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Hit and Run

I was a hit and run victim when I was 16 years old.  The hospital called me their miracle.  I was brain dead when the paramedics came.   My knee muscle  was torn out of my right leg.  

I was in a coma for a couple of weeks.   I had to learn to do everything all over again, including walk.   I was violent in the coma.   My parents still have scars from me. 

The only emotion I knew after I woke up was anger.  Then I learned depression.  I still suffer from these 2 things 25 years later.  I don't see myself as ever being cured.  That's why I say, "I fell on my head and knocked a screw loose".  Only now they call my anger anxiety.  

The guy driving the car was drunk.  It happened 1 block away from his house.  He left his car parked in his driveway with my blood smeared all over it.  My knee muscle was hanging off of his fender.  We sued him for 1 million dollars, we won.  He filed bankruptcy, and never had to pay $1.00. 

I apologize  to anyone  that I may offend with some of my comments, but sometimes  my anger takes over.  Thank you for letting me tell my sad life story. 

boarderline boarderline 36-40, F 23 Responses Oct 2, 2008

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They should've done to him what they do to you when you can't pay back the bank. Seize all assets -- everything. F--k the bankruptcy. Take it all and then use that to pay of however much it would of the 1mil.

Tuesday November 29 I was hit by a 4x4 with my friend crossing the street coming from work going going home. The guy saw us crossing but thought he had enough room but sadly he hit me in my ribs and fractured them. Me being hit made me go into my friend and she fell hitting the floor on her head. I jumped up right away screaming " what the f ". He stopped, I didn't feel any pain yet but my adrenialin was running. He wouldn't call 911 so I had to and then called my mom. We were rushed to hospital, thank god my friend was fine. I can't believe it happened and I'm unable to sit with our thinking of it. It's something I will deal with the rest of my life. I just finished crying my eyes out and explainer to my best friend how I'm feeling but even though I didn't go through what you went through its still a trauma I will deal with. I was determined to go to school today but leaving I froze crossing the street to my moms car and it scared me so much. I'm scared to sleep because of the fact that I will see the accident happening again and I feel the impact too. I am also 16 at this moment.

Tuesday November 29 I was hit by a 4x4 with my friend crossing the street coming from work going going home. The guy saw us crossing but thought he had enough room but sadly he hit me in my ribs and fractured them. Me being hit made me go into my friend and she fell hitting the floor on her head. I jumped up right away screaming " what the f ". He stopped, I didn't feel any pain yet but my adrenialin was running. He wouldn't call 911 so I had to and then called my mom. We were rushed to hospital, thank god my friend was fine. I can't believe it happened and I'm unable to sit with our thinking of it. It's something I will deal with the rest of my life. I just finished crying my eyes out and explainer to my best friend how I'm feeling but even though I didn't go through what you went through its still a trauma I will deal with. I was determined to go to school today but leaving I froze crossing the street to my moms car and it scared me so much. I'm scared to sleep because of the fact that I will see the accident happening again and I feel the impact too. I am also 16 at this moment.

what a ****** retard. Way to get hit by a LARGE moving vehicle where you have plenty of time to get the **** outta the way. GOD.... people these days.... You god damn retard

I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. Did the woman, who hit you, being an illegal immigrant, suffer any consequences from this, or did she just get sent back to her country? <br />
I had to relearn everything, also. I have no clue what my life was like before the age of 16. I just look at it like I was born at 16 years of age! <br />
You say you have strange and weird dreams. I couldn't tell you if I have the weird dreams or not. I wake up, and occasionally will know that I had a dream, but I can't remember a thing about them. I still have a memory problem.<br />
My boundaries are a big issue with me, also. My problem is trusting people. My guard is always up.<br />
Can the men be arrested in your town for spitting at someone too? <br />
Thank you for inviting me to recognize your Happy <br />
Trauma-versary. Funny thing is my accident happened in March.<br />
((((HUGS))))

Thank you PeedeeDog. (((HUGS))) (((SMILES))) (((HUGS)))

Ouchie boarderline! My prayers go out to you!!

