His Other WomenI can barely bring myself to think the world mistress because that makes his cheating feel even more real. But I suppose that’s what she was.
Ten years younger than me. He wasn't just attracted by her young body but by her "funny" and "interesting" personality. She's someone that "everyone loves".
He says he didn't set out to cheat but it wasn't a spur of the moment decision. They shared little in-jokes privately and publicly (apart from in front of me).
He claims she was nothing special. But yet she was special enough to distract him from me. Special enough to distract him from his newborn son.
She isn’t ashamed enough to be discrete. The very day after I confronted her she told another one of my husband’s work mates and they phoned me to torment me. Telling me they knew my husband better than me and basically saying I should have seen it coming.
She can not simply be cut out of our lives. He works with her. They share friends. She knows cousin’s of mine. Her aunt is good friend with one of my friends. If I could ever forgive my husband (which I think is unlikely) she will know secrets about my marriage and have the power to tell anyone them if she wishes. She lives in our hometown and knows hundreds of people on facebook.
Knowing that if I stay in my marriage people I know could find this out and gossip about me just adds to my heartache. If she had been some random person online who had no way to ever interact with my life or family and friends, it would be easier to forgive.
I might have my husband begging for forgiveness but she has all the power in this situation.