Not So Great

Being homeschooled wasn't the greatest thing for me or my siblings. While we got a great education in reading, writing, history, literature, and math, we lacked in science and, more importantly, social skills.

Don't get me wrong: it's not that we're socially inept, it's just that socializing in general makes us very anxious. Not only were we homeschooled, but our parents didn't think it was important for us to have friends. Because of this, for the most part, we prefer our own company to that of others. We don't have a lot of friends because keeping up friendships requires a lot of interaction, which is mentally exhausting. 

It took me a long time to stop being angry at my parents for the way they raised us. I now realize that they only did what they thought was best for us. They still don't realize the impact it's had on us as adults, especially the three oldest ones (the three youngest all had a few years of public high school).

I wish I was more comfortable in social situations, but I'm getting better. The way I was raised has made me independent. I'm not afraid of spending time by myself: I enjoy it! I'm a non-conformist (to a certain degree because I still like to fit in!!). Having a non-mainstream upbringing has helped me in job interviews because people tend to remember the one who was homeschooled!

Would I homeschool my kids? Absolutely not!

My message to people who are homeschooling or are thinking about it: make sure your kids get lots of social interaction with other kids their age. Involve them in group activities. Don't neglect any part of their education. Preparing your children for adult life is just as important as making sure they can read and write.


CandyAppleRed CandyAppleRed
36-40, F
2 Responses Mar 23, 2007

Love the perspective of an adult who was homeschooled. My daughter has a friend that is being homeschooled. Her friend hates it and complains about being a bit bored and lonely. The young lady is intelligent and is well-schooled, even taking some classes at the local college, but still wants to be in high school. I believe when it gets to the point where it's no longer working for the child, the parents should consider other options. My daughter is in GT classes, loves school, and is also taking a college class. So I believe you can have success either way.

Thank you for sharing this personal story... TV tends to portray homeschooling with a certain degree of romance and does not warn people like you did.