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Cheated On While Pregnant

hi.im 25 and when i was 4months pregnant i found out my partner of 4years was cheating on me with some one he worked with. we were over the moon when we found out we were having a baby,started making plans and reading all the baby books.like you do.then when i hit 3months my partner started acting a bit strang.going out lots till the early hours, then sleeping in the spare room when he came home.he said 'so he didnt wake me'.thought he just wanted to get all his partying out the way before the babe came along.then at 4months on a saturday night he asks if i can drop him off to meet some friends,thought nothing of it so gave him a lift.As i drove away i had a sick feeling in my stomache and something was telling me to pull over.so i did.sat at the side of the road for 5mins ,feeling really stupid and wondering what i was doing i decide to go home.As i look in my rear view mirror ready to pull away thats when my heart sank.There they were walking arm in arm.my blood was boiling,i wanted to be sick,i spun the car around and as i was haring towards them for a second i thought i wouldnt stop.but i did,{luckily for them}. he denied everything ,she just looked at me with a smug look.{the *****} that look still stays with me. anway we split up for 4months but still lived together which was hard,i started looking to buy somwhere for me and the babe,but not easy when your pregnant and you ve been cheated on.but at xmas 2006 we decided to give it another go,its hard to forget but i'm trying to move on.baby is 9months old now and we are living in my house together.we are taking it slow but hopefully the future holds goods things for us.i still have moments when i laps back in to a bit of depression, when i feel down and we ve had a few words. i still feel abit paranoid but hopefully time will make it better. any one got words of advise on how to move forward? 
ldm ldm 26-30, F 54 Responses Aug 29, 2007

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Hi my name is Catherine and I'm 34 yes,me and my husband have a daughter of 11 yrs and after a miss carriage I'm pregnant again,now I'm 35 weeks,from the first moment I was knowing I'm pregnant I was suspecting on my husband so input a spy can in his car and I caught him talking with his friend about woman's that he was ceating ,its not easy especially if he says that I'm crazy and I'm imagine things,I heard the voice with my friends to an sure I was write ,then I smashed the SD card I didont want to hear any more cause it hurts really badly,all the 35 weeks crying and sometimes wish that I will die or cut my wrist I tried and he still keeping saying that its not true and I'm crazy ,I start eating a lot with anger and heart broken ,I feel so fat and that I'm nothing just a crazy woman crying all night,but yesterday I was going gustvforca little rode in my car to feel little better and the battery was dye and I decided to go for a little walk I was crying and sad I talked with god and prayed him for helping me days I can't do it any more the pain is so big,I love my daughter and my baby very much I must live for them there was a church but the door was closed,I talked with God from outside and prayed for help ,I know that's not easy but I will try to fight this from yesterday I began a healthy diet when I feel sad I try to do something like walking or talk to my baby or hugging my daughter ,no matter what I want to live I know now that the problem wasent me I'm not crazy I'm gust hurt and oviusley and normal depressed,but the bad guy is my husband he's the one that hurt me hes the one with a cold heart so he's the crazy one and busterd he will burn in hell one day I'm sure,I'm still living with him in the same house trying to forget and love him ,my heart still have a big placed for him he's my babies dad ,in the same time my 15 years dog is so old now and he's dying slowly I love him so much he s my friend which I use to tell all my secrets and cry and he understand me and hugs me every time I will cry so pls l told you a little bit of my story ,I want you to be strong like I'm trying to do one day I will shine again and so you ,good luck xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

I'm 7mths pregnant and just 3days ago found out my bf my 1st love had been n maybe still is cheating on me, I happen to find the memory card to the camera in the car that had photos of him n this chick the most Fkd up thing is when he got back from being away for 5weeks leaving me pregnant at 6mths, he had told me one of his friends took the memory card out (it got stolen) so when I came a crossed it my heart dropped I knew it had something on it but it didn't stop me I needed to know.

I love this man with all my heart and would do anything for him!.

(Back to it) on the card had photos of him kissing her etc,
I just wanted to drop n die, so I walked in to our room pop open the laptop n showed him the pictures he just looked n said sorry it was a mistake. I was so mad I repacked his bags n told him 2 leave n go be a free man but he wouldn't, few hours later he makes me feel like I'm the one to blame, so I give in like I always do n try forget anything has happen but I can't this time its just so hard all I do is get upset n free depressed I don't know what to do.

I'm currently pregent not far along luckily and found out my boyfriend has been cheating on me with many women sleeping at there house and just horrible things. It's so hard and I feel so stupid to have trusted him
After he's cheated before . I thought having a baby would make him grow up and man up raise a family he was more happy about me being pregent then me. I just feel so low and played.

