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I am the most embarrassingly honest person I know. But I can't imagine anyone caring to ask really... lol

sugarburn sugarburn
22-25, F
12 Responses Sep 19, 2008

BandN, I think you would have to ask her. She is the only one who knows for sure how she feels inside.<br />
Things that turn someone on in fantasy don't have to be indicitive of their sexual preferences in real life. But obviously, sometimes they are. You need to talk to her about how she is feeling. When I fantasize, I think about a lot of things that I don't find sexy in real life, and that is part of the turn on. Perhaps it is the same for her? Or maybe she is bisexual... only your wife can tell you what is going on in her head and her heart.<br />

sugar,<br />
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My wife gets off looking at women, and or boobs. plays looking and thinks about them. If you needed to get yourself off (sorry so direct) and you only thought about women...wouldn't i come to the conclusion that she's bi or gay?

Makes perfect sense, clear and well said, yet with nuance - great answer!<br />
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So often there's a conflict or disconnect between how sex actually is and the social baggage of how it's supposed to be...<br />
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Glad to hear how you negotiated that, thanks.

Hey Country :)<br />
Thats a really good question, thanks :). And the answer is complicated. <br />
No, I've never been ashamed of loving sex. I've always been really open and honest about loving it and having it. But, I haven't loved sex the whole time I've been sexually active. All the partners I had before my fiance well... I didn't really enjoy it let alone love it. I didn't feel much pleasure and it usually hurt and I didn't really get the world wide appeal lol. I was ashamed of having sex at the time. Then after the first time with him, I loved it. I have wanted sex endlessly and loved it with a passion ever since. And I've never been ashamed of that. I'll tell anyone who asks lol!<br />
But (again lol) I have hid a lot of my sexual experience and my love of sex from my mother for fear of being disowned due to her stict and unpleasant view of sex. I'm not ashamed of loving and having sex, but I know that other people would be ashamed of me for that and I keep quiet. I often wonder if that's a sort of shame? I don't know lol. <br />
I don't know... does that make any kind of sense??? lol<br />

Sugar,<br />
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Have you always been not ashamed to love sex? If not, how did you get there?<br />
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Hi Lola, thank you so much. Your comment was so sweet and understanding. No, your right, we didn't take the decision lightly. It broke our hearts, but we never wanted to bring a baby into the world when we were so young and couldn't give him/her the life they deserved and everything we never had. Your also right about telling my family (or my fiance's), they have never been there for me on the smallest of problems, not keeping my baby would have been no better.<br />
We make the choices we make for a reason. And our choices make us who we are. I think I am a better person for having my baby in my life even for that small time, and I guess I hope that going through something so hard will make me more understnading towards the people I give therapy to when I graduate. And if I am, then it will make me a better therapist and I can be there for people who are going through things I did or worse and give them the understanding and comfort they need. Sorry, listen to me ramble! <br />
Thank you again :)<br />

Hi Comprehensive... um, I don't think I'm the person you're talking about, this is the only time I've asked this question. Sounds like this person made you mad though. Um, I guess I'll answer your questions anyway even though they are meant for someone else :) because I did say I would.<br />
Criminal profiling could probably tell you why that is so, if it is so, I really have no idea about either!<br />
Um, I'm not really religious in any way, so I can't really answer that 2nd question. <br />
I hope you get the answers you are looking for from the right person :)

Hey Sugar,<br />
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Thanks for your honesty. I'm sorry to hear of such a sad secret. I'm glad you didn't tell your family as sometimes we just have to accept that some people won't understand some things - no matter how close they are to us. Please don't feel ashamed. We all make choices in life that we sometimes doubt or make us feel a certain way. But I'm sure you did not take that decision lightly and for that there should be no shame. We always judge ourselves harsher than anyone else would.......<br />
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If this is the same person who said this before you didn't answer my questions. I'll repeat them for you:<br />
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Why are most child rapists, killers, and molesters white men and female child rapists white women?<br />
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If you were Christian would you still serve Jeshuah if He is portrayed in His true image as described in the Bible as having skin of bronze and hair of wool as of a sheep?<br />
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You did say ANY question. That's your challenge. Now, will you answer mine?

Lola - My most shameful secret is that I had an abortion. I was 20 and I loved my baby very much. I've only told a few people in my life. But none of my family. They would disown me.

Threestrikes... there's a specific way my partner likes it, so that involves trimming and plucking. :) And shaving, occasionally.

Okay - what is your most shameful secret? perhaps not as risque as the last question but still......tell all....lol!