Beware Of Online Friendsi had these 2 online friends that i connected with because we were in similar situations. we comforted each other via chatting and emails. however when their situations got better...they disappeared. no longer responded to my emails or PM's. i think it was a selfish thing to do...being that i was still in the situation and was left to deal with it alone.
"friend" #1- we met online when we were both very down and depressed. however he was a lot worse off than me and had even recently attempted suicide, got kicked out of the navy, and was dumped by his girlfirend. this guy was in realllly bad shape. i spent hours chatting with him online.. trying to comfort him. i would send him emails and encouraging quotes, poems etc. even though i had to get up early for work.. i would even sleep with my computer on so that if i heard his PM alert..i could get up and talk to him. we talked daily for like a year. gradually things started to look up for him. i was thrilled!!! he got counseling, embarked on a new career, became a fitness trainer, and eventually found love. i was overjoyed for him..however my own situation hadnt improved much and i was still dealing with depression. i noticed that when he would come online.. he wouldnt say hello. i would have to initiate the conversation. sometimes he would answer me back and sometimes he wouldnt. then he stopped getting online altogether. i emailed him because i got worried. after a few weeks went by..i finally received a response. it was a very brief email telling me that his girlfriend is very demanding and takes up a lot of his time and that he would try to keep in touch every now and then. i didnt hear from him again. about a year and a half later i emailed him and let him know that i didnt appreciate how he turned his back on me as soon as things got better for him. he replied and apologized. he admitted that it was wrong and selfish and im inclined to agree...
"friend" #2- we met here on EP. we were both recovering from very painful breakups. we spent a lot of time chatting. we were both very lonely/heartbroken at the time. we had soo much in common and chatted about a variety of different things including our family lives, our childhoods, our careers, etc. after about 3 months,the communication started to fade. i didnt see her much on yahoo anymore. i sent her an EP message..she didnt respond. i knew she was okay because i would see her online here on EP. about 10 months went by and one day i saw her come online on yahoo..i sent her a pm saying hello. she didnt answer and about 10 minutes later she slapped on her busy message! i took that to mean "leave me alone". that ticked me off so i sent her a not so nice PM and let her know how i felt. well low and behold i got a response..she apologized and said that she had lost touch with me due to being busy at work and she also had a new boyfriend and they had been together for almost a year(what a surprise). Bravo! in no way am i a hater. im always happy for others when good things happen. but work and a new boyfriend stops you from having 5 minutes here and there to simply say hello to someone?? i dont think so. i can understand no longer having the time or desire to sit online and chat but no one is too busy to shoot someone an email from time to time. GEE WIZ!!
welcome2myworld 41-45, F 6 Responses 1 May 5, 2012