I Was Caned By Mother

Since my childhood I have been brought up under strict surveillance of my mother. My mother was a very strict disciplinarian and a strong believer of using cane in disciplining child. She was a dictator to me. She caned me mercilessly with her thin rattan cane for any misbehavior, disobedience, indiscipline and mistakes in studies. Whenever and whatever I did any mistake she whipped out her cane from her cup board and strike brutally. What was the terrible sound!! What was the burning sensation person knows who received it. My father never beat us but he didn’t oppose mother’s discipline and caning. She always uses her rattan cane as our punishment. She caned us on our butt and legs, on which sometimes skin was broken even. I got speared from mothers caning when we entered to higher studies after completion of schooling. I always remember all those painful days.


Today I realize that my mother was right in disciplining me on her own belief & way for my own development and growth which I have achieved. But for her punishments, I would not have been what I am today.


riyaworld riyaworld
51-55, F
45 Responses Nov 29, 2009

Did she actually cane your bare skin? Whenever I'd been very naughty and my mum took my trousers down to cane me, it was horribly painful. She only caned my bare bottom though, never my legs.

i not like this kind of punishement


Oh yes the cane is certianly no joke! Especially after it is soaked for a while so that not only is its flexibility restored, but the tip is far heavier full of water, thus it makes a much deeper bite. Whereas a simple 12 with it dry will hurt yes, and leave some pretty good marks, wet it really hurts, and leaves real bruised welts.

i'am glad it made you a better person but i am 13 and i get the cane and the strap and it hurts like hell!

was caned by my Aunt in my teen years, after i once laughed at a spanking given by my mom, that was the last time i ever laughed as the cane was the new Implement. when i was 14 i was going thru a very rebelious time frame and I did what i wanted, well one weekend i was a at my Aunts and got very mouthy and she suggested I get a good tanning and being the rebelious child i was i laughed and said what ever, so mom told me to bendover and she spanked me a few times, my parents didn't believe in bare bottom spankings until now, so after i laughed and a little bit later when I got into with my mom again my aunt suggested she show her how its done and once again laughed at her saying what ever, so she told me to undo my pants and pull down my underwear and i told her to **** off, which was a big mistake, she said right now i was gonna get a good licking with a strap if i mouthed off again it would be 2 dozen with a cane, and i told her i wasnt pulling htme down, well needless to say i regretted that. she then told me the rules that i was to bend over legs wide apart and grabbing ankles and if i let go she added 2 strokes.. so i did bend over and after about 34 wallops and a severly beaten butt it was over. i was the most well amnnered kid for a couple months, then during christmas time, my parents were given the cane and mom my mom said the new rules were bottom, and for severe infractions was 2 to 3 dozen strokes. boy did i fear that cane, but i can tell you it made me a better person to this day.

My mother had both a school type rattan cane, and thin bamboo cane, as well as a belt and a dog lead with the metal clasp removed. For OTK spankings she used a hairbrush, bathbrush, wooden spoon, or wooden ruler. I remember having the skin broken on my bum and the back of my legs on a few occasions although it was not the norm.

i know how you feel i got the skin broken last week on friday.

It was very rare for my mum to cane me severely enough for the skin to be broken. I can recall this happening to me only once or twice when I'd done something exceptionally bad; and so it was trousers and pants down, and mum gave me well over ten strokes of the cane which left my bottom very sore and with deep red marks for ages afterwards.

The cane always had the last "say"!

oh poor u but i know what u mean.please add me

Children (and adults) should still be spanked in this way.<br />
A rattan cane is more flexible and one can built up more speed with it, specially the tip.

I also went through the painful experience of being caned by my mother during my childhood. But my mother didn't have a rattan cane, she used to punish us with a bamboo stick instead. There were several of these in our household which were used for gardening, and my mother first adopted the use of one of these implements as the cane when I was a young boy. She kept it in a cupboard for many years, and got it out whenever one of us deserved it.<br />
I was never caned at school, my mother was the only one to discipline me this way. I don't know whether a rattan cane would have been any worse, but I'll never forget the acute stinging I felt as she whacked my bare bottom several times with her bamboo cane, or the terrifying swishing and cracking sounds it made. My mother didn't use the cane on me for everything I did wrong though, and not all her canings were so severe. Like many other writers have also said, I know that she was only doing what she thought was the right thing, and this was the 1970's when it was still acceptable for a parent to punish a child in this way.

