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I Was Betrayed

Betrayal...it's Not Nice....

By: snowbunny1002
Written on April 5th, 2010
Age: 46-50 , Female
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  • kapital1

    Trust lost is hard to gain, more than that to trust the person again is harder...

    Feb 25, 2012
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  • snowbunny1002

    Brainyblonde- One thing I have definitely learned trust is earned. Great advice from your comment, thanks so much!

    Mar 17, 2011
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  • Brainyblonde

    Good insights here. One of the signs of maturity is when we stop handing out trust freely as if it were our "default setting" in any relationship. Then we know that trust must be earned in small increments and over a significant period of time. Nothing can shield us from possible betrayal but handing out trust bit by bit comes the closest, I think.

    Mar 16, 2011
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  • snowbunny1002

    april- I agree it totally sucks!

    Sep 5, 2010
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  • aprilriver

    I hate the feeling of being lied to. I feel like there are parts of my life that I don't know are there, because I will never know the truth because even when I find out it is a lie I know I will never know the truth.

    Yes.. betrayal sucks!

    Sep 5, 2010
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  • snowbunny1002

    MissGuided- thanks for your offer, because I have no doubt you can kick some serious ***! LOL

    In all seriousness, betrayal sucks.

    Apr 7, 2010
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  • snowbunny1002

    all1rog- I couldnt have said it better. Once betrayed it is hard to get back to a feeling that you can trust the person at all.



    melissa2699- thanks so much for your comments. I believe communication is always key in all relationships:)



    FG- I know you wouldnt... and I am thankful for that :)



    Stratos- give me a few mins and I will text you :) LOL *hugs*

    Apr 7, 2010
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  • zzltfrg

    In my experience of pugs, as a child, they tend to be all bark, unless they have a bone, which they think you want to take. Then, you are in danger of a nip, although they don't really wish to release their grip on their bone, in order to get at your leg or hand bone!



    Seriously, though, this is another very thoughtful posting. Beyond the pain, it is difficult to predict what the outcome will be. In some cases, the person "betrayed" may have behaved in such a way that even an angel would have done the same: and they may realize that. In others, the depths of a person's feelings may be such that cutting losses and moving on is never an option. However, it must be very rare for a betrayed person to return the the state they were in before they became aware of what had happened. What must once have seemed like an impossibility has become a reality.

    Apr 7, 2010
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  • fungirlmmm

    Sorry bun buns! I am here for you if you need me. I will never betray you. I love you girlfriend.

    Apr 6, 2010
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  • snowbunny1002

    Dreamspeaker- thanks so much for your comments, it is definitely food for thought



    AriesRSA- I understand completely..thanks so much for your comments :)



    Bobfrost- sorry to make you sad :(..sending u hugs



    truthsetsufree- I am so sorry for your pain, hurt and loss of someone you love. Betrayal is such a hard thing to overcome BUT you can do it , and be all the more wiser :)



    essaar- very true, it is very hard to deal with....for years to come.

    Apr 6, 2010
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  • essaar

    Betrayal can be taken as one of the worst forms of emotional abuse..I have been through the same and it is quite tough to let go and move on..

    Apr 6, 2010
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  • truthsetsyoufree

    I have recently been betrayed by the man that I love. I was not able to forgive him so I am moving on taking it day by day, and someday I won't shed anymore tears over him. I was in disbelief that he could be so selfish and disregard me and my feelings completely. I am not capable of inflicting that kind of pain on others, especially the ones I love.

    Apr 6, 2010
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  • BobFrost

    This is well written and so so true. You bring valid points and this made me sad :(

    Apr 6, 2010
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  • AriesRSA

    Great story bunny. Trust in some instances, I believe, can never be gained back. I told the one person who betrayed my trust the most that "You were suppose to be my protector and yet you were the one who attacked me the most". Go figure. I will never trust him to protect me again and this boomeranged into all the areas of my life.

    Apr 6, 2010
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  • Dreamspeaker23

    I believe that trust can be earned back, too, but as you mention, both parts need to want it.



    Thank you for your post, it is really interesting, and good food for thought :D

    Apr 6, 2010
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  • snowbunny1002

    PTMAN- I wish you lots of luck and send much love your way. If its meant to be it will work out in the end..you have to believe!

    Apr 5, 2010
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  • PTMAN

    snow, after reading your story i have decided that the friendship is worth everything that i thought it was. a great friendship. and i also have decided if it is not to late for me that i want to keep it and cherish it as i did before.



    i will work deligently to mkae a it work.

    and hopefully i will be given the opportunity to make it work, if i am not then the blame is mine and mine alone.



    thank you

    Apr 5, 2010
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  • snowbunny1002

    Your right it does hurt... even when you think you have your guard up!

    Apr 5, 2010
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  • BrutMystik

    i know, it hurts to be lied to or even worse. I guess I just don't let anyone close, except a precious few.

    Apr 5, 2010
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  • snowbunny1002

    Thanks Brut,..as always your insight/comments always mean alot. Betrayal is hard and very emotionally hurtful. ...

    Apr 5, 2010
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  • BrutMystik

    betrayal is hard, but there are harder things to endure. luckily, I have not experienced this too often in life. great story.

    Apr 5, 2010
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  • snowbunny1002

    Well come on smugit, lets go!



    *smugit & snowy walk off into the warm summers day*....

    Apr 5, 2010
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  • Smugit

    WALK< WALK< WALK<WALK

    YEP<YEP<YEP<YEP<YEP<YEP

    always ready for the walk!

    Apr 5, 2010
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  • snowbunny1002

    Fierce huh, not loving and cute :)..Ok well you have to be fierce at times, right?

    Now are you ready for a walk ? LOL

    Apr 5, 2010
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  • Smugit

    Fierce that's me slips snowbunny extra treats for the compliments smiles

    then creates serious look for onlookers

    back to work! lmao

    Apr 5, 2010
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  • snowbunny1002

    aww smugit thanks!! You are such a cute guard dog too...are you all bark? LOL

    Even if you are, I am glad you are watching out for me

    Apr 5, 2010
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  • Smugit

    nuzzles snowbunny then sits to keep watch over things making sure no betrayal gets by me!

    Guard dog on duty here! Grrrr

    Apr 5, 2010
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  • snowbunny1002

    It is isnt it PTMAN!! The emotional part is the worst. Don't get me wrong I think if both parties want to work through it together, it can be done. It's a long hard road but worth it if BOTH parties put in the work.

    Apr 5, 2010
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  • PTMAN

    totally awesome story bunny, i felt that way not to long ago. and you know something your right first reaction cut your loses and move on. but the hurt and the emtions of the relationship didn't allow me to. i had to find a way to fix it because i cared so much about the realtionship.

    and at the same time if elt totally betrayed.

    wtf it is so confusing. lol

    Apr 5, 2010
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