He Betrayed My Trust But I Still Love Him

this sucks but yes I found out 6 weeks ago my wife of 20 years cheated on me a few months ago, worse still she initiated contact and mutually decided to meet after he drove 300 to 400 miles,while I was at work all day. I don't believe the things she tells me, she insists it wasonly 2 hours in the hotel{no one drives that far for only 2 hours] I'm still in love with her and she is doing all the right things too. My only suggestion is this is fresh for you give yourself time a month or 6 weeks and see how you feel. Please don't let things return to normal to quickly I did that and after 2 weeks I blew up and a lot of angry words were spoken. I hope this helps you some, feel free to contact me if yu eed to

hey. i'm going through a similar thing, except i'm not with my boyfriend anymore. honestly, i think you should break up with him. i found out my boyfriend was cheating on me with my classmate, and i broke up with him just yesterday. i still love him so much, but he really hurt me. you deserve so much more than that guy. my boyfriend (now my ex) said he cheated on me because the other girl relates to him so much and they both were feeling depressed. Well, i think you shouldn't date someone who can't make the right decisions and who completely betrayed your trust... basically, i'm suggesting you break up with him. there are many other guys out there, you deserve SO much more than some jerk. it's hard, yes, but slowly you'll get over him

I stayed. It was one of the hardest decisions I have ever had to make and some days I regret it, I'll be honest. I don't have any secrets for you but I have to tell you its going to be a roller coaster of emotions. You didn't deserve this and while he was being selfish by cheating, he is also your love. If he truly wants to be with you then he will work with you to make this easier. Your relationship will become stronger if you can rebuild that trust but know that it won't happen quickly. This will take a long time and there will be some bumps in the road but if its meant to be than you two will make it work.

sometimes you can forgive someone but you still find that you never get that trust back. You may not. Did you ditch the friend?

i believe everyone deserves a second chance. It's going to take a lot to trust him again, but if you really think he is worth it and you truly love him give it a shot. I always said if a guy cheated on me I would end it and that would be it but after meeting my husband I began to understand that people are human. They make mistakes. Your heart will tell you if he is telling you the truth. Trust your instincts though.

hey you know what there are alot worse things he could have done. look my girlfriend cheated on me too and we worked through it. its totally your personal decision but if he's doing everything right and wants to be with you i'd give it a shot. my girlfriend did the same and has been good since, he prob learned his lesson and hopefully wont make the same mistake again. and if he does at least you can say you gave him his chance

Ditch him. It just happened to me, and FAR worse. but it started with the little things: the flirting, the puppy eyes, and the hanging out because she had no one else. I thought it was nothing, but no one deserves to be second best with the person they love; they shouldn't even worry about it. There are other people out there who will love you, and more. Even if I can't believe that for myself right now.

Ditch him. It just happened to me, and FAR worse. but it started with the little things: the flirting, the puppy eyes, and the hanging out because she had no one else. I thought it was nothing, but no one deserves to be second best with the person they love; they shouldn't even worry about it. There are other people out there who will love you, and more. Even if I can't believe that for myself right now.

I have never had that happen but it will take a lot of time for you to heal. You will always be scared with the memory though. Only you will be able to tell if he would do it again. Not every girls kind of man that cheated on them is the kind you have. Talk to a pro. He will be able to tell you if it is worth going on with the relationship or not. If every guy who cheats and would do it again, then no psychiatrist would even try solving it. And they always check for a way to see if it can be fixed. So not all guys stay cheaters. I don't even know why they do it in the first place. Where is the self control.

if he did it one he will probably do it again