It's Up to You

LET IT REALLY SINK IN - THEN CHOOSE .   John is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!"    He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, John was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.   Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up and asked him, "I don't get it! You can't be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?" He replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or ... you can choose to be in a bad mood.   I choose to be in a good mood." Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or...I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or... I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.   "Yeah, right, it's not that easy," I protested. "Yes, it is," he said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice how you live your life."   I reflected on what he said. Soon hereafter, I left the Tower Industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.   Several years later, I heard that he was involved in a serious accident, falling some 60 feet from a communications tower. After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, he was released from the hospital with rods placed in his back. I saw him about six months after the accident.   When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins...Wanna see my scars?" I declined to see his wounds, but I did ask him what had gone through his mind as the accident took place.   "The first thing that went through my mind was the well-being of my soon-to-be born daughter," he replied. "Then, as I lay on the ground, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or...I could choose to die. I chose to live."   "Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked. He continued, "..the paramedics were great.   They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the ER and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read 'he's a dead man'. I knew I needed to take action." "What did you do?" I asked.   "Well, there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at me," said John. "She asked if I was allergic to anything. 'Yes, I replied.' The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, 'Gravity'."   Over their laughter, I told them, "I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead." He lived, thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude... I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully.   Attitude, after all, is everything . Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." Matthew 6:34.   After all today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday. You have two choices now: 01. Delete this. 02. Forward it to the people you care about. You know the choice I made.
maxwell maxwell
46-50, F
4 Responses Jul 9, 2007

Wow.... great story - wish I could be like that but I don't have the self discipline it takes to be so positive... I have to look deep just to smile most days.....

It's a great story but life is not that easy for me. You see I suffer from depression, a chemical imbalance. For years it was under control but for the last year I have been struggling with new meds trying to find the right one that will work for me now, with not much success. My husband hates when I am depressed and crying. It is ruining our marriage. He tells me how unhappy he is and that he deserves to be happy. I agree. So am I supposed to leave him so he can be happy? I am so confused. I don't know what to do. I want to be positive but my illness won't let me. I also have a very painful disease that is hard to live with. I am always in pain. It is hard to chose to be positive when I am in pain all the time and my depression takes control. I'd love some help and advice.

it doesn't get any better than that!! i know i'm going to start thinking a little differently now..

What an inspirational story. Thank you for sharing.