i love being a caregiver, being there for people that i care about but sometimes it gets to be too much. i have a person in my life that i love dearly but my constant concern about her is overloading me to the point that i distance myself from her to allow myself a break. i did this last night and i felt guilty about it but what do you do? i spend much of my time, at work and outside of work, tending to the needs of others so is it wrong for me to have said no, not tonight? normally i'm not the type to push away someone in need of some comfort but last night i just wasn't up to it. it's also frustrating when you see that a good amount of someone's problems is because they keep doing the same things, don't try to change the things that cause them disappointments in life as you and others have advised them to do. they know for themselves that the path they're on isn't the right one yet they still keep going, expecting things to be different, better this time and you're right along with them for the ride. i don't want anyone to feel that i'm abandoning them but sometimes i have to get off the merry go round.