All this talk of men destroying your lives,
I have to say don't let them. Sometimes we lose people to realize we are better off without them. I'm no professional, but I have been jerked around in the worst sort of way.
I lost my father in 2007, and two years later met the most wonderful man, he took all that sorrow away, and made me feel alive again. He was sweet, engaging, considerate, but all of that was a veil. I got pregnant suddenly in 2011, and he blamed me for getting pregnant, lol, he did not handle the news well. Things were rough between us; he was in no way shape or form there for me while I was sick from the pregnancy, and dealing with it. I came to find out three weeks after I gave birth that was because he was involved with a married swinger; he had had sex with her when I was five months pregnant. Her husband took pictures of them in the act as some sick sex trophy. She was most proud of her role in this. I get the same kind of anger towards her that some of you all discuss, the sickening mood altering anger, and she avoids me, rightfully so.
He lied of course to protect himself, saying it was really to keep me from getting hurt :) Sure Casanova. He lied saying they were from his best friend...lol; I had met the kind of man who would do anything to save his own skin, who is so selfish that he would destroy relationships and friendships for one cheap thrill. This man I had thought was kind, sweet, engaging, and right for me, turned into my worst nightmare. Here I am with a newborn, and recovering from childbirth to find out that this man whom I loved so deeply betrayed me in the worst way imaginable.
I have to say ladies, it was hard, but I did not leave him. I wanted to, every day, but I had more than myself to think of now. He has changed, but I am not as blind or naive as I once was. All of this tragedy has made ME a stronger person and a better mother. I have a son, and I have a chance to raise him better than his father. I came to realize that this was his problem, not mine, and he was 100 percent responsible for HIS bad behavior. To his credit he has grown up by about 200 percent, and our trust is coming back, little by little. He takes care of his son, and is a wonderful father. IT's a personal choice whether or not to leave, if you think you can tolerate it, it does not make you weak. I knew that would be best for my family. It is the worst sort of betrayal imaginable, but there is recovery and healing, and strength to be found from the pain. Don't lose heart!
To quote one of my favorite songs, "if our hearts are never broken, there is no joy in the mending". I am no professional, but I'm not going to let a selfish man ruin my life!

Tanks for giving such strong worlds ,I feel little better the they are the problem and busterd so we have to fight this

All this talk of men destroying your lives,
I have to say don't let them. Sometimes we lose people to realize we are better off without them. I'm no professional, but I have been jerked around in the worst sort of way.
I lost my father in 2007, and two years later met the most wonderful man, he took all that sorrow away, and made me feel alive again. He was sweet, engaging, considerate, but all of that was a veil. I got pregnant suddenly in 2011, and he blamed me for getting pregnant, lol, he did not handle the news well. Things were rough between us; he was in no way shape or form there for me while I was sick from the pregnancy, and dealing with it. I came to find out three weeks after I gave birth that was because he was involved with a married swinger; he had had sex with her when I was five months pregnant. Her husband took pictures of them in the act as some sick sex trophy. She was most proud of her role in this. I get the same kind of anger towards her that some of you all discuss, the sickening mood altering anger, and she avoids me, rightfully so.
He lied of course to protect himself, saying it was really to keep me from getting hurt :) Sure Casanova. He lied saying they were from his best friend...lol; I had met the kind of man who would do anything to save his own skin, who is so selfish that he would destroy relationships and friendships for one cheap thrill. This man I had thought was kind, sweet, engaging, and right for me, turned into my worst nightmare. Here I am with a newborn, and recovering from childbirth to find out that this man whom I loved so deeply betrayed me in the worst way imaginable.
I have to say ladies, it was hard, but I did not leave him. I wanted to, every day, but I had more than myself to think of now. He has changed, but I am not as blind or naive as I once was. All of this tragedy has made ME a stronger person and a better mother. I have a son, and I have a chance to raise him better than his father. I came to realize that this was his problem, not mine, and he was 100 percent responsible for HIS bad behavior. To his credit he has grown up by about 200 percent, and our trust is coming back, little by little. He takes care of his son, and is a wonderful father. IT's a personal choice whether or not to leave, if you think you can tolerate it, it does not make you weak. I knew that would be best for my family. It is the worst sort of betrayal imaginable, but there is recovery and healing, and strength to be found from the pain. Don't lose heart!
To quote one of my favorite songs, "if our hearts are never broken, there is no joy in the mending". I am no professional, but I'm not going to let a selfish man ruin my life!

I mean no disrespect to you ladies but what your men did to you is the lowest form of betrayal. They discarded you at the times when you needed them most. Those of you that got back together, good luck. Those of you that moved on, congratulations on your self respect. If you want to be respected, you have to respect yourself first. And with nearly no exceptions, once a cheater, always a cheater. For those that wonder, I am a male.

