And He Taught Me WellI am not a manipulative person whatsoever, I don't believe in emotional head games or tweaking a situation for a gain.
For the most part I am very open and honest when it comes to handling situations. But there is one time I did use manipulation in full force.
And it was an instinctual survival tactic to get out of a situation safely.
Being married to an emotionally selfish manipulator taught me very well how to use those lessons to find my way out.
He taught me the words he wanted to hear, the emotions he wanted to see or not see, he taught me how to perform to his standards.
And the last time we had a real conversation, the night I left I used everything he taught me to find my way out.
I remember entering the womens shelter filled with guilt over being so sneaky and lying to him and telling the intake worker my story and as she sat there and listened to my story while shaking from the emotion of it. She hardly interrupted, just asked a few leading questions to help me continue with the story. When I finished she told me how impressed she was with how well I handled everything and that I was a true example to follow on how to do everything right. I remember how shocked I was as she explained that in abusive situations you do what you have to do to get out and be safe.
It was the first time someone referenced my marriage as abusive and it hit me hard, really really hard as I realized just how scared I really was.
But I soon realized how right she really was in everything she said. She became my mentor while in their, a true guiding light through one of the toughest times in my life.
He manipulated my heart, my emotions, me out of my home, and right on out of his life because he taught me well.