A Little About MyselfSince this is my first story, I thought I would tell a little about myself on how I was raised and how I have raised my own children.
I am the oldest of three daughters who were raised by a single mother. We were far from poor, but we also never had the latest and greatest clothes and toys growing up. A lot of times our clothes were through second hand shops and a majority of our toys were donated. Although mom did give us that big surprise toy once in a great while, usually for our birthday or a Christmas gift.
Our home was modest, but it was clean and in good repair. And she always made sure there was food on the table for us. We may not have had all the amenities as a lot of the other children, but mom took good care of us, we were happy, and most importantly, we knew we were always loved.
As I'm sure you can already guess since I am posting in this group, but we were also spanked. When she felt we needed it, mom absolutely had no issues giving us a sound, bare bottom spanking. Many now would feel she spanked a lot, or too much. However, to us, that is just how it was. Everyone spanked in our neighborhood, it was used for most misbehavior, and my mom was no different. There was no "spanking as a last resort." If you misbehaved, you got a spanking.
And mom's spankings were never the "one swat per age on a clothed bottom." Sure, she gave us swats, and a lot of times it stopped our behavior. But that was never a 'spanking'. If you got spanked, it was what is called now an 'old fashioned' spanking, which was given over her knee on our bare bottoms. And she spanked us long and hard enough where we didn't want to sit anytime soon if we had the choice.
When we were little, she used her hand. But as we got older she started using a wooden spoon and eventually switched to a hairbrush. But however sound her spankings were (and they were very sound), she always made it crystal clear why we earned a spanking and she never gave me a spanking I didn't earn. We also never had any doubt how much she loved us when giving us a spanking, or in general.
As a mom, I have raised my own very similarly as mom raised us. We have one son 20 and three girls. 12, 21 and 25. Mine have lived a little more comfortably than we did, they are not spoiled, but they have had their share of nicer amenities than we did growing up. However, I have tried to follow in my mother's footsteps in teaching the same values we learned growing up, and I have also done that by spanking when I've felt it to be necessary. Fortunately it is only my youngest that is spanked anymore.
I know you will see a lot of times moms now indicating they do spank as well, but it isn't as sound, or 'bad', as when they grew up. However, as I said above, I always felt love and caring from my mom when she spanked me, no matter how sound they were. And because they were sound, they really sent the desired message. For that reason, I will admit I have spanked mine very similarly as mom did so with us, no less sound, and have tried to show them the same love and care as mom did so with us. And I think I have done so, as I have always been very close with my children.
Sarah1966 46-50, F 25 Responses 21 Dec 16, 2012