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He Signed Away His Rights, Lived 3 Miles Away

Well, truthfully, i haven't talked to my mom about this... mainly cuz i think i may be afraid of the answer i get. I know that my father and mother got together in high school, she was 19 when she had me. There are pictures of him holding me, smiling at the camera; happy it seemed. But I was about a year and a half. Somethin happened. My mom allowed him to completely sign away his rights to me.

How can a father do that? I just really dont understand how you can hold your baby girl for that long and not at all want to be a part of her life. The weird thing about my situation, is that he lived 3 miles away, all through my childhood. I would see him at school events, out and about. But i have never had a converstation with him. I've never formerly met him. He has one girl with another woman, his daughter is about 6 years younger than me. I feel I missed out, but at the same time i hate him. I don't want to show him i care, by trying to make contact.

I had another man i called dad at the age of 5. I mean to me, he is my dad. But i have lost contact with him as he is a bad alcohaulic and i didnt realize till after my parents divorced when i was 14, how bad he was. He has more than 5 DUIs. I am, at this point, ashamed of him and how he can't seem to stop getting into legal and financial trouble.

Not really sure of what else to say, i guess i just wanted to see if anyone had any advice or insight into a situation like this. And if, by chance, someone else had to grow up knowing your father was right there, in your hometown and didn't care about you.
leigha44 leigha44 22-25 Feb 8, 2013

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