Truly Revealing

I have met some very interesting people in gentlemen's clubs. So I am a guy and curiosity got the best of me and I decided to go to the g-club. Well at first you are just checking it out, being a little self conscious. Now I am not an unattractive guy, not because I think I'm all that but some ladies that I trust have said so...even though I take it with a grain of salt...but any way. So one of the dancers comes over and we just start a normal conversation.



Of course I realize that she is there trying to earn a living. So I let her to a lap dance for me. I remember thinking about how what's being sold is a fantasy. All us guys want to feel like a beautiful young woman wants him and pays all this attention. Its very interesting.



After I went there a few times...I kinda stoped looking at the women and wishing they were my girlfriend and just started see them as people with lives and school and kids and moms and dads, bills and hard work on the stage working for their own attention.



I made some good friends, made sure I tipped well and what I got was just a good time talking and drinking with some very interesting people. Some of the girls could hold conversation about anything. They began to appreciate that there was an understanding about the fact that she/they were at work. Before long I had a great respect for some of the people I met. Most of them were great then there were those who just saw me as a piece of meat with money and the game was to see how much they could get out of my pocket.......That was the biggest turn off.....if it was all about shaking what you mama gave you and acting all desperate......well naaah.



Some guys really went for the turn on a dime ... Ms. butterfly....I'm what you need kind of come-on, but I found that once you get past that, the G-club can be fasinating. Anyway, I made some good friends and make sure they know I appreciate their company $$.



I also began observing the guys who came in and how they acted...some shy, some big shots, some losers, college kids all kinds. I began to watch body language and would help my friends figure out who was buying...and you know what most times I was right! It got to the point that I'd help out that way.



Anyway. I have lots of respect for dancers. Its a hard job, and you really have to have good people skills and know how to keep your eyes open.



Just my two censt

IWM, you don't sound like you disrespect dancers at all.



I'm glad I can help. I feel like I've got a whole lot of information up in my head to tell, but I don't profess to know it all. Everyone has a story, and even though that period of time for me was rich, I continue to learn as we all do.

Thinkingoutloud, it's posts like this that have helped me to learn and understand about experiences that would have otherwise been out of my realm. It's people like you who are helping me to learn about who I really am.



I love your candor and insight on this matter. Thank you for opening my eyes up to yet another world.



I don't want to sound like I don't respect exotic dancers. Actually, I do. Some (not all) of these women could just as easily sit home a complain about how unfair the world is to them. Not work, and live off the government. Now I see that dancers are not on stage just to entertain, but there's a bit of psychology involved too.

Thank you for reading!

Thinkingoutloud, i enjoyed reading your writing on dancing. Very insiteful, I work with a girl that is a retired dancer, comes from a family of woman that have danced. She too has taught me quit a bit.

and sexual power trip over the customer? for me? only the customers who wanted me to be powerful over them - the submissive ones - would momentarily allow me to step into that role.

ya, fun while it lasted!

I have more thoughts on power-tripping but I need to write a book on that!

I think the industry is based on the oldest profession in the world. Sex. In an effort to commercialize it further (I think it really came into being in the 40's with the old burlesque and the madam's and feather boa's) gentlemen's club's emerged. Whatever facts there are out there, it will boil down to one's own personal views on sexuality - a huge huge topic.



Sex is natural. It has been regarded as a private thing, but everyone does it and everyone knows it! I think that ***** clubs have a place in society, I think there should be a redlight district in every town and prostitution legalized. I think that women are subject to degradation everywhere and women have been sexualized as objects for decades.

I think that everyone we touch begins with our eyes. A dancer relies on this in her quest to attract the attention of a customer. Whatever his intentions, she has 'the power' to change his perspective of women. If he went in there, objectifying women as sexual servants that he might use to his satisfaction, and he leaves discovering the dancer was a thoughtful, and caring, and intelligent individual, my job would have been immensely gratfiying.

I did change a few. They told me I didn't fall into the typical dancer stereotype. I told them they weren't the typical customer either!

I think a dancer is in a very serious occupation and that they have a responsibility to not only do their job, but to challenge the typical viewpoint and not fall into the stereotype that is expected of them.



I remember my boss (the bar owner), who came into the change room at the start of a shift. I was in mid- dress and he had to pass me on the way to the DJ booth. He said, 'nice ***'s Rose!' and he laughed like he thought he was getting away with something. I felt so angry. I can't remember what I said, but he kept laughing.

The degradation will be there no matter what.

I would really love a discussion of your thoughts about being a dancer. I have some thoughts of my own but my brain isn't quite sharp tonight.



There is alot of discussion about how that type of thing is degrading to women, but I suspect that it is all in how you look at it personally. I think that it could be a bit of a power trip for the dancer. What do you think?