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I Remember...

I remember being picked on a LOT all through, pretty much every year of my school, in school and out.

I remember being called all sorts of names.  I remember I was offended by it when I was little, in grade school.

Then one day in Junior High when I was in the process of being picked on by a girl who had picked on me SINCE grade school.

Why am I getting upset about being called things that I am not?

Ever since, it was tough for me to be bullied, mainly because I didn't give them the reaction they were reaching out for.

Then...there was a day in summer school in high school.
This kid untied my shoe in the school bus. Then informed me of the obvious telling me that it was untied.  He also made a big stink about how he didn't want to be near me.

I then told him, opening my mouth when I shouldn't...that it would've helped if he didn't untie it.  I gave him attention.

He and his friends, after we got off the bus, (I took my bike the rest of the way home) proceeded to throw rocks at me as I rode off.

I told my mom what had happened.  She then went to the principle of that school, smart guy that he was...pulled the kid out of the bus after that 'school day'...and in front of his friends, slapped his wrist for being mean to me.

Got off the bus, was going to walk home that day instead of taking my bike. I heard someone yelling. It was the kids friend, this friend attacked me.  I assume for making a fool out of his friend.

I learned something that day.
Don't react.

If it's not insulting, don't be insulted.
If you're not what they claim, don't be hurt by it.

Most of all, they're pretty damn weak if they feel they've got to attack someone else.  Be it with words or otherwise.

I realize hind sight is 20/20...but all this came to me, while the "bullying" went on.

Especially the day this girl called me a hippy, as an insult.  I...couldn't be insulted because...I knew I wasn't.

It personally bothers me that kids are being coddled these days, when it comes to bullies. Instead of "banning against bullies"...why not help the kid with their own self esteem?  Give them the knowledge to know that these "bullies" are actually a lot weaker than they are.

Tell them words from a complete stranger or someone they do not know, shouldn't hurt.

That's all I've got to share.
meowmeowface meowmeowface 36-40, F 7 Responses Jun 5, 2007

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i was once bullied to. they call me a sissy boy.. but now i m a change man. have a lot of friends and were somebody in my college..

Unfortunately for me when I tried to ignore my bullies in school, I got the day lights knocked out of me. I tried ignoring them and walking away, this just lead to them grabbing my backpack and pulling me off my feet, then either stomping on me or beating me with their fists.<br />
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Bullying to some extend went on for 12 years for me, I actually got even in the 7th grade with 2 of them. They made the mistake of one on one, and I won for a change. But in 7th-12th grades the PE Teachers started bullying me, they considered it motivation to get me to run faster. But when you have undiagnosed asthma, it is hard to run when you can't breathe. I had one PE Teacher tell me that I was not worthy of being a man or a boy as the girls could all out run me, and since the girls can out run you or not even one of them. This PE teacher called me a sissy the entire year! He never used my real name, just called out "Sissy" when he referred to me.<br />
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Some days I think I should have sued the school for allowing this to happen, but this just isn't in my nature. I tend to walk away from everything and hope for the best. I don't like confrontation.

And these guys grow up and become abusers, takes a Real Man to be such I guess. How utterly pathetic. As far as the Principle is concerned sometimes their hands are tied---"If you as much as scold my precious little boy, I will have your job!" It is such a shame how parents can be so blinded by their own kids--A kid is not a grown-up and needs to be monitored. Every child is capable of good as well as bad, the parent who doesn't realize this is in self denial or completely out of touch with reality. That is why 10 year olds don't drive cars or go out drinking, someone is watching and sometimes a law needs to be enacted as well. Make the parents be responsible for their kids' action, people are held accountable on their dogs, so why not, and make the punishment fit the crime. I feel many would give up their "Good Times" and be more responsible as parents if they knew they'd be held accountable. Parenting is not a hobby, it is full time work without breaks, bonuses, and perks. It can be rewarding and its not easy but if done right the results can be life changing for the better.

Good advice for a girl whej bullying is verbal. Physical is tougher to cope with .

I was bullied in kindergarted until grade 3. .by this fat girl. .she would tell me insulting things and i would follow her every command. .then, one day. .my little sister got bullied by my guy classmate. .i was mad. .and in rage. .i taught that guy a lesson. .i insulted him in every humane language there was. .and the good thing was. .he was stupid. .he walked away with his gang of stout friends. .he was ashamed. .right now. . i don't let anyone bully me. .or my little sister. .no one should be treated like hell. .EVER. .i hate bullies. .

I know everything that I said and I am aware of everything you said, that's the reason why I said...<br />
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"t personally bothers me that kids are being coddled these days, when it comes to bullies. Instead of "banning against bullies"...why not help the kid with their own self esteem? Give them the knowledge to know that these "bullies" are actually a lot weaker than they are.<br />
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Tell them words from a complete stranger or someone they do not know, shouldn't hurt."

Yes its true but you don't realise that when you're younger and you're not emotionally mature enough to deal with the insults, the damage is being done and then, for most people, its too late when you do realise. People just should not be bullies in the first place.