Blocked Again.....

ive blocked a few people from my profile for rude remarks in messages.they message me talking dirty and asking personal questions that only me and my hubby should talk about so i warrant a block in those cases. xxxx

Sorry Mike that did'nt bring the story to a close haha, i just wanted to say what IamIam made such a great job of.

You are welcome sir. By the way, I like your bluntness, it adds perspective that needs to be included, if for nothing else, to look at the more extreme. One thing I have learned is that to look at the extreme opens up the mind.



I get tired of seeing too much empathy, sometimes a jolt of reality is the best medicine. ANd what you said was/is true, its just not easily digested, plus it is where he needs to get, but the getting there was more his confusion I think.

Thanks for cutting and pasting the last comment, IamIam....hopefully that brings this story to a close.

By the way....if this is the confession you are talking about, these were his last comments....



"Again I thank you guys for your support on this, it honestly means alot to me and is helping me. As for Mike I almost have to thank him at this point, because it seems like more and more people keep on messaging me and giving me support about this whole situation. Making me feel comfortable and less afraid to be who I am."



Sounds like a happy ending almost...

If someone blocked me, I think I'd just say WTF and move on...

People post confessions and stories and ask for comments - if they do not like the comments they can ignore them - everyone is entitled to their opinion...i don't think anyone here deliberately sets out to hurt anyone else. It happens i am sure but you cannot complain if something is not what you want to hear - you have asked for open and honest reactions to your situation.



The point that I think is being made is not who said what about whoever - but more that it is unfair to allow someone to block another user from speaking freely in a public forum. The blocker can say whatever they wish and the blockee has no avenue to reply. Blocking should be for private messages only - to stop harrassment - not to prevent someone from giving an opinion in a public forum. If someone can publicly criticise a person then that person should be able to respond in the same forum!

Im with blue and loveandlaughter, especially in this case where there was a person hurting because of a fear or being turned away, whereas thats what happened here.

And I dont think he was actively threatening to kill himself, he just said he wanted to die. There is a very big difference between longing to die and being suicidal.

And we shouldnt scale problems... If it hurts someone to the extent that they hurt badly i dont think it matters if the problem is that they are an abuse victim, ill, lonely, or if their cat died. If it hurts, it hurts, and to me a hurting person warrants support and kindness.

Because I was acting out-of-character for how I normally do the past couple of days... I haven't been in a very "light" place this week... :)

How did you know I was talking about you Dyin2live?

You make a very good point, Blue...



*bows head* I probably shouldn't have been such a smarta$$ the last couple of days...

Some people haven't enough compassion to be of much help at all to people who are in need of support or understanding.

I understand they probably don't even realize they are hurtful or insulting at times.

After all why would anyone make hateful comments or start name calling or challenge a child who is looking for understanding and support? I'm sure no one would do it on purpose, That would be nothing but heartless and mean. Some people just haven't enough compassion to even realize they are being hateful. I feel bad for these people. But most of all I feel sorry for the child who is reaching out for help and getting confronted with hatefulness. It is something that can't be stopped.

It is a fact of life. It is the world we live in.

I guess I am just to compassionate for my own good sometimes. I will attempt to understand and help. If I can't I will leave it alone. Why would I make hurtful comments to someone who is already hurting? It just don't make sense to me.

I may be missing something, but I thought the whole point of this site was so that privacy was assured so that people could be free to post whatever they wanted without fear of being challenged on deeply personal posts in a category like confessions? Most people are at their most vulnerable in those posts and challenging them seems rather lacking in compassion. JMO

I can see your point Mike, but if you put a hat on......

Small joke to lighten the mood a little.



Sometimes we can't defend ourselves against the things we say, that is why it is important to say things in way that is not offensive. This applies to life as much as it does to EP.

How could I send them a private message if they had blocked me?.....Mello, I appreciate you didn't realise I couldn't reply to your comment, and I did post you privately because I wanted to point that out. I do care what some people think on here.

Marji.....thanks. Maybe we could have a list of who has blocked who, that would sort things out I bet!



I don't get blocked as much as you might suspect...but hey, who cares!

I see your analogy, and I don't mind someone hanging up on me....but imagine if a couple of posters on a confession had called you an insensitive jerk, even apologised on your behalf.....and you couldn't post a response in the same forum. That's not freedom of speech in my eyes. You wouldn't like it either I don't think.

Mike, I just looked at the original confession no one is saying anything horrible about you. In fact Blank is sort of thanking you for making such a stink. It has brought him a lot of pm's of support and encouragement.

How would you have reacted had you not been blocked? Rereading your comments made me nervous and a little scared. You can be quite gruff.

Look at it as it is no different if you had made a call and they hung up on you and refused to take any further calls from you. It may not feel right to you, but it is what it is.

Ahhhhhh, Mike. For predicaments like this (that you put yourself into) I like to quote: This is why God gave us two ears and 2 eyes, but only ONE mouth! Sometimes we need to see and hear, and keepeth our mouth shuteth! (or fingers off keyboard). lol. And the only reason I share all this with you Mike, is cause I have to tell MYSELF this very thing at least ONCE A DAY! :O I have said too much at times too!

Searchingformeaning....angst is a little strong for me but read my previous comment, I am still unable to post on the confession but comments are now being posted about me. That can't be right, can it?

Comments are still being made about me on the original confession, and I still cannot explain or defend myself because I am blocked....so the situation is unfair as it stands. Maybe other people on the site don't understand that, and think I am not replying for the wrong reasons, I don't know. As for your friend who blocked me, he then continued to post comments about me on stories after that time, safe in the knowledge I could not respond, whether I chose to or not. That's not what I want EP to be about.

Yes mike I understand the difference. I think you have responded more than enough in this thread to satisfy any lingering angst you may have.



No, I didn't think you wanted him to kill himself because of his sexuality. I don't think you are inhuman.

As it stands at the moment on EP, you can block someone, then post negative comments about them on stories and confessions, which they are unable to respond to in the same story or confession. That isn't freedom, it's fascism. Do you understand the difference? Say what you like about me, but don't deny me the right to reply.

We are all free to use the block as we personally see fit. That is the real freedom.

Searchingformeaning.....Hopefully you realise I don't want the guy to kill himself because of his sexuality?

Mello.....read my last comment and see if you can understand what I am getting at. If people keep posting comments on this story I will respond, if that's ok.

Sanibelle, I don't need the attention-or particularly want it. I am trying to make the point that the blocking system on EP is abused by some people. Some of the comments on this story were made by people who blocked me because I expressed an opinion they didn't want to hear. That is petty in my eyes. Freedom of speech has to work both ways, doesn't it?

I agree blocking should not be about stopping someone's speech, rather it should be about stopping their abusive comments or harassment.

Why such harshness? How would you feel if he had ended it all due to you thoughtless comments?

Fazer, my first comment on his confession was supportive.....after that my mood changed because of his responses.