He cheated on me while I'm pregnant and I know that so many times ,I heard him on spy cam talking and say about girls that he f----- ,I cried a lot also wished my shelf to die,but now I'm 35 weeks pregnant ,passed all my pregnancy crying ,his always saying that I'm the bad one and blame me for everything,he does nothing to blame with only for how how muched I loved him,that's the tanks,I m trying to stand up again on my 2 legs and do every thing to caught him I must revenge on him and then I will show him how strong I can be

I know exactly how you feel. I was cheated on by the "love of my life" 8 yrs ago when I was pregnant with our 1st child. He worked nights and because he was the boss he didnt have to stay he could come and go all night as he pleased. I knew something was going on when he stopped coming home for dinner said he was stuck at work. .and he wouldnt take my phone calls and coming home way after work ended...one morning I woke up at 7am to find he never came home the night before. I went out to his work his pickup was gone. I think he fell asleep at the ****** house. A couple months later a couple who were good friends of ours came over and told me they were at a party and this ***** was bragging about how she was sleeping with this guy (live in very small town. They had overheard this dumb ***** say his name and talk about him and her little rendezvous they had while he was supposed to be working like she was bragging about it! Unbeknownst to this ***** she didn't know there was people there that heard her and knew us. I was beyond devestated and very pregnant and felt very vulnerable. How could he do this to me? Why did he do this? What was wrong with me. I confronted him and he denied everything right to my face. .he even had this girls friend call me to say they were not sleeping together. Ya right. I remember a few months before this I had found a girls black sweater coat in his new pickup and it smelled of perfume I confronted him with the sweater in my hand and he had the nerve to tell me it was my sweater! I think I know my own damn clothes. Looking back now I was so damn naive. I thought about leaving him I stayed though stupidly and I wish to god I would have left. I think about it to this day. Its been 8 yrs I dont trust him and never will again I look at him in resentment every single day and I wonder why he did it? Not to sound vein but the girl he cheated on me with is a very homely average girl. Trust me speaking from experience if your man cheats leave him dont stay and regret it. Your trust is gone and with each passing year u will resent him more. Dont get me wrong we went on to have more beautiful kids and have remained very close we have an awesome sex life and I love him still to this day. But the resentment has never went away and the trust has never came back I often think I would have been happier if I would have left him. No women deserves to be cheated on. Every time I see the ***** I have to refrain myself from kicking her *** and then I start to shake and it affects my mood the rest of the day. Then I go home and take it out on him and he doesn't even know what im upset about. We dont speak about it at all. He still to this day denies everything. )

I'm now 6 months pregnant with our 2nd son and found out yesterday my husband cheated on me with another man, I'm disgusted, devastated, angry, sad the list goes on I don't know what to do. He swears its was one time, he was curious thought he might like guys but now he says it was the devil. I never thought he would ever cheat on me now I think all men are cheaters it makes me want to get revenge. Throw away my faithfulness. I don't know what to think or believe. He says he wants help wants to start going to church?

My boyfriend was cheating on me with a married man who's wife was having her second child, I've confronted the husband and made sure that if it ever happens again that I would make sure his wife would find out. I have the dilemma of telling her because she doesn't know and that doesn't sit right with me. Do I tell her or do I let her husband confess? Would you have liked to have known or been happier not knowing?

You need to tell her because he is probably sleeping with other men not just your bf. If he gives her an STD this could harm her child (ex blindness). I would want to know. You never know if he has done this before and this is all she needs to know to leave for good.

My husband and I have been together for 10 yrs. we have four beautiful children. And I am now 6 months pregnant with our 5th. I just found out two weeks ago he is cheating. Not only is he cheatibg but they claim to love each other!!!! I feel like dying everyday I wake up. He is acting like a completely different person. He won't spend anytime with the kids and acts like I dont exist. The problem is that he will not move out but spends lots of nights out with her. When he is here he spends most of his time out in the car on the phone, or takes the dog for lots of walks. I can not begin to express how much all of this hurts and how much I love him. Watching him come in and out of our house breaks my heart each and everytime. He just recently lost his brother who was also his very best friend and I really think when his brother got sick he felt lost and the timing matches up completely perfect. I don't want to lose him, he is my very thing but I think it's over and I am having the hardest time letting go. I'm lost an confused. I never seen it coming and now he is so far gone. I do everything for him and our children. Oh and our 3 yr old has been fighting leukemia for nearly 2 yrs now and every but of that has always been handled by me! Ugh I need help!

