Status Change--part 1 HopeIt is often said that you never know a person until you live with them; but, this past week has reinforced an earlier life lesson--you never really know someone until you break up with them. This is my personal story of the Internet brought to me my greatest love, provided me with my heart's desires; and, ultimately ended in a Facebook status change that my 14 year old daughter learned about before I did.
We are all searching--whether we vocalize it or not for that one person who completes us, the one who "gets us"--with all of our quirky ways, will be by our side; and, who loves us unconditionally. In 2009, I finally found the courage to leave my marriage of 14 years to live authentically. See, for 14 years, I had been a married lesbian.
Now let me start with disclosing that my ex-husband knew that I was a lesbian before he married me--in fact, when we met, I was living with my college girlfriend at the time. I was 23 years old, finishing up my last year of college; and, I wanted to be a mom more than anything. The only thing was my girlfriend at the time really wasn't ready for the two-mommy version of the new family. So my desire to be a mom superseded everything and I got married.
Four pregnancies, three births, and two children later--I loaded my children, myself, and my dogs into a medium sized U-Haul and moved an hour away from my hometown to a city where we knew no one, had no support system; but, my gut instinct was this would be a great place for a new start.
Little did I know that my life was about to unfold in ways that I could never imagine.