My Abuse Was By Christian Parents

I grew up in a Christian house. Now I am an atheist. Enough said.

God never wanted anyone to abuse anyone. DarkAngel, I'm sorry about everything you had to suffer, but you must know now that God is Love. "For God takes no pleasure in wrongdoing. Evil shall not stand in His presence. He cannot stand the sight of the proud, He hates all wicked people. He destroys all liars and DESPISE VIOLENT deceitful people." [Psalms5] ........ No matter what you've done, your parents shouldn't have hurt you like that. Discipline is good, but that's already violence and child abuse. ........ God is a merciful God who forgives sins, "Though your sins are red as scarlet, they shall be white as snow" [isaiah1:18] ......... Jesus came so we can know the love of God. Through His blood, we can be as white as snow, no matter how sinful we are. Because through Jesus, God gives us a new heart, He gives us His Holy Spirit, the Wonderful Counselor. . , . . . I'm here if you need to talk... :'->

Like perseverer, I find this story suspect. It isn't that I don't believe Christian parents can be abusive. Quite the contrary, I grew up in an abusive home at the hands of a Christian pastor. In his mind, he justified the abuse with Biblical references and the spiritual abuse was far more pervasive than the physical. Still, in the quiet of my bedroom each night, I reached out to God and found comfort and strength. I would ask God why my father was this way because my heart was broken and I felt hopeless that he would ever change and one night, God revealed to me (as a young child) that my fathers actions were not Godly at all but that he was hurting inside and therefore, hurt was all that he had to give, because He hadn't allowed God to heal those places within him yet.



Fast forward 20 some years and I've seen my father completely transformed from a man of anger into a man of love and gentleness. It didn't happen overnight and for a very long time, I held those early hurts deep within myself and they poisoned every decision I made and every word I said until I allowed God to heal *my* heart too.



The thing that gets me about your story is that the underlying message seems to be to gain pity and even when people attempt to offer you comfort, you continue to say you "deserved it". If you honestly believed you deserved those things, you wouldn't have written of them in the way that you did. I was abused for years and rarely ever thought I deserved it because I knew that other families were not like mine. It's rare that abusers realize themselves as abusers but it is even more rare that their victims don't realize that the abuse is wrong. Indeed, it is because they know they don't deserve it that it causes the most damage.



I've had the pleasure of watching God heal my father and experiencing Him heal me and my other family members as well, but that healing could never have taken place without forgiveness. So regardless of your motives in writing this piece, if any part of it bears truth, I pray that the Lord Jesus begin and complete a work of healing in your life and your parents lives. Jesus died for abusers no less than he did for the abused. The greater the depth of sin, the greater the need for salvation. So pray for your parents and in doing so, forgiveness will come.



Having said all of that, judging from your avatar alone, I think it's ironic that you write of the things you did and then chose an avatar that depicts you yourself as a female devil. Freud would have a hayday, I'm afraid.

I recognise the tactic. And I reject the premise. Conceptualclarity is right, taking your story as true on face value.

If your church was not an extremely abnormal church, and other people at church had known what your parents were doing, your parents would have been outcasts there. The Bible says the Lord abhors a man of violence. You should not blame God for what your parents did. I pray for the healing of your soul from this abuse.

I'm really sorry you endured this! You did not deserve it, no one does *hug*

yes the world would be much more peaceful without christians in it.

It appears that the name of god can be twisted to justify anything. Thank god I'm an atheist.

The reason why in the Bible says that we must pray: "Let your kingdom come. Let your will be done on earth as it is done in heaven." is because God's will and desires are NOT being done on Earth. He hates things like the one that happen to you. He hates abuse and all sort of threats done on people but most of all to children. That is not God's heart for no one and He aches for every one that is being abused.

You DID NOT/DO NOT deserve it. My mother beat me as well, until I was 14, after that she kept it emotional abuse and neglect. I have no answers but I know no one deserves to be treated this way band God does not condone it. It is NOT of Him.