Thank you for sharing your story. My husband and I were married 10.5 years before we decided to have children. We've now been married 13 years and have our 2nd child who will turn one in two weeks. I recently found out that he has had 4 long standing affairs over the past year, starting just before I was due to have our 2nd child. He has been cheating on me for the past year, and I am completely heart-broken. I've supported him through career changes while giving up my own dreams of going to law school and now only have a limited term job for a 3 year contract. I love my life and have worked so hard for all that we have, at times holding 3 jobs at a time. I don't want to lose everything I've worked for, but I hate him so much. I desperately want to never have to explain any of this to my two beautiful and innocent boys. They don't deserve to ever have to feel any pain from all that he has put me through. He insists he was lost and deeply regretful, but I don't know how to heal. I deserve so much more.

I am six months pregnant and just found out my husband cheated on me three months ago. He slept with his friends wife. He blamed it on being drunk . Not only did it happen once but three times. He wants to stay with me cause he doesnt want to leave his unborn son. I dont think i can do it. I hate him now for what he has done. Makes me so sick to think what he has done.

Hi everyone, I'm so glad that I used this site to write my story ,one to find so many of us in the same boat ( which is pretty sad and hard to take really) and secondly that my story has helped some people as well, everyone's stories are so similar to mine but also different aswell.

I thought I would just update this as at the end of my story I said we were gonna give it another go! Well 6 years on and we are still together! We have 3children now and are engaged to be married! We are happy and have worked through things, which was very hard at the time but as time has gone on its a very distant memory!!! Very much in the past!!

I know some people may think "how stupid to give him another chance" but it's what I needed to do and if I hadn't then there would have always been that "what if" but I was all prepared for it to go the other way too.

I know some of ur situations are very different but I'm a story of someone who has gone through heartache but managed to come out the other side, a much stronger person ! I hope it shows that there can be happiness at the end of a ' mistake' 'infidelity ' and I hope it helps some of u realise that it doesn't just mean the end!

I hope all of u are doing soooooo well with ur children whether u are with the partners or not and that this site has given us comfort and hope and a shoulder to cry on!

Take care everyone xx

Thank you very much! I going through this now and the stress and depression (eating and drinking poorly) actually caused me to go into labor and be hospitalized since I am not due for another 7 weeks. I love this person with all my heart but am contemplating if it is worth my health and the health of my child.

You shouldn't be with someone who cheated on you. If he cared then he wouldn't have pulled that stunt on you. Show that you got self worth and move on without him because next time he will do things different so that you won't catch him next time and who knows he might give you an STD. Why bother try to give it another go if he never loved you in the first place? A true man would have been by your side instead of going out with another woman behind your back

I am sorry to here what you went thru..........i was pregnant with m first child an i found out my bf had another gf while we were together the other girl kept sending me threathing messages an stuff i kept asking him about it an he wld get angry at me for not believing him....one day i decided to go through his messages an there he was tellin the same girl he loves her night after night............there were alot of pictures of them in his phone of them kisssing an so on i was real hurt i decided to pack my things an leave he kept callin me but i wldnt answer one day i decide to give him a chance an we bout sat dwn an tlk about it an we decided to work things out now were living together in my house an having another baby an were engaged :)

How do you get over that and not replay it in your head. And how do you trust again.

i know the feeling.. my wife and i were togeather for 4 years, but not even married a year.. to me everything was great the whole time... i trusted her completly..i never thought she would cheat on me in a miollion years... everything was great even up to the last time i seen her...
she was going back to her hometown a lot seeing her parents, she started hanging out with an old guy friend, she ended up getting drunk and spending the night with him.. when i found out i told her to come get her stuff, we were done.. i will tell ya, it hit me like a ton of bricks .i didn't have a clue...

