Taking My Life Back

I've spent far too long being the person other people wanted me to be and doing things that other people wanted me to do. My parents opinions and approval have always mattered strongly to me and I'd never want to lose my parent's respect but I can see that I need to be my own person.
When I look back on my life I recognise that I've always been the 'giver'; apart from what my parents have given me I've never taken anything or really been given anything. I've spent my whole time running round after other people and looking after them and supporting them, both at work and socially.
Recently though I've removed myself from the game. I'm not playing anymore, I'm not competing anymore. I bother with the people who are worth it. I even have a longer goal of a career change - everyone is nagging me about getting promoted but that's not actually what I want to do!
I'm doing things my way - which kind of involves not doing things, which is how I like it!
FallenAngelWOOT FallenAngelWOOT
31-35, F
8 Responses Jan 15, 2012

I know that struggle well and still battle it, but it's becoming easier each day that I do it well. I hope things are going well for you.

I like your post. I feel the same way as you do in some respects at least. <br />
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Yeah you deserve to be yourself and to be happy in being yourself. <br />
You dont need to conform to what others expect of you and you dont <br />
need to spend all you time on others while neglecting yourself. <br />
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You deserve to be happy and you deserve to be unique and to have <br />
your own opinions and make your own choices and be who you are. <br />
Dont let people push you around in life.

ty :)

There's nothing wrong with being a giver and taking care of people. That's a very positive trait. The trick is knowing when to stop and prvent people taking advantage of you. <br />
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This comment stood out for me: <br />
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"My parents opinions and approval have always mattered strongly to me and I'd never want to lose my parent's respect but I can see that I need to be my own person."<br />
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I read that as you feeling that if you don't act subservient to you they withdraw affection and approval. They are your parents and should respect you and your choices as a grown adult, regardless of whether or not they agree with them and you should be empowered by them, not held back :)

I believe in Jesus Christ as my Savior and creator of all there is in life. (According to the Bible in Genesis 1:1; and Genesis 1:26) God created us in His image and each of us is unique even as our thumb prints are unique. God does not expect us to live for anyone except for Him. When we believe in Him and allow His word to rule our lives, we are free to be who He made us to be. We can then love others and do stuff for them not because we are compelled to, but because we love to. There is true liberty in that.

its time to do what you want good luck xo

wow! what determination you have. For some us us, we want the same thing but sometimes it's hard to be yourself and ignore other people's opinion. Good on you, hope for the rest of us will have enough courage like you to be ourselves.

Angels always lead you down the right path

*skips down the path behind you*

I am leading you the right way......sprinkles angel dust for you to follow

gain your own respect! be happy within yourself by being true to yourself. then everything that follows will be right.