Yes schoolboysbum, it was the norm and as you say, it was accepted by all, for misbehaving! So when you stepped out of line you got spanked, so it was YOUR choice.

I too was frequently caned by my mum although stepdad preferred to use the strap or his belt. All my tannings were on my bare bum and mum usually cane both me and my sister over the kitchen table and would cane severely rarely less than a dozen strokes. If it cut or left deep welts well sobeit as far as she was concerned. I had plenty of hidings at boarding school with slipper or cane too. Yes mum's discipling of us would certainly be considered abuse today. But, like many of your other writers have said back in the 50's it was almost expected and even schools looked upon those parents who did thrash their children were praised rather than look upon as abusers. I well remember, more than once. returning to school after half term and having been caned by mum only for a master to see my welts, esp if he was about to cane me himself, would say that he was glad to see my parents disciplined me. Usually seeming to cane me even harder then. Yes it was different back then and it wouldn't be done today. But all children just accepted that was what happened if one misbehaved.

Hi nixon. Yes went to strict boys boarding school and many canings were shorts down on the bare and of course in showers and changing in the dorm any master may get a glimpse of a boys bare bum welted or otherwise. Trust that explains it.

When I was a boy in the 70's things still hadn't changed much, and my mum used to cane me too although she wasn't always so severe. She didn't give me the cane very often and I only had to bare my bottom if I'd been really bad. Mum would usually make me bend over my bed or a chair, and cane me a varied number of times according to the seriousness of my misbehaviour. For me it was the exception rather than the norm to get a dozen strokes on the bare, leaving deep welts which would be considered as abuse in this day and age, but back then people would have said that my mum had given me exactly what I deserved.

Yes, but not for the better!

I understand why it happened years ago and why I was caned myself. It was just part of the culture, although I don't think it was wrong them, today it just seems old fashioned. People still smack children and with in reason that still seems fine to me but not something I would do to my own children. Canning might have a place for some people once all other avenues have been closed but I don't see how it is possible in today's society. All it takes is the child to report the parent to the authorities and they would be so much trouble for child abuse and the child would end up in care. Times have moved on.

Exactly there is no excuse for physical abuse I WOULD NEVER HIT MY DAUGHTER and God help any one who put a hand on her they would answer to me

hi- balletgirl<br />
re your comment, my dad never used the cane only his hand or his size 12 slipper, most of the time across my knickers with dad it was over his knee.even his hand hurt, his slipper certainly did<br />
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all my canings was at my two senior schools, some more severe than others especially a caning from the head.some of the caning was my own fault, like failing uniform inspection( or has we girls called knicker check). <br />
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most canings across your knickers.

i was Made to Wait in my bedroom . Until My Daddy Went out to the pub . Then my mum would come to my bed room to Punish me . My Mum used A Rattan Cane often i was Severely Caned in my Teens it did me no Lasting Harm . Back in The 1960s Mothers were much Stricter With Teenagers .davidmaher48@gmail.com

D, yes it was the everyday thing!!

I did not get punished by mum its was alsways my dad, the alwful thing was waiting for him to come home,knowing that i would soon have a very red backside.it was done in a loving way to teach me right from wrong.<br />
in school we had the rattan cane which was welded across our backside if we stepped out of line, a couple of the canings could have classed as abusive, but in them days , we had to take the thrashings, most of the time punishments was across knickers.

Fine, I think my answer went through now.

Oupa I cannot access your profile.<br />
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Well I hope so, <br />
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I wish I cxould carry on with this one across my lap but it does no good. This will I hope. <br />
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Just need advice of the correct way to do it as I am a bit of a novice at this

Mandy it will work. Keep up the good work. You will receive the fruits later.<br />
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Sarah, I agree with your comment to Mandy. Lol<br />
I hope you can attain the required result with your offspring without moving to the cane.

