my oldest daughter is 22 yrs old. she went thru a bad marriage moved home about a yr, in a half ago. she recently found a place of her own, so she can begin the hard struggle of getting full custody of her kids. i would do anything in this world 4 my children n grandkids. my oldest daughter has always been a bit lazy. lol. i cook 4 her, clean - up after her, like when she always leaves her dirty wash on the bathroom floor. dirty dishes on my coffee table. i know i should not do all the things i do 4 her. but she is my baby. even when she was married i went to her place everyday, n i cleaned 4 her, did her wash, cooked meals 4 her. i know many people say am n enabler, because i dont make her do these things 4 herself, but am her mother, i have always done everything i could 4 her. i raise my other 2 children to be more independent, because i know in my heart i should not do all these things 4 her. but i know i wont stop. today am going to her new place to clean n start to unpack her stuff. of course i first have to pick -up her dirty wash of the bathroom floor n do her dishes. yea, it gets to me a bit at times, but in a way it makes me feel needed. she will always n 4 ever be my baby girl. i know she can n should do these things 4 herself but am her mother, n 4 as long as she needs me to i will do all this n everything else i can 4 her.