My Husband Left Me After Two Months of Marriage

I got married in January this year.  At the end of March I read one of my husband's emails from a woman in the US.  I am in Australia.  It was full of 'love' and intimacy.  I was shocked and confronted him.  He said she was a friend.  Then, one week later, he told me that he was in love with her and that he was leaving me. 

We had only just got married.  100 of my family, friends and their children were there.  Our daughter was my flower girl, and my son was the ring bearer.  His neices were my bridesmaids.  His neice flew over from Spain to be there with us.

People told us that it was the most beautiful wedding they had been to.  But it was all all a lie.  He told me that he had never loved me and the only reason he was with me was because of our daughter. 

I don't know why he married me.  He humiliated me so publicly.  Now he is leaving my daughter and I.  He is going to the US to be with his new partner.  He has left me with all the debts, the pets, the responsibility.  

I feel so hurt.  I can't believe that someone I had trusted could do that to me.  We had been together for 10 years.  Now he doesn't even speak to me.  His family don't speak to me.  I am nobody.

My heart is just broken.  I am depressed.  I am putting on weight.  I am so unhappy.  I know that I will feel better again, but I just cry all the time.  I can't share it with my friends and family because I don't want to burden everyone and I know that its boring.

I just feel so sad and so alone.  My friends are all married and my dreams are now shattered.  I feel sick with it.

quarkgirl quarkgirl
36-40, F
11 Responses Jul 5, 2009

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For some one to betray you is devistating in its own but for someone to marry you and do that so soon is cruel mariage is a sacred oath and i am of strong beleif that you should only take the step to marry some one if you are serious about that oath i to have been hurt am currently in counciling with my wife I have no understanding why she did what she did but want to stick by what i feel is true to me and my children if i can overcome the pain i still carry 12 months on.<br />
Only time will tell.

You aren't the only one and personally i feel like, for guys like this it's only a matter of time-time before someone does it back to them or before word gets out and no one wants to date them...<br />
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I have similar situation going on, its not you, it might be a pattern with him to make himself feel special and build himself up to be worth more in the eyes of others...<br />
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you could even pity him a bit that while the rest of us find dates through our personalities he has to do it with mini drama's to make himself sound special

I always used to think why this to me now i got to know there r too many ppl here in this world who r facing the terrible mishaps in their lives God bless u

I'm so sorry that happened to you, I pray that you get someone who can take care of you and your kids a real man. I'm tired and sick of hearing about how men leave their wives it's absolutely disgraceful. For now I advise that you be strong for your children, trust me as a child my mother was very, very ditzy and it made us kids feel insecure and afraid most of the time. So please be strong and know that you are a mother who can take care of her children and that just because he left you doesnt mean that he's the only man left in the world. Godbless sweetie.

Thank you for all your thoughts and good wishes. It is such a difficult time for me. I am working two jobs, studying and have two children. It's such hard work. <br />
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He doesn't have any money. The new girlfriend is paying for everything. She must be crazy. He's just dropped everything and she's taking him in.

I am sorry this happened to you. I refer you to utude and Roy Clark "Thank God And Greyhound".<br />
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When the wife left I was on my knees praying " Please bring her back" She called several years later asking to come back and I was on my knees praying "Please keep her away. You are the gold in this story he is the lead.

Oh darlin' be glad he's gone. I'm with Blue, get some money out of his stupid self! You'll find someone who appreciates you and loves you all. He's just not worth the tears.<br />
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Hugs and be strong and I'll send a nice spell his way. BRUHAHAHA!!

Wow I am so sorry this happened to you. Listen to Blue because he knows a lot of stuff.

This as terrible.<br />
If you divorce him while he is in the US you could be in a position to get child support and alimony.<br />
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Talk to a lawyer.<br />
Don't let this guy run all over you after what he has done.

I am so sorry this happened to you. I don't know what to say other than please let the good people in your life help you through this time. <br />
this is not you, it's him. You deserve so much better.