The 10-year Nightmare: Married To A Sociopathic WomanI am finally divorcing my wife of nearly 11 years. I started the process last summer and she refuses to agree or settle. For the entire time I was married to her, I tried desperately to make things better and figure out what the problem was in my marriage. The low point, and turning point thankfully, was during the fall and winter of 2008-09 when I became so depressed I started crying at work, seeing a counselor, and losing a lot of weight from not eating or sleeping. Thankfully, people listened. The irony of that is while I could see people who are victimized by sociopaths coming out of relationships with a lot of speculation about people, it is important to know that people who listened, cared, spoke the truth, and gave me time, were why my life has turned around. Come to find out, my wife had been cheating on me with another woman. That wasn't what turned a poor marriage into a divorce though. It was when I found out that she not only cheated with another woman but also was a sociopath. Someone close to me who was always available to listen whenever I needed to talk, kept encouraging me subtly to read The Sociopath Next Door, by Martha Stout. I started off with some nods and convictions but once I really got into it, I had to put the book down dozens of times and say to myself, "Oh my God, it's her."
If there is anyone out there who wants to hear about the signs, the misery, and my way of getting out, I will gladly share. The reason I posted is because since starting to understand that my soon to be ex wife has a personality disorder, I have only seen information posted about male sociopaths. Well, females exist too. And they also can ruin your life.