After my grandmother and grandfather died my mother and stepfather took anything that was left to me by my grandparents. Not long after my stepfather passed too, my mother just shut down and wouldn't let me see her anymore. I offered and offered and she turned me down every time I tried to see her. Soon after she started slandering my name across the family and siblings. There's so much more to the story but bottom line we haven't spoken a word in years. Not by my choice.

I can't imagine going through the rest of my life without them.

I can say for sure that the only thing worse than grieving for a loved one that has died is grieving for ones that are still living. At least in death there's some understanding. Being disowned offers no closure or understanding.

onebeautifulflower onebeautifulflower
2 Responses May 1, 2009

I have had a similar experience and would be interested in further details. Do you think the recent deaths had anything to do with your mother's shutting you out?

What's happened with you has happened to many people. It was my daughter who slandered my name to my relatives after I'd been gone and not talked to them for 11 years. Dirty is as dirty does and the reason I stopped speaking to them in the first place is because of everything ranging from molestation to hurtful actions by my mother. I managed to put all that aside and reached out but the damage was done and I quit and now it's been 9 years since I've been in contact with those jerks. There is no love lost believe it. If your mother is acting that way that's her loss. You don't need to be around people who act ugly with you.