I Was For 10 Years.........I was a battered wife for 10 years....those years I have lost forever. I come from a long line of hard Italian family on my father's side, and just as hard on my mother's side which is Irish........
It was an arranged marriage by my father....he wanted dealings with the family...and the only way they would do business together is if the children ( me and my soon to be husband) were married.....and when I turned a certain age...we married....I hated him since day one, he was not a nice guy....no conscience what so ever...do not evwn think he had a real heart in that chest. The beatings started shortly after we were married, then got worse and worse. I was very nieve back then...just a weak little shadow of a person...survivning my very father and his abuse...now my husband. I tried running away, pleaded for a divorce...but was punished severely! ever see the movie "SLEEPING WITH THE ENEMY" Julia Roberts...well that as our marriage but 40 times worse....he had me under his total control. People asked why did you not leave? well when someone has deep control over you with violence, you can't. your so damn scared it paralyzes you totally. And the kind of family I had, you could not go far anyways.
Finally I had enough....told my Uncle to get me out of here, or I wasgoing to lose it, and he knew what i was talking about. I was to the point where I did not care any more....it ws all beaten out of me anyways......after more time, my uncle did get me out, but it was a chore, hiding, moving, name change...all of it...but i am now free!!
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