Childhood Desperation Scenarios

I grew up in the south back in the 1980s. I saw a lot of kids being denied the bathroom in various situations. The most common being at school and public places like grocery stores. From a young age I saw how this basic right could be used as a torturing device. I later learned that it in fact is and there have been many children through out time that have had to endure a full bladder for long periods of time. I'm going to list some of these scenarios. Most of these have been true documented cases and others are situations that probably happened sometime/somewhere.

School is by far the most common place for a child to have to hold their bladder. Students are usually taken at a scheduled time and sometime the teacher will deny any request during class. I have read of schools allowing as few as one break during the entire school school day. Teachers also have been known to take away one or more scheduled breaks as a form of punishment. I can recall a couple of times that the whole class lost a schedule restroom break as punishment. I also saw kids have their restroom breaks removed the entire day. By the end of the day the two boys were in tears, but didn't wet their pants. I have also heard stories of parents forbidding their children to use the restroom at school forcing them to hold it until they get home. This rule being enforced by the teacher. This could be a temporary punishment or a permanent rule! I couldn't imagine holding it for 8 hours everyday at such a young age. The time could be extended if the child is given detention and has to wait another hour or two. The teacher makes the kids walk with her to ensure he/she doesn't cheat! Take it a step further. When the mother/father come to pick them up they learn you have been causing the teacher problems. As punishment you are made to wait even after getting home. Another Scenario would be having to run some errands after leaving school, but since you're forbidden to use public restrooms you still have to wait even longer.

Boarding schools have also been known to deny the restroom especially teen boot camp/reform type school. In these situations restroom use could and has been withheld well beyond the normal school hours. I have read of of teens being given as little as two restroom breaks a day with no nighttime use! I have also found stories of teens having to hold it for days! The teens were unable to go because they were being watched by the staff or their "orientation guide". When they didn't go they were pulled off the toilet and forced to wait until the next scheduled break only to have the same problem!

There are also germaphobic parents that don't want their children to use any public restrooms. These kids in some cases are denied the restroom from a young age even on long outings. Imagine an all day outing or car trip without any restroom breaks no matter how bad you have to go. You are forbidden to hold yourself or complain about having to go. Failure to hold it will result is a painful punishment. Imagine being made to stay in the car while the rest of the family finally gets to go because you kept complaining. Imagine how it would feel to drive away knowing your only chance to go was gone. Another situation would be being made to wait after reaching home/the hotel room for the same reason.

Kids have also been made to hold it at home. Either to teach discipline or as a form of punishment. There have been documented cases of kids being forced to hold it for an entire day and possibly night. Imagine sitting in your own living room being desperate to pee, but being forbidden. Then imagine being sent to bed with a full bladder or being made to hold in your morning pee all day. Failure to hold it will result in a painful punishment, plus having to repeat it!

This of course is all child abuse and anyone who does this should probably be jailed. I'll admit however that I fantasize about being in these situations. A child that had to endure such treatment would likely grow up with a large bladder. Though I guess they could also have bladder issues?  Can you think of any other scenarios where the restroom could be denied to a child? Have you experienced any of these scenarios?
bassman21 bassman21
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5 Responses Dec 3, 2012

In some societies, males are supposed to be strong and in control, and displaying a "weakness" like needing to pee is looked down upon. So boys are encouraged to hold it even when there are no rules to forbid peeing, such as in social situations.

Okay recently I saw Dr. Phil talking to a girl about this school she was put in. The conditions were horrible. This was a troubled teen program. This program was located in Mexico. She said they had to ask permission to stand up and sit down. They also had to ask permission to talk, to look left and look right. If you were sick they were forced to throw up all over them selves. Or they wouldnt even acknowledge that they were sick. Also she said they couldnt go to the bathroom as needed. She saw a lot of girls peeing in their pants.
I thought WOW what a horrible place to be. Although in fantasy I would like to be forced to pee my pants and sometimes diapered for hours and the only option would be to fill that diaper up. I sure wouldnt want to be in this place she talked about. I really felt sorry for her. And her mother was just horrible and mean.
I like your story and discussion on this topic. Very well written.

Chz41580s: I have researched the topic very thoroughly over the past 15 years. These scenarios have all happened. A lot of the stories are fantasy made to look real, but others are real

I posted a story on here a guy told me in person years back. His father made him and his brother hold it as punishment, sometimes the entire day. On school days when being punished the teacher was told by the father not to let them go and she granted his request. After school they had to keep holding it until the father said they could go. I'm not sure how long after as I didn't get to ask. This was back in the 60s when things were a lot different. Also don't assume every teacher in every school would report such abuse. If the teacher themselves is abusive they may very well grant a request to deny the toilet the entire day. I could especially see this happening in a the south in a small town where corporal punishment is still used.

