Adoptive Parents Lied...My parents lied. I found my adoption papers by accident just before my 21st birthday.
I am grateful I went to a loving family, but!! My mother in particular always had a thing about telling 'fibs' I cannot believe this same person kept something like that from her own 'child' for so long.
They say they were going to tell me... Erm... Ok, when exactly?!
I am 29 now and only really just starting to deal with this all. I still have a relationship with my parents though I think I've limited it somewhat, possibly subconsciously, by moving to a different country. I now only see them once a year.
I love them, they raised me, and up until I found out I had a great life. Since then I've suffered major depression (which according to my mother is a bunch of nonsense), and have just felt out of place generally, like I don't fit in anywhere. I am very distrustful of people in general.
I think what annoys me the most is that my birth father had written to me several times before I found out but my parents destroyed the letters. Apparently I have two full brothers. I can't believe that they would keep me from having the option of knowing them despite whatever issues they have with birth parents. I was brought up as an only child, and we vacationed every year in the town my birth family lived in, I wish I had the chance to see my brothers and make some kind of connection with them while we were all younger. They have now moved and I'm not sure if it's worth it to try find them, I feel it could just mess things up even further. The amount of grief I would get from my adoptive parents is reason enough to leave it alone (I'm an ungrateful brat, don't love them, etc).
Has anyone else been in a similar situation??
Candy1982 26-30 12 Responses 0 Feb 6, 2011