But wasn't interested. He was a bit older than I usually like, and did not look good, plus he was dirty.

DeadOfDecember DeadOfDecember 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 20, 2011

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It's the same for me. Personality and emotional connection are huge things for me - I don't have an issue with age, but I have a really big problem with people who lack grace, empathy and a sense of humour.

It might have been an upbringing issue - men don't have a wonderful reputation for enlightened thinking where I live.

That's cool... I'm not too worried about emotional connection, but I'm what you might call screwed up. You are right, though, there is something to be said for a certain degree of social grace.

I was accosted by a male prune with no social skills of any identifiable kind. I suppose he may have deliberately tried to troll me, of course. He told me how gorgeous I was, manipulated my hand in a vigorous effort to stir the non-existent embers of my lust. He was a disgusting, coarse little weasel with no empathy whatsoever and less charm.

The topping on our little tryst was when he suggested that I'd make good money as a prostitute. He was quite ernest.

The real irony here is that I'm lesbian. I've had boyfriends, amongst whom was a sweet and cute english graduate - 6'1, gorgeous long hair, gothic looks, body like a cat in human form and the stamina (and, um, hardware) of a race horse. He was brilliant in bed.

I left for a variety of reasons, but one of them was that I'd never really love him in the way he deserved and I'd always be yearning after other women.

So, what possessed my octogenarian Lothario I will truly never know.

Maybe it was Alzheimers?

Rudeness is a huge turn-off for me... Unless it's my special someone being sexually pushy, then I love it. :) I don't know about Alzheimer's... Perhaps his folks just never taught him how to act?

you have to watch out for us old guys!!

This guy was 65, and I've known a few guys that age I'd love to get with... He just wasn't one of them (he might have even had a chance if he'd bothered to shower).