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Your Existing Situation

"In a very inactive and stationary condition, yet conflict and disagreements keep the wheels in the head constantly turning. Looking for fulfilling relationships which are affectionate and understanding, yet settles for less."


Your Stress Sources

"Feeling trapped in a unpleasant situation and feels powerless to fix it. Upset and irritated because she feels doubtful she will ever be able to achieve her goals. Feeling frustrated and emotionally drained, and longs to escape. Needs to get away and have the freedom to make her own decisions. "


Your Restrained Characteristics

Emotionally demanding and will involve herself in close relationships but won't get too involved or give too much of himself.

He is being forced to be happiness and pleasure on hold for now due to her limiting circumstances.

"Believes her hopes and dreams are realistic, but needs reassurance from others. Has strict standards when looking for a partner and wants guarantees that she will not be disappointed or lose."

"Although she is able to find contentment through sexual activity, she feels hopeless to change her problems and difficulties and continues to make the best of what she has."


Your Desired objective

Seeks to be known for something she has accomplished and uses her social abilities to win people over. Emotional and sensitive and romantic.


Your Actual Problem

"Feeling a lack of energy, she does not wish to be involved in further activity or give in to demands. she is feeling powerless causing her stress, agitation, and irritation, all which she tries to escape by refusing to participate altogether. she tries to escape into a fantasy world where things go her way and her desires are easier to reach."


Your Actual Problem #2

Longs for the freedom to make her own decisions and plans without the criticism and restrictions of others. Uses her charm to deal with others and get what she wants.



Yep - feeling trapped, stressed and powerless.  And irritated, dammit!  LOL  And it's true I'm a romantic.  They missed my sense of humor, though.

This isn't a very flattering portrait, but I have to say it's a pretty accurate picture of where I am now.  I sure don't want to stay here, however!!  I see I need to quit daydreaming and act - my Epeeps are helping with this.
  :)

 

nitwitty nitwitty 56-60, F 3 Responses Apr 12, 2011

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Alright we can do this--it is not easy Perhaps no one will hired me--perhaps when I am hired the people around me will not be nice---perhaps --perhaps Then again perhaps things will work out and I will be free. Perhaps our best life is yet to come, we just have to turn the corner.

"now at this age when quite a few people have retired, I am going out there and look for a job!"<br />
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Yes, me too! 'Scary' doesn't begin to cover it. I so admire your determination to put one foot in front of the other despite the stress and limitations. I've learned about courage from you, because I see you acting rather than just talking about it. Thank you, my friend!!!!!!

I struggle with a lot of the same things you do. The stress saps my energy which in turn makes it hard to act. Also there is a sadness in all of this because we still grieve that the marriage was not better. I put so much energy and time into the marriage but it just didn't jell. So this is what I do--I make very small goals and try to reach them. Sometimes I skip days but i am always trying to move ahead in my mind. By making goals and reaching them I will stop some of the fear. Yes there is fear because I was unable to work for so many years and now at this age when quite a few people have retired, I am going out there and look for a job!