Late last year, 2 weeks before xmas, the main lie my ex had been telling me since we got together came out. The impact of this one massive lie (there have been so many in addition as well) left us homeless and destitute. Where do I start, our whole life together is really one big lie. I place the utmost value in hard work, honesty and fairness, values he told me he shared. When we started going out, I owned my own home. It was always meant to be my financial security. He told me he also had 2 properties, that he had put into a family trust, as his own investment. I met him through a friend who worked with him. I had no reason not to believe him. I was protective over my investment, and did not let him move in with me until we got engaged. Once we were married he talked me into buying a newer, bigger home that didn't need as many renovations. I had renovated several rooms already and with the movement in the market, I had made a 6 figure profit, so when we bought the new house, there was a sizable deposit. His properties were always in the background, and it was based on his asset being our 'future' (kids education, retirement), and my asset being our 'present'. So, that scene set, fast forward to late last year when things started not adding up, and I began realising that there were many many lies. The main one being around his financial situation. He was hiding debt from me. Lots of debt. Hundreds of thousands of dollars of debt. Then, by forcing his hand, he came clean the the 'trust' did not exist. He did not have any properties, and whats more, he had racked up so much debt, that the bank had claim over all of the equity in our home. That was bought with my money.
We have a young daughter, she is now 21 months. I had been a stay at home mum so had no income, no money, nothing. He took everything I worked for. We have now set ourselves up in a rental property, and I have recently started a new job so I can support us. He has made no effort to contact his daughter (or find out where she is living) in over 2 months now. He has said, through his lawyer, that he does however want contact. Can anyone shed any light on how I can best protect my daughter from his damaging lies? He is still lying, to his family, to his lawyer, to his employers, to anyone who will listen really.