Usually Naked At Home
I'm usually naked at home. I'm sharing this experience to encourage those who might be wanting to do this, but aren't sure if it will work. I've never liked clothing that much. As a child my family didn't really mind if we wore clothes at home, or not. So, in that sense I guess I grew up in a fairly open-minded family. As an adult, however, the social norms of society seemed to make it a lot more difficult to be naked around other people. It felt oppressive to me to have to be dressed in my own home, but I lived with a lot of people and even more people were always coming and going. One summer the weather was very hot and humid. I began getting very itchy rashes on my skin, particularly anywhere that my clothing was tight or restrictive. It was so painful that I finally got completely fed up and took off all my clothes. I simply told everyone that I was naked for medical reasons. My wife, my housemates, my friends who came over, everyone else's friends--in short, everyone--was completely accepting. I admit that this was a big shock. It turned out that being naked was a lot easier than I expected it to be.
Twenty some years later I am almost always naked at home. We have three kids and friends and neighbors who drop by. The challenge for me is to keep being naked even as new people come into my life. In spite of the experience of that summer years ago I still expect people to be shocked or upset. Recently a longtime friend of my wife's moved from another city and now lives next door to us with her son. My niece, who is in her twenties, also moved to the same city where we live. I began putting something on whenever either one of them would come over to visit. Since they are at our house nearly every day it meant that I had to be dressed a lot of the time! A wonderful thing happened: each one of these people independently told me that they really didn't mind at all if I wasn't wearing anything. It has been nice not only to be wearing nothing at home, again, but also to know that these people noticed something about me and took the effort to put me at ease.
I should say something about the rest of my family. While it is true that I am the person who is most often wearing nothing at home, my wife and children seem to take their cue from my behaviour. We've always let our kids know that our home is clothing optional and that it is their choice. However, when they see me cover up when someone comes over, they do the same. When I am more relaxed, they are more likely not to be worrying about what they are wearing, or not.
What is the impact of wearing nothing at home? For me it is about more than comfort. I am able to relax. I feel better about myself. There is a greater emotional closeness between the members of our family. There is nothing to hide, physically, and the feeling that it is alright to reveal one's thoughts and feelings.
I think my eldest daughter sums it up well: "Home is where you can be naked."