I felt really sorry while reading your story....and sorry to kno that so many other woman had to feel the way I felt while I was preg during there pregnancies and go through what I went through...wouldnt wish that on anyone and to see how many other woman have been emotionally dragged through the dirt (especially while preg) makes me sad and frankly, ****** me off.<br />
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I was living with my BD throughout my pregnancy. As I got bigger, our relationship grew worse. He was never considerate of me being pregnant. I was sensitive and moody and I had concerns about our baby and our relationship that I tried to share with him but he didnt want to understand so he just interpreted me as being a naggy *****. He had roomates and I indeed had to deal with the late nights and the partying and the loose girls around the house (college kids). At one point I was ashamed to even be preg because no one understood and I was surrounded by ppl that I couldnt relate to in dealing with my pregnancy including my own BD.....I was absolutely miserable. The arguing matches were more and more often and I thought space would be good for us so I moved out. Although we were still together, there was a girl the hung around the house with him and his roomates that I was skeptical of and he told me that I was ridiculous because he wasnt into her. He broke things off with me when I was 6 months preg and it was one of the most devastating moments of my life. Not because I was hurt, but because I had already suspected he was cheating before that and I didnt want to end things with him because of our unborn baby and our family to be.....then he ended it. I felt robbed....I felt dumb for thinking that we could work things out...for caring<br />
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I had to find out from his friends that he had a thing going on with that very same girl he told me not to worry about. It was then when I realized what had been going on right under my nose.<br />
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Soo.....I had to spend the remainder of my pregnancy alone....knowing that he was opening up to some other chick while I was lugging his kid around in my stomach. I was sick with depression and anger. The resentment I feel for him is deep and dangerous and I hope at some point it goes away so I can be a happy person again. Im not sure when (if ever) will I find forgiveness for him and for me for letting him do that to me. My baby is now 5 months and well and I am very grateful for that, but I am still in the process of healing myself and it gets very difficult. "one day at a time" is the motto. I can pretty much count on my hands how many times my BD has seen his kid and he gives me zero help with him......oh and he's still with the girl too. <br />
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To ldm: If your still even reading at this point my advise to you is use your better judgement. Dont let your love for him make you compromise who you are as a person. If you feel that your partner is a changed man now...that is a good thing, but that shouldnt be somthing that you have to convince yourself as being true. You should know without a doubt. If you think you deserve better, confront those feelings NOW before you invest anymore time and energy.....ending a bad relationship with some one you love is hard but going through that is more than worth how you would feel if he hurts you again.<br />
Goodluck, I hope this helps alittle

I just realized that ldm posted this story in 2007, Ha! Well......good advice is good advice anyway. I hoped what I said helped anyone else whos in a similar situation

You certainly helped me. I am going through this now and need all the support and advice I can get!

I am 18 weeks pregnant and in the last 5 hours just caught my (now ex) with another person! How the heck do we move on from this

When I was 4 months pregnant my boyfriend was scared so he started partying well I thought that was all but I recently found out (2 1/2 years later) that he cheated on me while I was pregnant he tried denying it when I heard about it a little over 6 months ago but I found out who the girl was and decided to ask her myself she told me the truth and then my boyfriend had no choice but to tell me the truth its just so hard to k ow what I should do how to move past this were engaged, supposed to be married next year idk if I should call off the wedding or should I leave him I'm just so confused it was almost 3 years ago and he's a different person and I know he's sorry I just don't know if I can get through this

When I was 19 weeks pregnant I found out that the father of my son has been cheating on me since we started dating (which is five months but we knew eachother for a year prior to us dating). This has been so upsetting knowing that while I cried at night he was holding some other women that was not carrying his child. The worst part was he acted like everything was okay between us. He would call me daily, text me all the time and even hung out with my family and I. How can someone live a double life like that? I will never understand his way of thinking...I am now so worried about my son because my whole pregnancy I have been depressed and I have cried often. I hope that my son will come out healthy. I will not be able to forgive his father for a long time.

Hi Bestrong22, your comment touched me...its very similar to what happened to me.I was miserable most of my pregnancy cuz all my BD wanted to do wus hang with friends and party. After a while I wus very skeptical that my BD wus cheating on me with a particular chick that hung around the house with him and his roomates. And it wasnt until after we broke up in my 6th month that I knew what wus going on rite under my nose. I couldnt even sleep without a crying spell most nights. Anyway, I felt the exact same way u did while I wus preg and had the same concerns about my unborn boy. My baby was born April 6th 2012 and was perfectly healthy and still is today at alomost 5 months old. So from personal experience I gotta tell u that ur baby will be too. As much as it hurts, dont worry yourself because you and your baby will be just fine. Try to surround yourself with ppl that make you happy because that is what you deserve rite now. Hope this helps alittle.

