Does It Really

I question whether that is true. At most times I don't feel strong at all but weak. Its unnerving how so many people see the strength in me but I can't. I appear as strong but I cower away, how can I be strong if I haven't let go? I can be strong for someone but I can't be strong for myself, I admit defeat because my fighting didn't work. I wait for the day when I will be strong.
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2 Responses Nov 10, 2013

You're right. This saying is bs. It suggests that if something hurts us we will recognize it next time and not let it happen again. This is true in a sense, like if someone robs you you're gonna put a better lock on your door. But that's about as far as it goes. Our brains don't work this way. If someone beats the snot out of you, you're weaker and you're damaged. If something bad happened it's normal to feel weak. Your mind will try to protect you and try to make sense of what happened.

The good news is that acknowledging your weaknesses is how you start to repair them. It takes some time but you can be a whole person again. Trying to trick your brain into believing your strong when you're not will not help anything.

You say, "I can be strong for someone but I can't be strong for myself." Ok, fine. If you can be strong for someone else then isn't it possible to let someone else be strong for you? You know you have someone who loves you. Lean on him.