Lynseyteen thanks for your message.<br />
I cannot answer. Keeps coming back!

Hi Mandy. I am also a single Mum. I have not got to that stage yet. I can still deal with mine across the knee but I empathise with your dilema after all what do you do when a normal spanking does not work anymore. I think you are a brave woman to go to the next step and lets hope it works out in the end or you wil be doing this for a few more years yet.

Well it is a different procedure to an over the lap hand spanking and I had to brace myself to go through with the actual step of getting her to adopt a position to make this work. I also realised that jeans or skirt or underwear were going to minimise the effect. thank you for your support.

I have had to resort to the use of the cane on my eldest. She is imune to normal hand spanking. I find it is the only way to get the message through. Grounding or taking away things have not worked, she frankly does not care.. I think this is working. <br />
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Mandy Single Mum

Yes Lynsey, that seem quite balanced!. Did you received my last comment!

The thought of what you went through is shocking for me as a young teenager<br />
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I am at home still and it is only ever done with the hand and I can say that most times that is enough. I would never call my treatment abuse but if I was treated like that with a ratten cane I think I would feel unwanted, abused and without any love.<br />
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I am sure your Mum had her reasons and tried in her way to do the right thing. I know my parents work together on discipline issues and one would restrain the other if it looked or sounded like it was too severe.

Caroline, <br />
Yes, there are times (as you said) when parents and teachers have the right to use the cane!<br />
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Schoolmaster, my boys got the cane; fortunately my daughter never earned the cane, but she received the slipper or paddle when necessary.

As the Headmaster of a boarding school you would be surprised how many canes I supplied to discerning mothers for use on their girls as well as boy's. I charged a very small fee covering the cost of the canes only which were supplied to me in bulk<br />
When our children were younger my wife and I also kept a cane. I would cane the boy's and my wife would cane our daughter.<br />
They are all successful, well disciplined and mannered adults today.

my mother has caned me herself several times in the headmaster study while he observed many times after he himself had already caned me.

Yes, there's always place for the cane in the life of a disobedient person.

i was very naughty in my childhood........no one cane me till now.today at 22..nowa days i realize the important of mother's cane.really i miss it

I do agree with u about the sting of the cane. although my mother preferred to use a three tailed leather tawse which stung excruciatingly, i also was caned with a rattan by my mum's manfriend, who was my headmaster. he used his cane on my bare buttocks many many times so like u i know what the sting felt like.

I appreciate comments, Riya; thanks!<br />
It was black; must have been painted, because there were places (at the tips) where the black was off. It was a rattan (very flexible) cane, 8 or 10mm thick(diameter).

thanks oupa. read your two stories. will read more and give comments. what type of cane used on you at home?

Riya, I have respect for you and the way you handled the discipline(caning) of your children: well balanced!! Keep up the good work with your grandchildren. I agree with Myo that your caning might have been abuse (because off the severity and blood), but all depends how you experienced it. Your mother might has overdo it, but she loved you and wanted to keep you on the straight and narrow. Fortunately it worked out that way too!! I was also caned by my mother and at school. Every time I deserved it. They know how to cane. It kept me from landing into the hands of the Law!, and then you received a criminal record - no thank you!!; and thank-you mom and teachers!!! You can read my stories about these spankings.

Thanks DormantSpring. I'm not alcoholic at all

Thanks dilfek2010. I do cane my kids when required, not severe like my mother. I found caning is very useful

Whatever it is , i strongly disagree that canning brought you to this state. It is your own will power and love towards her. I strongly oopose caning the kids. I hope you would not do this to kids.

Thanks Myotherlives. I don't think it was physical abuse only our mom loved us so much. We think mother's cane had great impact on our life and it was needed. Home CP is not banned in all countries, so still it's continuing.

Thanks Dburke99. I didn't get any erotic feeling on that.

Did you ever get erotic feelings about the punishments? Has CP become part of your sexuality?