Let's hear it for our loose screws! HURRAH!!!!!<br />
I wouldn't have wanted to take his car or his house. I would have been happy with an apology from him.<br />
You are a genuine and caring person, that's one of the reasons why I respect and care about you.<br />
Thank you for being here and being yourself!

Thanks dorobo. I have searched and searched for ways to control the anger problems. I've come to realize that I have no way of stopping the feelings from coming, but I have learned how to make them go away. I go for a long walk.<br />
For some unknown reason, walking calms me down.<br />
Thanks for the offer of company though, I love ya for it!

There are a lot of ideas about anger management. The main thread is that anger is there and will be there so we have to learn how to manage it. I can relate to that. I struggle with it too, for different reasons, none resolved. I suppress most of my anger and then it fires off like fireworks and scares the hell out of everyone around me not by what I do, which is usually childish, but by it's sudden onset and because usually I appear so well controlled. And it is that, controlled. Management is complex, no one system fits all, like clothing. There are people around that know how to suggest things that might help you deal with it. Have you searched? I'm sure you must have already. Another approach is called desensitizing the person by repeated controlled ex<x>pression of the anger like hitting a pillow while shouting the words you'd like to express. The person helping you then refocuses you by asking how you feel then asking you what time and date it is and where you are. This helps you learn that the anger is about something dead in the past that keeps popping out of the closet. The more you repeat this the less intense (in theory) the feelings are and you hopefully can feel it coming and shrug it off, remembering that that was then and this is now and there is no real connection. Much easier to tell you than to achieve. Let me know if you find someone that helps you. I might fly there and sit beside you. lol

Thank you sweetie. I agree with you on the drunk drivers. They hardly ever seem to be the ones who get hurt.<br />
I wont let the SOB get me all the way down. Some days are harder than others, but I'll never quit fighting!

Thank you unhappybear.<br />
(((hugs)))(((hugs)))(((hugs)))(((hugs)))

THAT IS TERRIBLE...YES THAT ACCIDENT MAY HAVE INJURED YOUR BRAIN SOME HOW TO CAUSE THIS CLINICAL DEPRESSION...AND TO THINK THIS PERSON NEVER HAD TO PAY YOU A DIME...NOT LIKE IT WOULD HAVE MADE YOU FEEL BETTER...BUT HE SHOULD HAVE HAD TO ANSWER FOR THIS...YES...I WOULD ALSO BE VERY ANGRY...AS YOU SAID YOU REALIZE THOSE FEELING ARE THERE TO STAY AND NOW YOU ARE DEALING WITH THEM...A VERY STRONG PERSON INDEED...I WISH YOU THE BEST ON THIS...

I just wish there was a cure for it! Did your friend ever find a way to deal with their anger?

(((((smile)))))

oh, i'm sorry....that totally sucks...I hate irresponsible people....they should..well i'm not going to say it here, it's going to sound very very strongly..

My knee healed up, I'll just never have a muscle in it. I have favored my right leg for the past 15 years. So, now my good leg is overworked and gives me just as much trouble. Hello arthritis! I've come to the conclusion that there is no helping me in the anger (anxiety) or depression part of my life. So, when I say, "I fell on my head and knocked a screw loose", I'm dead serious! Sounds funny, but it's true!<br />
Thanks for asking and caring, it is appreciated.

You have righteous anger but the longer you keep it then he's won! Am I right that your leg wouldn't heal the way it should with part of it missing? Hope that someone has tried at least to help you channel that anger into something good. Not an easy thing to forget or forgive.

Of course you would be angry and sad. A part of your life died with no memory. I'd be so angry. It says a lot about even in the coma you were angry.

Yeah, tough as they come. I've learned not to trust people.

Holy crap. Well, he'll get his when the time comes. But you've grown up to be a wonderful individual. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. So you must be a tough ******! lol.

Nope. No insurance. He had money though. He was driving his brand new caddie. He also had a brand new house.

O thats TERRIBLE. I assume the A$$ didn't have insurance ???? I'm so sorry dear.