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My Brother Molested Me As A Child

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
njsouth njsouth 31-35, F 11 Responses Aug 8, 2012

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you all need to go to therapy and get this worked out ..you are obligated to ..

it is hard experience you face,
at now for the right way, you must go to specialist doctor and ask help
not ignore
please

It started n its over..it was not ur mistake so dont think abt it..look I dont knw the situation of ur family but I think a child wont lie..u must check wats the truth talk wit them openly..analyse the matter thn take a decision..if u need any help feel free to call me (khushi - +918927261831)

i did talk to the girls and they change the story

It is sad. I was 7 or 8 when my aunt got me to do stuff. It was dad's younger sister. he never forgave me and mum. but he always took it out on me.
What you have gone through is horrible.

It really mess me up when it came to trust the guys i was with and i never been faithfull to anyone i've been with

that is the ugly side when you cannot trust. It is just the opposite for me where I am drawn to the older ones. Just become a scum bag in the end

That's sad. It sounds like he is doing it to them. That's not good. Have you thought about talking to him about it?

My brother children don't live with him anymore, two of them live with their mom, one lives with her boyfriend parents, the other two live with their grandparents, and one lives with their aunt.

believe them... kids never lie

like u say they never lie but these girls lie so much that they don't know the truth if hit them in the face. if my daughter came and told be that her step father touch her i will believe her, my daughter couldn't back the stories up and they kept changing stories like it was out of a movies. And if u had this done to u like i had it doesn't happend once it goes on for years. Like i had no choice because he live with me only up to he turn 14 and he left our home and move out with his girl friend and became a father at 15. my neices don't have to sleep over or come into my house. if this really happend they would never step foot in my home when i'm not home. They still to this day want to come over and sleep over and i won;t allow it. when my neices comes in to my house my husband leaves because he doesn't want any one accusing him

they may lie in other matters but not in this kinda stuff... jus think... they r kids

just dont leave them alone with males its that easy. when my stepdaughter turned two I refused to change her or bathe her so there was no accusations of me doin anything. I miss her and havent seen her in 5 years I hope she still thinks of me. As my name suggest like to think I have done the right things in life to help her grow up into a beautiful young and hopefully untouched woman.

regarding my two daughters im very carefull i don't leave them alone with my brother or my husband. I keep my eyes open now just in case. I walk my husband to the bathroom at night or make him go before we go to bed. He doesn't argue or get mad when i do this and this is how i know he hasn't touch anyone. when my neice is around he avoids them or leaves the house then no one can excuse him of anything again. my neice is trying to be nice to him and i just tell him to stay a way from her.

good. It does make it easier

yes it does and i will keep asking my daughter who isn't my husband to make sure it doesn't happend to her.

wow craZy situation!

its really hard but just to make sure observe and ask them yourself...

i observed the girls and I don't let the two older girls in my house until I come home now on just in case. but my neice is always trying to come over my house when i'm not home and when my husband is home taking care of the kids. I think if you were molested by someone you don't want to be in the same house. my neice never wants to be home with her dad. she wants to move in with her mom

you married this man. you must know him extremely well, do you think that there is any slightest possibility that he has that in him to do this kind of thing to molest children? You must search down deep and think. Has he ever given you any reason to be this kind of man?<br />
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I think that men who molest children and you live withe them for many years you would know if he's perverted or see something that makes you wonder. <br />
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Have your daughters ever come to you with complaints? How are your daughters with your husband? are they loving and trusting your husband? when he comes home do they receive him well? <br />
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Accusing an innocent man who you are suppose to love over and over again must be really hard on him and will greatly impact your marriage. <br />
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I don't know what you can do for you nieces but as for your family with your husband you can only focus on that with care. <br />
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then deal with your brother. but find the truth by going by the trust of who you married. <br />
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I'm not saying he didn't do it. i'm just saying to go by the personality of the man you married the hart of the man. and there you will find the truth. <br />
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hope things workk out well<br />
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hugs

My sisters husband molested three of there girls and none had a clue !!!! its not just yeah ok I did it. its lies and denials and bloddy hard to tell

hi goodman72

i wrote this a long time ago. i just re read what i wrote. though it was coming from a good place it sounded like i was choosing sides and that's not what i was doing. I was just saying to be absolutely sure this is happening before condemning a person. i think its the most heinous crime. crimes against children. and to be accused of doing it IF he's innocent must be god awful feeling. I really hope he's not doing this harm.

were they scare of her husband or always want to be there around him. Cause my neices i have a choice when its comes to my house they can stay at there own house or come to mine and they always want to come to my house and not leave

Well sometimes Molestation victims will put the blame on the most safest person to avoid either getting hurt...getting the attacker in trouble...or to protect the family (sometimes the attacker threatens the victims loved ones) but if the girls say that they are REALLY getting hurt by these men then they need help quick and need to not be around these men that will hurt them

i want to believe the girls but my daughter can't back the store up, they told my daughter who is ten that her stepfather was touching her. If the girls were getting touch by my husband why are they always in my house, it gets to the point that eveyday i have to throw them out to go home they never want to leave my house. As soon as they wake up from home they run to my house and stay until 12am or 11pm. they always want to sleep over also, I know at one point they wanted to live with me. I don't know if i should leave my husband he a good man doesn't drink or do drugs he been helping me take care of my two older children since they were 1 and 2. I'm the only person he slept with.

I watch my husband like glue now n I don't let my daughter be around him by herself just incase but I know in my heart its not him. Now that my neices can't come over they are jumping from people houses instead of sleeping at there house.