lol. I am stupider. Both of us r students in university. So, here goes the story. <br />
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We were going out for almost one year already. then on my 2nd year. I got pregnant. On summer break, both of us went back to our own family. No one knew about me getting pregnant. So we come into conclusion that we are going to abort the baby. 4 months preg, he said he still love me. He texted me and call me everyday during the holiday. I never had a chance to meet him cuz our place were so far. its 3 hours travel using car. Each day pass, his attitude began to change, I can sense it(instinct) by reading his text and interval time his calling me. And i got this uncomfortable chilly feeling everytime he angry with me.. although i know i did not do any wrong. The whole 2 months summer break. I made up my mind to break up with him after i do abortion. and never to think him again in future.<br />
so, I asked him if he have another girlfriend. and I knw these past few months a girl keep pushing him to accept her feeling. she was his classmate during middle school until high school. I ask him if she is the girl. He just keep quite. Then I knew that I was correct. Then I didnt say anything to him afterward. I just wanted to abort the baby, solve the problem and walk away from his life for good. I dont need a guy who cheat on me even when he know i love him so much and I got pregnant for him.<br />
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then again. Life sure like to toy me around. I end up keeping the baby in my tummy. I feel this close connection. every kick the baby give to me, it was somehow reassuring and making me calm. knowing that i'm not alone this whole time.<br />
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Me and my boyfriend didn't break up. but again.. he can't break up with the girl. because the girl is threatened him if he ever break up with her, she will commit a suicide. And that makes me feel pity for her. and she didnt know about my existence as his girlfriend for sure. the only thing she know both of us are close friend. and I hate it when tht girl trying to get close to me from facebook and say good thing. i feel like she is a hypocrite sometimes because the way she text me in facebook. it was soft but sarcastic in the same time. but she still keeping her innocent aura everytime we chat. AND I HATE IT! i dont want to talk to her, but I dont want her to get suspicious(and yeah, y I AM the one who need to hide???)<br />
I safely give birth to a baby girl at foreign place, without anyone, without my family. because they still dont knw about it. each day my boyfriend getting attached with our baby. and he love her so much. his other girlfriend still didnt know about our situation. but she keep telling him she is jealous of me, always near with him. Its still pain me a lot when the girl post at facebook like she is the victim and I am a *****. I saw them webcam, but i keep tolerating with him. the girl call him, i just act like nothing. its like, its a daily routine for me to hear that girl voice. After so long, i became immune. but slowly i realize, my love toward him getting dull by time.. we are still together now. and he is still with the girl. everyone in university knew about us. but anyway... she still dont know about us. <br />
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ps:i didnt get marry with the guy. but i still love him. afterall he is still the father of my baby. I just have to keep my patience long, and keep enjoying my love that left for him. so yeah. I register the baby under my name-under status single mother. *sigh* afterward, my family know about me and the guy. and didn't want us to get married. lol. what a life. long. sorry.. i just... want to let out all my feeling..its been hard for me to suppress my feeling for 2 years..compromise such relationship where im the one who have to hide it. as if im the one who done wrong... he was wrong and im covering it for him. Im a dumb girl who is so dumb to fall in love with a dumb guy.. wht can i say. Love make people blind. It makes people become an idiot and slowly kill us like a poison.

girl!! wow!! i think this guys is a two timer!! playing both of u!!
how old are u??
No love is NOT blind that just the excuse "we" used to let things happend... i would understand that he cheated and u forgive him thats acceptable but him having being with u and at the same time with the other girl! NO! You need to ask God to pull u thru and only Him will help you! this is not a safe enviroment for ur baby! ... sorry i truly wish u nothing but GOOD LUCK!

sometime last year my husband started hidig his phone from me and deleting his messages. that was after i had a misacarriage. he started going out on weekends not coming home til past midnight &amp; will only say he was with friends. it went on for almost 2 months and hen things went back to normal. last month we found out im pregnant so we were pretty excited &amp; at the same time extra careful coz we cant loose any more baby. weeks ago, he started acting strange again, not coming home straight from work &amp; sometimes he doesnt come home at all until morning. i was paranoid about it so i asked help from my family coz i know something is really wrong. if i try to confront him, he wouldnt give me a direct answer. crazy but i even check his underwears &amp; find white stains on them all the time. <br />
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one night my cousin decided to spy on him from work. he was being followed on his motorcycle from work, went to a narrow alley to pick up his girl &amp; checked in to a motel. my cousin called me, we had authorities with us and we tried to get a good caught in the act scene but unfortunely, motel people barred us from coming in. i was really getting depressed right now. he still comes home to me thugh but we dont talk anymore. i didnt confront him about the incident but he already knew that i am totally aware now. it could be ou of guilt that he doesnt talk to me directly because i am still being nice to him despite my knowledge of his affair. the pain is like killing me. he told me he still wants me and the baby, thats all. he never mentioned about leaving the girl or break up with her. very frustrating.

totally depressing isnt it? Guys are sometimes too greedy..

Im so sad while reading all of those cheating stories. It made me realize that I have to be stronger for my unborn child. He cheated on me right now in my 5mos pregnancy. And told me I was still his love one. But I dont think so. I want to break up with him but he never allow me. He was too selfish that didnt care about my hurting feelings. I still want to think that we can work this out together. Oh forgot to say that He had a chance to meet other woman because He works far from me. I cry almost everyday when I found out when he had his 1wk vacation to visit me. I read all those txt msgs. He told me that nothing had happen to them. But I dont know what to believe. My baby still my inspiration when her father leaves us. Ill just accept the fact. Aleast we arent married yet. It will be more difficult if we are already married then. :-) goodluck mommies. I just want all of us to move on. Literally.