Also don't assume people in public would call the police either. I saw a little girl denied the toilet in Home Depot a few years back. The family was about the leave and they kept telling her she needed to wait until they got home. She was screaming/crying that she had to go potty and it got worst as they walked out the door when she realized they were not going to take her. No one did anything. While I think they should have taken her I didn't see it as abuse. For all I know she went just a few minutes before and she was playing games with them. A lot of people are sick of busy bodies telling others how to raise their kids and don't want to get involved without knowing the whole story.

I have found two stories one on a abuse recovery websites where extreme bladder discipline was used. One girl claimed she was never allowed to use public restrooms and was made to wait up to 7 hours on a long car trip. Even when they stopped to eat she wasn't allowed to go. The other was a guy that claimed his mother forbid him to use public restrooms in the same way. I also found a story on a adoption forum. The mother claimed that her adopted son for some time wouldn't use the bathroom for up to 18 hours. Come to find out the child biological mother only let him go twice a day.

For parents or guardians to restrict a child's use of the toilet that severely is unconscionable. Perhaps most of us, when we were children, were told by a parent to hold it a short while when we were on a car trip or out somewhere where there were no rest rooms, but hopefully never to the extremes cited above.

Fortunately my parents never made me hold it.

Fortunately, most schools now are much more liberal about students using the toilet, though some teachers may take a dim view of someone leaving in the middle of a presentation or lesson. But fewer students are flatly denied nowadays.

In many high schools, the classes are scheduled so closely together and lunch periods are so short that there is little time to use the rest rooms except during a class, and some students are embarrassed to ask, so they hold it. School rest rooms may also be avoided because they aren't clean, or they are the haven for smokers, druggies and bullies. (Teachers are no longer allowed to supervise rest rooms.) Boys in particular may be apt to brag that they can hold their pee all day at school.

"I have also heard stories of parents forbidding their children to use the restroom at school forcing them to hold it until they get home. This rule being enforced by the teacher. This could be a temporary punishment or a permanent rule! I couldn't imagine holding it for 8 hours everyday at such a young age. The time could be extended if the child is given detention and has to wait another hour or two. The teacher makes the kids walk with her to ensure he/she doesn't cheat! Take it a step further. When the mother/father come to pick them up they learn you have been causing the teacher problems. As punishment you are made to wait even after getting home. Another Scenario would be having to run some errands after leaving school, but since you're forbidden to use public restrooms you still have to wait even longer."

This sounds quite far fetched. I have heard of schools denying bathrooms - YES - Parents denying??? though much less often - still happened - But telling the school to deny bathrooms the entire day???? First off the teacher or principal would have to trun in parents for child abuse. This type of thing would be illegal in all 50 states. If a parent called a school and told them to deny bathrooms the entire day, the school would be obligated to not honor that request at the very least and more than likely call and report abuse. I did read a story that a girl posted about the stepdad that did what you described - But am unsure how true that story really is. I believe the step dad was sadistic and pulled bladder discipline on the girl but DOUBT he involved the school. and doubt that the teachers ALL went along. She even stated she managed to sneak to the bathroom a few times at least.

I also never heard of a parent making a child hold all day long. I have heard of some germaphobic parents diapering their kids so they would not have to use bathrooms or having them go outside. I have heard of parents maybe making kids hold an hour or even 2 hours. But an all day holding affair??? Sounds hard to swallow. Such abuse would be grounds for criminal action for parents. Even an abusive parent would be careful to not publicly deny a bathroom at a hotel or place where bathrooms were there. If they would do such a thing it would be done in private. So some of these situations sound far fetched.

Parents denying bathrooms are far rarer than schools. Schools have by far been the most famous in doing that. But even your scenerio in boarding school - That is about the most extreme that I believe. the one bathroom break a day rule at a day school - while rare that is also quite believable. Most of the strictest schools allow about 2 breaks a day - in fact in catholic School my mother went to she was allowed 2 breaks a day at 10 AM and 130 PM during a time that bathrooms were found vandalized so they were locked and open during those periods and those were manditory meaning every student HAD to use the bathroom at that time - have to go or not (Most all would be busting probably. I could never hold more than about 15 minutes.

Anyhow holding I would think would be far more painful than most any physical punishment that would be given.

I replied to you post.