Unedited Me...

I have spent a lot of my life trying to please others. Be the dutiful daughter, loving girlfriend, supportive sister. A good friend, helpful colleague...the list could go on forever. There comes a point though where you have to say enough is enough.

You could spend your life trying to please other people, to look good in their eyes and be accepted into their world, but is it worth it if you are constantly having to play a part? Put on a persona that isn't who you truly are?

You end up playing so many different roles, putting on so many outward appearances to fit with whoever you are trying to impress at the time, that you completely lose the person you are. And if you get to a point where you don't want to be in your own company because you have allowed yourself to change to suit someone else's agenda- you have a massive issue.

There are times in life where you have to put on a front, to protect yourself and be what you need to be in that particular moment. But there should be no times where you compromise yourself and what you believe in to please another person.

People come and go in your life, the only person you have no choice but to be around no matter what, is yourself. And if you aren't true to yourself, how are you ever going to find people who will accept you fully? Don't you get tired of playing the part?

After weeks of uncertainty, and years of past regrets, I have decided that I am going to be myself. The unedited version. I don't expect it to be easy, as there is always going to be a part of me that longs to be accepted by people, and will want to play the part for a while in order to fit in. Having said this, I am tired of always pleasing others to the detriment of myself.

At the end of the day, I have to be happy with the decisions I make in life, and I have to live with whatever I do. So I am going to be true to myself. Afterall....

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7 Responses Feb 2, 2013

How do you control the part of you that "longs to be accepted by people?"

i give you credit, ive spend many years people pleasing in my life that i am not sure if i have a true identity now...

words to live by.. "be true to myself"

I often feel the exact same way you do. I'm glad you have found the strength to be strong and make yourself happy. After all, if you can't make yourself happy, no one else will. *hugs*

Feel like a doormat sometimes too, know how it feels. Also realized, that it can't go on like that anymore and that I have to fight back and be happy. I'm glad you also got that, hope everything works out for you. Hugs xxx

Very inspiring I want to stop being a sap a doormat trying to please everybody else so they'll like me - I just want to be me :)

Well-written. Only thing, I hope you don't go to the other extreme, of being harsh, provocative, or 'care a damn', or unempathetic. Somewhere in the middle must be a good thing, I guess.