Im so sad while reading all of those cheating stories. It made me realize that I have to be stronger for my unborn child. He cheated on me right now in my 5mos pregnancy. And told me I was still his love one. But I dont think so. I want to break up with him but he never allow me. He was too selfish that didnt care about my hurting feelings. I still want to think that we can work this out together. Oh forgot to say that He had a chance to meet other woman because He works far from me. I cry almost everyday when I found out when he had his 1wk vacation to visit me. I read all those txt msgs. He told me that nothing had happen to them. But I dont know what to believe. My baby still my inspiration when her father leaves us. Ill just accept the fact. Aleast we arent married yet. It will be more difficult if we are already married then. :-) goodluck mommies. I just want all of us to move on. Literally.

I was 7 months pregnant when I dicovered my husband cheated on me with a married woman from the same social club, every one around me knew what was going on and I knew nothing,this was dealt with by the leaders of the group who wanted the whole drama to end, apparently my husband wanted the affair to end but this woman was not in the mission to end the affair but to let it go on under ground, my husband told her that she wanted to confess and admitt to the whole thing but she told him that she wil deny everything, cos if she admitted her husband wil divorce her and she wil be without marriage. Huby admmited to his wrong and we are stil together and stil belong to the same club,the fact is though I have forgiven him, I stil hurt when I think of what he did to me, some times I would wake up at night look at him sleeping peacefully without any worry as is what he did was norma. Yes my husband apologised crying and kneeling down but I feel he has not appologised the way I wanted him to, seeing the other woman at the club makes wanna beat the hell out of her... At some stage I gave her a nusty look and felt good after that...I walk and look as if nothing is wrong all is we'll huby and I are stil fine... He is happy and sees that am ok and that I have forgiven and forgotten like al men think is easy for a woman to move on after she's been ceated upon, we can forgive but bot forget. It is hard to be cheated up on getting even by cheating as we'll won't help instead I choose to be failful and not be unfaithful. God wil see me through this.

what happens to these men and these children of these men? are they allowed to just keep creating life and destroying lives? do we need moral jails/rehabs? this is the sickest glimpse into a world i have ever seen. it's like that lady who said 'yeah, you think it only happens in movies or to losers until it happens to you." I aborted the baby i was having with my husband... there was just too much chaos and hate to bring a child into at the time.. . then we of course made up - he's had a terrible childhood yadda yadd... and find out that he was cheating with his babymama ... almost like he was saying it's just 'fun and games that they do ... didn't know it could hurt someone.' and i'm like, "you're really going to say this to me?" he just admitted it all to me last night. i had been lovingly let him go see his prescious child thinking how odd it was that he sometimes really jonesed for his kid and sometimes didn't. turns out... yup. he was jonesing for the smug hootch of that woman who apparently LOVES to just have down and dirty sex. i guess that's different than me who i guess requires a mantra to the seventeen benedictions of boring to even begin to look at sexually. i'm forty and it's actually the first time i've ever been cheated on. our child would have been born last month. i think about what a failure i am to her even now. even now clinging to bringing her back and having a loving life with her father... <br />
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but what's to be done? exorcisms? teaching about relationships as a mandatory class in pre-school? sticking by these people until they break thru? having a 'jail' where offenders have to go into intensive therapy? or is it just "oh wells, another destructive human being destroying human beings"... what is it like to want to emotionally murder someone? to want to be so in control that you get to have two women in your stable at all times - one madonna and one *****. .. to never want to feel real love to love yourself... that's the irony of the whole kid thing... they love those adoring products of themselves... because it's trust. weird. <br />
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my apologies. i really really really really really hope that you are strong enough to show your child what fierce self-love is.... dunno. ranting..

