I Was Sexually Abused By My Brother

I was only eight years old when my brother started sexually abusing me. It lasted up till I was twelve; the memories are hard to deal with. It has only been by the Grace of God that I have been able to move on to an extent with my life. In 1992, I ended up opening to all my family members except for my mom. I couldn't tell her cause she isn't in good health, so therefore I didn't want to crush her heart. God has given me the ability to forgive my brother. As the saying goes its easy to forgive but very hard to forget. My heart goes out to every individual that has gone through this, Only God can help us when we're at our lowest.
diamondgirl diamondgirl
46-50, F
6 Responses Apr 13, 2007

AMEN i totally agree !

Im sorry to hear about your experience. i have been abused by my father recently and all i can say is that i do not understand how u could forgive them, i never forgave my father i lived with him for a year after the abuse when he found a girlfriend and yes i admit i must have forgiven him but now i have moved from him and seen the light, if someone ur own blood can do that then who can you trust? i hope u are ok and happy, i must say u must be such a strong person...

Im sorry to hear about your experience. i have been abused by my father recently and all i can say is that i do not understand how u could forgive them, i never forgave my father i lived with him for a year after the abuse when he found a girlfriend and yes i admit i must have forgiven him but now i have moved from him and seen the light, if someone ur own blood can do that then who can you trust? i hope u are ok and happy, i must say u must be such a strong person...

Dear diamondgirl,<br />
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I am sorry for what you had to endure. I am thrilled that you have come out of it with a heart of forgiveness. God will be there for those who love him. Free will results in injustice sometimes. The alternative was for us to merely be machines. How inspiring that you have overcome such an injustice. Be well.

I too was sexually abused by both my brothers. As far as I know it started when I was about 4 or 5 years old, at least that's as far back as I remember it. The oldest one was the worst who would threaten and terrorize me. It took me a lot of years but I've been able to forgive them both. Neither one of them will talk to me about the abuse and though I've asked for an apology, they haven't given me one. But I knew I had to forgive them to move on. It helped me to research the subject, read many books, and I'm working on empowering myself to not be used by other people in any way. It's a daily challenge to overcome the effects of abuse but it can be done. Prayer helps!

Dear DiamondGirl, you added a comment to my story so I decided to check out your story. I too was abused when I was little, and as a result am now bulimic and cut my arms up with a razor. I want to say that if you have gone through what you did and are able to say what you said, then there is hope in God. Can I ask you a question? Do you ever have peace in your heart in God?