My Experience Of BullyingI have been bullied in so many ways for as long as I can remember.
I think that if you are a nice person people like to take that and abuse it to make themselves feel better or to use it to gain something.
A good friend of mine said Bullying is cowardly.. and I agree completely with him.
Bullying in School:
When I was younger I was not very attractive. I was a stick, had braces and puffy hair. All the boys said that I was the ugliest girl in school. Having a learning disability didn't help either.. as I was slow and it was hard for me to make friends. I was a loner for a while in middle school. A girl was my friend in secret. She said that she only wanted to be my friend in class but, if I was to hang out with her at recess or talk to her outside of class.. she would pound me. I was ok with it because it was someone that wanted to be my friend. People would trip me when I walked down the hallways and pour **** in my backpack.
One time I was at this camp with my class and a girl cut some of my hair off. I felt horrible.
I talked to my mom about this and she had a very similar experience. I couldn't believe that because she is so gorgeous and nice.. I was in denial. My mom said the best way to get back at bullies is to show them your stuff. Become more successful. She then took me to this makeup school and they "reinvented" me haha. I went back to school the next year and boys were falling over. I was now one of the prettiest girls in school. I was also weirded out by this.. All the guys who thought I was ugly and called me all of these horrible things.. wanted to date me? All the girls who were popular and even the girl who cut my hair off wanted to be my friend?
Going from being invisible to being in the spot light really got to me.. But, I met a girl who was just like me at first.. who was a little nerdy and different looking. We hit it off and were best friends..
Bullying in Dating:
As I started to Date guys, I knew that i was a little naive. I fell for one guy who I thought to be nice at first and he ended up calling me stupid and that I was boring.. (I think it was just because I didn't put out. I know slime ball.) Anyway.. that best friend that I had started going to another school and became well.. slutty. She had been talking with my boyfriend and they well hooked up behind my back. I found out from a girl in my school and was pissed.
Recently I dated a guy who was a bully to me in the end. At first he was caring and sweet and we lasted 6 years. But, he would put me down..saying I was stupid, saying that everyone in my circle were ******** and hating them. I just felt the pessimism pouring out of him. I ended it because it was so toxic.
Bullying in Work:
I worked with a woman for a while and she would bring her outside issues into the office. Being a nice girl she yelled at me for things that I didn't do.. for her mistakes. I would just take it in thinking, this is my boss.. I need to be cautious. My parents sent me flowers to my work one time and everyone was happy about it, except for my boss.. she was snide and rude.
One day she told me that someone had fired her, she had a nervous breakdown in the office.. and I helped her as best I could. She came in the next day spreading rumours that I did nothing to help her. I decided to quit working for her.. she was getting out of hand.
So there are many forms of bullying and they all resort back to one thing.. cowards.. people who take their **** out on others, to make themselves feel better.
Thats all for now.