My Friend Changed My Life

Star,
I'm sorry to hear about this. Please understand that what happened was all about his behavior and was not in any way caused by you. Sex offenders enjoy power & control; the actual act is not really about the sex. You are a victim, but you can now choose to move forward without letting this horrible experience define you negatively. Be strong and don't carry hate for yourself or even your former friend. Pity him and try to forgive him while loving yourself! Good luck.

I'm so very sorry he was never really you're friend and rape isn't about sex it's about power and by not telling someone u r letting him take control over u

wow please please tell someone.. it'll get better from there, it's the best way!

U have to tell some one in order to get through this

Find someone and tell someone. It may not be your parents but someone close to you. I know it seems best not to talk about it but believe me when i say this if you keep it buried in your heart it will tear you apart

You should tell someone if you haven't. I know what it's like to be betrayed by a friend. Comment me if you ever need to talk.

sorry you had to go through this.

re u still friends with him.

I hope your not friends with him anymore and when u got free u should have punched him

Wow...I'm deeply saddened to hear this....Please don't ever blame yourself for this...Not all boys are like him. He likely had control issues and chose to deal with them in the worst of ways. You are never to be used but instead cherished by boys, you are a beautiful person and don't ever let anyone take that away from you. This act of evil he committed against you was not your fault in any way shape or form. Please do not ever attempt to harm yourself for his actions. You are the victim in this crime. Over time you must learn to trust boys again... as hard as it may seem. Do not seek control over your life or those you care about. Most importantly tell your loved ones what happened so they may support you emotionally and get you some help so it won't effect you so much later in life. I personally am male but my mother was raped and I know it effects her till this very day because she never got help. Don't be ashamed or scared, everyone needs help sometimes.

I am sorry for the brutal experience you have had and going through.

Pls talk to some one whom u can trust it will help you. Never think of killing yourself as there will be a lot of people who love you,care about you and help you. you are precious little girl. We love you

add me, if you can maybe i could share some of my stories with you and they will help

Tell someone though that is something you NEED to do and don't cut please cutting kills.... My friend proved that.

I'm sorry you had to experience that :/ he's not the best of the guys out there I myself have never been raped but i have a few friends who have and a few who were almost raped. it ALWAYS sucks to hear stories about this and im soo sorry it happened to you

star darling he did wrong hurting you before he gave you a chance to get away you need tell some body whith authority in school hun you need to get through this i realy believe this sweety i whish i could hold your hand i respect an love you

Star,

Please know that my thoughts are with you. I take meds for my rape. Namely cymbalta and ambien. It happened on my birthday, so now I don't even like to celebrate. Know that there are other girls out there, going through what you've been through. Rape. I'm glad you can share your story. That takes great inner strength. A strength you will need when talking to a counselor. You need to talk with a professional. They don't judge, they will believe you, and want nothing more than to get you feeling better. Maybe you won't like the first or second counselor. But keep searching for and talking to counselors until you find one that you connect with. Dont give up honey. And please don't cut yourself anymore. You are beautiful and as you grow older the visibility of any scars from cutting will only remind you of a time you don't wish to reflect upon. I watch a lot of Law and Order: SVU. This helps me deal with my rape. Hearing hypothetical stories of other people allowed me to feel connected to the world again. That and yoga (just YouTube yoga for beginners if you want). Good luck honey. Hoped I helped a bit.

I was raped by my friend to but my friend was a girl

Starbar, I was molested at the age of 8 by an X-brother-in-law. I didn't tell anyone either. He made me feel like my family would hate me if I did. So I didn't until I was much older. That was a mistake. Tell someone! And get counselling. If I had, my life would have been much better, but instead I suffered for many years alone with it and it affected my life as well as my children's. I since have been through therapy and it has been very helpful. Tell someone Star. Don't hide this inside your whole life like I did. Get to a counsellor at your school if you feel you cannot talk to your parents. Believe me, you do not want to suffer with this your whole life as I did. It will effect your life negatively in far too many ways if you do. Get help!

im sorry for what happened. i can kind of relate to your story. talk to a person you trust and tell them how you feel and somehow they will help you. just know that i love you and so does everybody else.