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Im 32 and i have a 10 year old boy, we boy wear speedos to the pool and beach. I dont see the problem with them. My sons loves them and wont wear board shorts at all. Some people have asked me well you shouldnt let him wear them because when he gets out of the water there going to stick to his crotch and *** i said ok so what water does that. Why is america so upset over speedos women can wear bikinis and its ok even though there breats and nipples and camel toes slighty show, what a double standard
Gearguy Gearguy 31-35 14 Responses Jul 28, 2009

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<p>My sister has two boys 10 and 12, and they both wear and love Speedos and any other bikini-style swimwear and underwear. They both will not wear boardshorts or regular boxers or briefs. Personally, I think they look so much nicer this way and the boys love the fit and how they look and feel. So what if their bits show? All boys have their natural equipment, and no need to hide it, right? I would like to hear from other likeminded moms about their views on this. I can't see why anyone wants boxers or boardshorts anyway.</p> Speedos or bikinis on boys DON"T imply gayness, just comfort without hiding things.

I am not a mum but I always get my bro to wear them at the beach. He was the first one but others are doing the same now.

Yeah, I also enjoy being the only guy wearing my sexy speedos. I always get good looks and smiles from women and flirt with a few of the lady lifeguards at my local public pool---one is very attractive and grins and blushes when I chat with her poolside. Pose and be proud!

If someone told me I couldn't wear a bikini and had to wear a wedding dress in a pool I would laugh. You guys should just laugh at people that think you should wear trousers to swim. They got over that idea first in about 1890 or something. Maybe corsets and hooped skirts will come back into fashion to go with the swimming trunks.

I think you and your son must be cute. Little boys tend to love them before they reach adolescence, so if they find them comfortable and get in the habit by then, they generally don't care much and aren't self aware of it at all. Young men who all self-conscious when they join a swim club used to become desensitized as well. Nowadays though fewer swim clubs and teams wear the traditional Speedos. More wear a modified longer nylon board short type cover, or even the longer shark skins.<br />
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I would like to see that standard reversed so that the Speedo became the Standard suit, again! Then everyone would be on an equal footing, and it would be fair, and everyone could enjoy some good looking athletic young men.

Great comments by all. I luv the speedos, they are great no drag in the water. So what about our legs and bulges we was born with them, so what. You and your son should continue and enjoy your swimming, and you should both be proud to be sharing quality time together and stuff all the snobs. You need to make sure your son does not get effected by this type of thing and he can be relaxed and continue to wear the speedos of his choice and not get infected by others and their weird views. Well done.

I agree with the last 2 comments, sometimes when you are the only one in a pool wearing a speedo you feel a little uneasy but as you walk in front of everyone you dont care what they think and you just you what you wanna do.

I actually get a kick out of being the only guy at the pool, sauna, steam room or even the beach - wearing Speedos. Yeah I love being the only guy with REAL confidence who isn't terrified of his own body...

Good point by Switched2, in that Speedos do tap deep into someone's self-consciousness, even if they're fit. Most people, guys especially, just won't walk outside that box and risk that sense of public exposure. As much as I love Speedos and wear them myself, I have experienced that same nervous sense of self-awareness and how others would think of me.

The biggest problem is personal. Most people are more concerned about what others (even unknown) think of them; more than they think of themselves. Fit or not, there is a Speedo style that will accentuate your male physique. In time, friends know you and will get used to it and who cares what others think?

I agree

There really is a double standard. No doubt about it. Male legs = icky and evil, female legs = bare as much as possible, or so goes the thinking. What's so macho about covering up one's legs in board shorts and long socks? It makes you look like an insecure, bashful dweeb. I don't buy it that it's just a fashion phase, because it's been going on too long now.<br />
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It'd be nice if we stopped sexual discrimination against BOTH sexes and realized that everyone has legs and that they have a right to show those legs off.

Hey, that is exactly my experience. As a lifeguarde at Lake Michigan when I was there, we all wore speedo-type trunks or suits. No messing around by being slow. Also a 4 mile swim was a qualifier, among other things.

Good on you and your son my thinking on the subject how can you swim with baggy shorts wrapped round you legs, I go to Florida every year and wear my speedos on the beach i have several pairs in bright colours more and more men are wearing speedos to the beach now . maybe kids will see how silly they look in long shorts which look like they have been made from mums old curtains.

I think that now it's because many menswear designers wanted to come out with something new and different so they invented the totally stupid boardshorts that a pair of high top socks would completely cover all of the male leg. It reminds me of the way women were forced to dress for the beach at the turn of the 20th century. I mean what's next? Will we be forced into wearing loose fitting swim dresses and bloomers? I applaud you and your son's courage to wear what feels good and is comfortable to swim in. Because we are males are we not supposed to have some sort of bulge showing between our legs or are we supposed to be the department store mannequins of old. Which, BTW, are now updated with noticeable bulges!

It's strange how Speedos have gotten a bad reputation. During my high school and college days most males wore Speedos and nobody thought anything about it. As a life guard I was required to wear Speedos.

Trouble these days is everyone seeks everyone elses approval for everything they do. Like a bunch of mindless sheep or sheeple they look around at what everyone else is doing and assume that they must do the same thing or they will be rejected. Like who cares? Frankly I take it as a badge of honor to be rejected by snooty people who think that only THEY are the smartest, coolest and most enlightned people in the room. They almost never are!