My Adoption Experience

My mother was unable to concieve and so I was adopted as a six week old baby. My parents wanted to make sure I knew this as soon as I was able to understand it. During Elementary School I remember doing a family tree project where we draw the tree with all the names. I used my Parents, Grandparents Great-grands etc. naturally of course, right? But, I was aware that it wasn't really true, and that is when I first became curious about who my biological parents were and their backgrounds. All my parents could tell me was their heritage: English, Irish and Scottish. And that they were very young and not prepared to take care of a baby.



When I was in my teen years, my parents were divorced and I lived mostly with my Mom. When I was being a brat and acting out one day, I told her that I wanted to leave and find my real Mom. I didn't really mean that and I regret it now. I don't recall that she talked to me in the heat of that exchange, but at some point she explained to me that I should think about that very carefully because My biological Mother and/or father may not want to be found. They may have a life now with their own family and I may be an unwelcome intrusion into it. My Mom still said that if I thought about that and I still wanted to find my biologicals, she would help me all she could.



Well, that changed my mind. I don't know that I was all that set on finding them anyway. I was just saying that out of anger and rebellion i think. But I think she was right, and I certainly didn't want to cause a possibly awkward situation for my biologicals. But it did get me to thinking that if they have a family now, then I may have brothers and sisters, or at least half-bro's and sis's.



As I grew up, I would notice from time to time a site where I could register to find my biological parents, but I have just not been intersted enough to go thru with it. Now that I am older it comes up from time to time about my genetic history during questions regarding health. Were my parents prone to heart attacks or other health problems? I just don't know.



All an all I am happy and satisfied with my upbringing. I think my biological parents did the right thing and I was so lucky to be adopted by my Mom and Dad. There is always just a little curiousity there though.

1blujay 1blujay
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3 Responses Feb 26, 2010

That was a heartfelt story BLU. Thanks for posting it...your maturity and thankful heart shows thru. Best wishes .....

Thank You for commenting with such a kind sentiment Kathie.

Well you are only human. Of course you are curious about your biological parents. I think you should find out about them. Explane to your adopted parents that because you wanted to find them didn't mean you loved them any less. You will alwaya wonder where you came from if you don't find out for sure.

AWW THAT WAS A TOUCHY STORY, I LOVE HOW YOU LOVE UR PARENTS AND FEEL PART OF THEM BECAUSE YOU REALLY ARE. EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON. GOD BLESS U ALL.<br />
LIS