To men are weak...all I can say is I wish or can't wait to have my baby girl. I don't think I will ever forget what he has done all I see is the other woman as well. I felt betrayed and still do that he would do this to me now while pregnant when I feel I should be happiest, I should feel more support from him, he should cherish me and make me feel even for more special...instead he cheated and made this pregnancy so hard on me. You found out after you had your baby and I have to say better that way especially now because with a clear none hormonal mind you can make the decision that is best for you. Wishing you the best.

i am 30, my partner and i where delighted when i found out i was pregnant. we have been together 4 1/2 years. he went to work abroad for 3 months in this time, to earn extra cash for a bigger house. in that time i was so hormonal, i would call him and he d be in a pub after work, or sometimes he would nt pick up, this sent me completley mad. panick attacks, anxiety. i just could nt cope. so after 6 weeks of it i told him to get lost and through my phone in the river so he could not contact me. i was so sure he d come home to me. but he did nt. 6 weeks later when the 3 months was up, he came home. there was a row and all was forgiven. a month later we had a beautiful girl. he was a great father. then when our daughter was 6 weeks old he went abroad for work again, and i joined him after 8 weeks for a holiday. i found out he had cheated on me while i was pregnant, he had taken this girl out on several occasions and slept with her.at the point when i was at the lowest i have ever felt. it was in the 6 weeks when i had not spoken to him. they have nt had any contact since. i can not get over it. does he deserve another chance? can you actualy move on? all i see is her.

I met my boyfriend a year after his wife's death. He was so in love with her and still even had his step kids living with him (they are adults 23,20,18) and still does. His love for them and his wife made it very easy to fall for him. We have been together a year and a half and we have been very happy with one huge exception he refused to be public about our relationship when it came to his deceased wife's family. I am already a single mother of 4 and never really thought about having another child but he only had 1 son (15) who lived in another country and really wanted to have a family. I felt very loved so I gave in. The truth is I love him and having his baby just seamed perfect. His Mom had died a few months prior to his wife and I knew there had just been so much saddness in life, so I wanted to bring a little happiness into his life. At the time of course I thought he would come out right away about us once. My mistake then I was pregnant but he still didn't come out about us he kept hiding me and my kids. Then 2 weeks ago I found out that he was cheating on me ...Im so heart broken. I am now 20 weeks along he says he never slept with her but I know its not true I read the emails. I only found out because she was on his Facebook as having a relationship with and even more sickening is how he didn't hide her but he did hide me from his deceased wires family. I changed his whole profile put pics of us up and shared the pregnancy now everyone knows about me and our planned pregnancy . His deceased wife's family is fine with me but hurt that he lied to them all this time. He is trying to fix things with me but I just don't trust him anymore. Im glad that his deceased wife's family is willing to welcome me but under the circumstances I don't want to meet them anymore. As for the other women because they met while he was out of the country supposedly it was not serious but they slept with each other and he continued to speak with her and flirt with her even after I got pregnant. He has made this and his deceased wires family has made this all about them not knowing about me but in reality what hurts on top of that is the cheating. Im trying to forgive but it hard I relive that moment when I saw his Facebook page, the pic of the other women , I remember the details of their emails, and it makes me hurt so much. Now he wants me to meet his deceased wife's family and I am just not ready. Im embarrassed that he cheated on me so publicly. He wants everything to go back like before he thinks our problems are solved because now he doesn't have to hide me. The true problem is not that anymore its that he cheated on me when I needed him most and I can't get over it I don't know what to do. I feel so alone and trapped in this relationship because of this pregnancy. I know he loves me but then I feel stupid for staying with him because he cheated I know Im a stronger person than this but now with the pregnancy I feel so weak.

Your guys are idiots. There is nothing hotter or sexier than a pregnant women they just glow.

I'm 29 and coming up on the end of my 3rd trimester... About 2 months ago I found out that my boyfriend of about 10 months cheated on me (about 4 months ago). I happened to come across some emails he had sent to someone he had solicited off of CRAGISLIST (yuck) whom he gave our address to and evidently had an affair at our home while I was gone for the weekend. I kicked him out of course (it was better than murdering him I guess)... I had (and still sometimes do) strong feelings of hate towards him because he hurt me so bad. He had built himself up to be such a "stand-up" guy in my eyes, only for me to find out that he was a cheat and a liar... If I weren't pregnant my choices about what to do would be much simpler....but I'M PREGNANT. I could raise this baby by myself...but I don't want to. I want to have the family that we were planning. For the past few weeks we've been seriously working on dealing with the situation... He seems to be sincere about being sorry and feeling horrible about what he did... He says and is trying to show me that he wants to and will do anything to gain my trust again, but I just can't fully buy it. A big part of me still thinks that every word that comes out of his mouth is a lie, especially since he proved how good a liar he is... I want to trust him again, but it's really hard... I feel a little stupid for even being bothered with him still, but when Ur pregnant with a baby, decisions that may have been so easy to make just aren't that simple anymore... My daughter deserves to have a home where BOTH parents are there caring for her, so that is pushing me to try get over what happened and work this out with him. Am I stupid???

Hi, I'm a man in a very similar situation. My GF cheated on me while we were together, but she was just pregnant at the time and kept lying to me when we were together. I know your feelings and I know it's been a while since you wrote this story, but I would love to hear how it turned out?