I Was Abandoned By My Father
I was such a daddys girl. My sister was always my moms favorite, and I was my dads shadow. He took me everywhere with him. He was calm, unlike alot of my boyfriends, he had no temper, unlike alot of my boyfriends. If I compare him to any relationship I have had or seen my mother with, he seems so different, and like a good man, and and a good dad. So it is so confusing to me, how he never came to see me again. After my parents divorced.. We were living in
London, England and we moved back to Florida, my dad stayed in England. When I was 9, he came to visit me.. And I still remember when we dropped him off at the airport, even as a little girl, I was thinking I should keep that picture in my head, of him waving goodbye, because it might be the last time I ever see him again... And so far it was, And I'm 25 now...
When I was 9, we did talk every weekend, and we would say I love you ten times befor we hung up the phone. After he got married and had a baby, he stopped calling and writing.. and I got a postcard maybe once a year , with the same thing always written on it "I'll try to write you more, or call you more xoxo"
But he never did... And when he would call, every 2 or 3 years, he would say he'll call me next weekend.. But he never did.. And we stopped saying I love you. We were more like awkward strangers on the phone.
The last time we talked, I called him about a year and 6 months ago. I asked for Jay, and it was him. He was very surprised, and I just told him how old my kids were now, and that I was married now, and had another baby since we last talked. I told him how tall me and my sister were, only 5 foot and he was very surprised that we were so short! Then he hit me with a question that hurt me so bad ! He said "When is your birthday so I can try to give you a call then." And I told him my birthday, and my sisters birthday.. And he seemed to want to hang up so I let him go.
I went home that day and every night I missed him a little, and just kind of wanted to somehow have a relationship with him even though it seems so awkward between us.
So on my birthday, I was really hoping for months before it came up, that he would call..and ofcourse he didn't, I didn't tell my husband or anyone but inside, I was very hurt and dissappinted. I have never really shared with anyone how much it really hurts me. Its been a year since my last birthday and he still hasn't called. So I have decided, I really need to try to move on with my life, and stop hoping that he's going to come around and want to be my daddy again. It's been about 16 years now.. And I try to ignore the feelings , I have tried to ignore them since I was younger, but every now and then I find myself thinking about him and just having this feeling like I want to be my daddys little girl again, I just want to lay on his shoulder or sit on his lap, and be with him.. But I can't , and I don't know why he is so over me... I thought I was his special daughter, not someone he could just get over....Growing up I always thought that he would come around and we would be close again, but it never happened..
I have jealousy issues, low self esteem, I have been in several abusive relationships.. and this seems like a psych book, but I am afraid to be alone, live alone or not be in a relationship... So what do I do from here... How do you get over someone that your not supposed to have to get over..Your dad
London, England and we moved back to Florida, my dad stayed in England. When I was 9, he came to visit me.. And I still remember when we dropped him off at the airport, even as a little girl, I was thinking I should keep that picture in my head, of him waving goodbye, because it might be the last time I ever see him again... And so far it was, And I'm 25 now...
When I was 9, we did talk every weekend, and we would say I love you ten times befor we hung up the phone. After he got married and had a baby, he stopped calling and writing.. and I got a postcard maybe once a year , with the same thing always written on it "I'll try to write you more, or call you more xoxo"
But he never did... And when he would call, every 2 or 3 years, he would say he'll call me next weekend.. But he never did.. And we stopped saying I love you. We were more like awkward strangers on the phone.
The last time we talked, I called him about a year and 6 months ago. I asked for Jay, and it was him. He was very surprised, and I just told him how old my kids were now, and that I was married now, and had another baby since we last talked. I told him how tall me and my sister were, only 5 foot and he was very surprised that we were so short! Then he hit me with a question that hurt me so bad ! He said "When is your birthday so I can try to give you a call then." And I told him my birthday, and my sisters birthday.. And he seemed to want to hang up so I let him go.
I went home that day and every night I missed him a little, and just kind of wanted to somehow have a relationship with him even though it seems so awkward between us.
So on my birthday, I was really hoping for months before it came up, that he would call..and ofcourse he didn't, I didn't tell my husband or anyone but inside, I was very hurt and dissappinted. I have never really shared with anyone how much it really hurts me. Its been a year since my last birthday and he still hasn't called. So I have decided, I really need to try to move on with my life, and stop hoping that he's going to come around and want to be my daddy again. It's been about 16 years now.. And I try to ignore the feelings , I have tried to ignore them since I was younger, but every now and then I find myself thinking about him and just having this feeling like I want to be my daddys little girl again, I just want to lay on his shoulder or sit on his lap, and be with him.. But I can't , and I don't know why he is so over me... I thought I was his special daughter, not someone he could just get over....Growing up I always thought that he would come around and we would be close again, but it never happened..
I have jealousy issues, low self esteem, I have been in several abusive relationships.. and this seems like a psych book, but I am afraid to be alone, live alone or not be in a relationship... So what do I do from here... How do you get over someone that your not supposed to have to get over..Your dad
By:
AleaLuv
Age:
22-25
,
Female
