ( I'm told it is far far better than the best ****) and 4) A genuine desire to see their wife enjoy intense pleasure. <br />
I am also told that even though a hubby want this ,he will experience jealousy when it happens for real. <br />
Most Hotwife couples I chat to, say this should never be done by any couple who do not have a loving ,stable relationship. <br />
Try reading erotic stories like those published in Literotica go to the Stories section ,then click on 'Loving Wives'. <br />
Perhaps dip your toe in the water by chatting or Camming with guys on Adultfriendfinder. <br />
good luck. I hope you enjoy whatever you Both decide to do.

there is an old ex<x>pression in the wife sharing world... You have to drag the wives into it, but it's harder to drag them back out.... My wife was reluctant, but took to it like a duck to water. I think women get much more of an ego boost when she finds out how attractive she is

It's simply that some of us would like to watch our wives experiencing extreme ecstasy and we view sex both inclusive and separate from love.

its made our marriage it realy turns me and her on now i dont have sex any more i find it much better just to watch her with her lover she justs loves it she has asked me if she can come off the pill i have agreed and am so turned on i am hard allthe time

Hi Sara, I agree totally with all that CB3K has said. I also think i would like to see my wife of 21 years with another man but she said 'no' when i casually brought the subject up, I am also in the middle of a mid -life sexual crisis, maybe in mid life we are worried about our sex drive fading? and for me i think it would bring great sexual pleasure, but it wouldn't for my wife. I think she would do it if I kept on at her for long enough to please me but she would feel 'pushed' into it? I dont want to do that to her, you must want it too and if what my wife says is true i dont believe many women reallly want to be shared? It would be a huge thing for you to do for your husband, had you any thoughts on the subject yourself before he mentioned it? and would you both regret it afterwards? I know i might, once the next day dawned! Give it good consideration and what the after effects might be.

I have an insaitable desire to watch my wife with another man. She is my best friend and I dearly love her. I just want her to please and be please someone else while I watch.

Sounds like you guys are ready to me. If you're considering it, try reading more stories about how others began or flirted around the deed. He'll love watching you dance with another man or just flirt at the bar. You can feel safe if you're nervous having him just across from you or just a bar stool away. Have fun together.

Arapal, don't fret too much about getting your head around it. The bigger issue is why your husband is having this particular fantasy. I'm no expert counselor, but I have a different understanding that I hope you will consider. Your husband and I are about the same age. I'm guessing his job can be demanding and you and he are trying to juggle family life, careers and keep some sense of sanity in your day to day stress. There probably isn't much time for romance and being married 8 years, much of the spark in the bedroom is gone. Add the fact that he is going through some type of mid-life crazies and it's not too much of a stretch that he is reaching for such a fantasy. If I'm way off base, stop reading now. If not, I'll try to further make my point.<br />
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I used to believe a man having a mid-life review of his life was just an excuse for trying to explain why men have affairs or buy sports cars. . Believe me, it's real. I'm right in the middle of one. It's a form of depression. I bet you would say he has no reason to be depressed, life is good. Having everything a man could want at home and in a career has little to do with it. This man needs adventure in his life and he is seeking a way to make it happen. <br />
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Before I go any further, let me know if I have your interest. There is a lot I'd like to say that can't be done in a few sentences. I don't want to sound like I am preaching and certainly do not want to waste your valueable time. Let me know if I need to continue.<br />
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If not, know this man is not meaning to disrespect you and truly does love you. It's just his communication skills have never been down this road before.

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I had PLANS for the Wife and I when the Son left Home(we only had 1 Child) I even Bought a VIDEO CAMERA years before he Left., But 1 yr before the Kid left Home, The EX Left.(Just as well.., she was a DRUNK Anyhow) But I wanted to Film her and I Having SEX., and her Having Sex with another Guy or Girl as I watched and filmed. I wanted to Try New Experiencies with her.., From Gang-Bangs to Same Gender Sex as she was always talking about it. I often wanted to Tie and Blindfold her (as she ALWAYS got wetter when we Talked about it) or Lay between her thighs and Watch her as she ***********.We NEVER got that Far as she LEFT 6mths before the KID did.( By the Way., my SON was 18 when he left home.)