Never Lose Hope. Victim To Survivor

I am writing this to show that it is possible to go from a victim to a survivor. I want victims to read my story and take something positive from it.
Instead of talking about the ordeal I went through, I want to share with you positive things I have gained from my situation.
I was raped one year ago, and one year on I am able to say, I am happy.

Every situation is different for each person, but most have of us have to ride the same emotional roller-coaster. The aftermath of rape or sexual assault
is extremely tough and a long process but you cant ignore the emotions you encounter, you take them and deal with them as they come.

I've learned how crucial it is to hold on to hope, hope keeps you motivated to keep going when times get difficult. When you feel like giving up, hope
gives you that bit of positivity that things might be better tomorrow, that things might just work out, it leaves you wanting to hang on in knowing
there is a possibility of a successful outcome. Through the past year everyday was a struggle, a challenge and a battle to fight, but it was hope that got me
from one day to the next. “Hope is important because it can make the present moment less difficult to bear. If we believe that tomorrow will be better, we can bear a hardship today.”

The incident and the aftermath is such a negative thing that you need to add positivity to it in order to get through it. Being negative is not going to get you places,
but positivity will, even if its a slow process having a positive outlook will open your possibilities, it will help you grow through to this.
You have to believe that something good will come out of every bad situation. Everything really does happen
for a reason. That statement is a mindful to take in and its hard to believe at times but life is a hell of a lot easier if you can believe it.
"It isn't what happens to us that causes us to suffer; it's what we say to ourselves about what happens."

Once i reported to attack to the police, i became determined to get justice. I did everything in my power to help the case, though it can only go so far,
I began to realize some things were beyond my reach, which was frustrating but I knew I had to leave it to the professionals, the police. Even though I didn't get justice by law,
I am content knowing I did every possible thing i could. My determination has left me with no regrets.
Nobody who ever gave his best regretted it.”

After six months of stress, frustration and anger I knew in order to get my life back on track I had to let go. Letting go was probably the hardest thing I had to do,
but I knew it had to be done for my own sake. I then withdrew my statement, not because I was weak and scared but because I was strong enough to realize this was best for me.
Unfortunately my case wasn't strong enough to pursue anymore, although that was frustrating I still feel like I won. After I
signed my signature to withdraw, I felt sad, but I also felt a great deal of relief. I was relived that I finally have the freedom to live my life again.
“Some of us think holding on makes us strong, but sometimes it is letting go."

You've gotta be strong and remain strong. Of course I had a lot of moments, hours and days of weakness which left me crying,
feeling worthless and alone. But then one day I said to myself, I don't have to be like this, I am better than him, better than this.
It is definitely not easy by any means, but you have gotta keep asking yourself , why should I let someone make me feel like this, they don't deserve my weakness.
I had to show myself that I was stronger than the situation.

People, just focus on any positive aspects you can, surround yourself with people that care about you, stay strong and remember "Extraordinary people survive under the most terrible circumstances and they become more extraordinary because of it."
Madison72 Madison72
Dec 4, 2012